Why do you do it.

[Devos]

Intimacy devoid relationship - 2 yrs and counting without any sex or real intimacy and past 5 years you could count on one hand.
Started out bonking like rabbits, but all changed once a kid arrived. Which to be honest seems all too common due to PND, stress, time poor, hormonal changes etc. so I guess totally understandable, but it’s a big part of me to have that intimacy and to have it missing drives me to depression.

Had counselling, expressed my feelings to no avail. Resigned myself to it never getting better but too weak to go through the whole divorce thing again and the impact on my child and financially would ruin me.

So I punt when I can afford to, sscratch that itch and remain sane. Otherwise I would have hung myself long ago.

I question myself often, that if the intimacy in the relationship returns, will I still stray? I honestly don’t know, but do feel there would be a risk from wanting variety that I’ve now become accustomed too. Ironically I tend to seek WL that offer a similar resemblance to my wife. I guess so I can imagine making love to her.

Sad I know, and the solution I know, but despite this I don’t have the balls to change my life. One day I’ll probably get caught and it will be changed for me. I don’t feel good about cheating and to be honest it really gets to me that so do, but I feel totally empty without a woman’s touch and for me it’s a need and not a want.

F...ked up situation that I’m sure many on here also struggle with.

I would have never strayed if the intimacy within my relationship remained to some extent, even if a trickle.

Man, is like you've just written a story about my life,
how did you know?

 

[Wonderworld1983]

short company, stress free, economy, relief ...

 

[Numpty]

The thrill of intimacy with a complete stranger.
As I get older I enjoy it, just try to choose carefully

 

[roger166]

Intimacy devoid relationship - 2 yrs and counting without any sex or real intimacy and past 5 years you could count on one hand.
Started out bonking like rabbits, but all changed once a kid arrived. Which to be honest seems all too common due to PND, stress, time poor, hormonal changes etc. so I guess totally understandable, but it’s a big part of me to have that intimacy and to have it missing drives me to depression.

Had counselling, expressed my feelings to no avail. Resigned myself to it never getting better but too weak to go through the whole divorce thing again and the impact on my child and financially would ruin me.

So I punt when I can afford to, sscratch that itch and remain sane. Otherwise I would have hung myself long ago.

I question myself often, that if the intimacy in the relationship returns, will I still stray? I honestly don’t know, but do feel there would be a risk from wanting variety that I’ve now become accustomed too. Ironically I tend to seek WL that offer a similar resemblance to my wife. I guess so I can imagine making love to her.

Sad I know, and the solution I know, but despite this I don’t have the balls to change my life. One day I’ll probably get caught and it will be changed for me. I don’t feel good about cheating and to be honest it really gets to me that so do, but I feel totally empty without a woman’s touch and for me it’s a need and not a want.

F...ked up situation that I’m sure many on here also struggle with.

I would have never strayed if the intimacy within my relationship remained to some extent, even if a trickle.

I feel you brother.

 

[generichuman]

Similar to a lot of guys, I had a long term relationship end in divorce. I haven't met anyone I'd be open to starting another relationship with, and WL's help fill the need for physical intimacy in between the hookup droughts.

It's nice knowing that sex is on the table and having someone focused on your pleasure. It takes a lot of the pressure off and just lets me have fun.

Sadly, I can't really afford it as a regular habit, so it's only once every few months for me, if that.

 

[Numpty]

The thrill of intimacy with a complete stranger.
As I get older I enjoy it, just try to choose carefully

Once the experience works out it does result in repeat visits though

 

[Marshmam]

Intimacy devoid relationship - 2 yrs and counting without any sex or real intimacy and past 5 years you could count on one hand.
Started out bonking like rabbits, but all changed once a kid arrived. Which to be honest seems all too common due to PND, stress, time poor, hormonal changes etc. so I guess totally understandable, but it’s a big part of me to have that intimacy and to have it missing drives me to depression.

Had counselling, expressed my feelings to no avail. Resigned myself to it never getting better but too weak to go through the whole divorce thing again and the impact on my child and financially would ruin me.

So I punt when I can afford to, sscratch that itch and remain sane. Otherwise I would have hung myself long ago.

I question myself often, that if the intimacy in the relationship returns, will I still stray? I honestly don’t know, but do feel there would be a risk from wanting variety that I’ve now become accustomed too. Ironically I tend to seek WL that offer a similar resemblance to my wife. I guess so I can imagine making love to her.

Sad I know, and the solution I know, but despite this I don’t have the balls to change my life. One day I’ll probably get caught and it will be changed for me. I don’t feel good about cheating and to be honest it really gets to me that so do, but I feel totally empty without a woman’s touch and for me it’s a need and not a want.

F...ked up situation that I’m sure many on here also struggle with.

I would have never strayed if the intimacy within my relationship remained to some extent, even if a trickle.

My life right there aswell. The same thinking mindset too.

Lets get through this together and all others in the similar experiences.

Enjoy life what it should be!

 

[AlwaysUp]

Wow! Great questioning and deep in thoughts!

For me, contentedly married, although in a sexless marriage. I have a libido of a crazed rabbit, my Mrs would be happy to shag once a leap year!

I think that she would kill me if she knew.

I work in a high stress/ pressure environment, money is never the issue. I am fortunate that I can visit Langtrees/ AMPs 2-3 time with out denting the finances.

I have thought about Tinder/ Grinder but never ventured. I find that, not always, that girls develop an emotional attachment, for me, SEX is just that, SEX. A release. I don't want any emotional strings attached or potential blackmail.

As my best friend and accountant would say to me, it's always cheaper by the hour.

Happy punting!

 

[TicKS]

Intimacy devoid relationship - 2 yrs and counting without any sex or real intimacy and past 5 years you could count on one hand.
Started out bonking like rabbits, but all changed once a kid arrived. Which to be honest seems all too common due to PND, stress, time poor, hormonal changes etc. so I guess totally understandable, but it’s a big part of me to have that intimacy and to have it missing drives me to depression.

Had counselling, expressed my feelings to no avail. Resigned myself to it never getting better but too weak to go through the whole divorce thing again and the impact on my child and financially would ruin me.

So I punt when I can afford to, sscratch that itch and remain sane. Otherwise I would have hung myself long ago.

I question myself often, that if the intimacy in the relationship returns, will I still stray? I honestly don’t know, but do feel there would be a risk from wanting variety that I’ve now become accustomed too. Ironically I tend to seek WL that offer a similar resemblance to my wife. I guess so I can imagine making love to her.

Sad I know, and the solution I know, but despite this I don’t have the balls to change my life. One day I’ll probably get caught and it will be changed for me. I don’t feel good about cheating and to be honest it really gets to me that so do, but I feel totally empty without a woman’s touch and for me it’s a need and not a want.

F...ked up situation that I’m sure many on here also struggle with.

I would have never strayed if the intimacy within my relationship remained to some extent, even if a trickle.

Mate, don’t be down on yourself too much. If this is what it takes to keep you breathing it’s what is needed.

 

[Uncle Bobby]

As a new user I am curious as to why we use WLs. Is it just for physical use or a bad sexless relationship at home or maybe just for company. I am interested to hear others thoughts.

L

sex addict

 

[sludgie]

Wow! Great questioning and deep in thoughts!

For me, contentedly married, although in a sexless marriage. I have a libido of a crazed rabbit, my Mrs would be happy to shag once a leap year!

I think that she would kill me if she knew.

I work in a high stress/ pressure environment, money is never the issue. I am fortunate that I can visit Langtrees/ AMPs 2-3 time with out denting the finances.

I have thought about Tinder/ Grinder but never ventured. I find that, not always, that girls develop an emotional attachment, for me, SEX is just that, SEX. A release. I don't want any emotional strings attached or potential blackmail.

As my best friend and accountant would say to me, it's always cheaper by the hour.

Happy punting!

Your accountant is correct. I worked out that after paying out my ex for the divorce with the money I paid her I could have visited 2 girls per week for at least 20 years and still have change

 

[AlwaysUp]

Your accountant is correct. I worked out that after paying out my ex for the divorce with the money I paid her I could have visited 2 girls per week for at least 20 years and still have change

A million dollar separation, OUCH!

 

[AxeMan]

Do it because, well, you don't eat the same dinner every night...

 

[Christian Wolff]

Wow! Great questioning and deep in thoughts!

For me, contentedly married, although in a sexless marriage. I have a libido of a crazed rabbit, my Mrs would be happy to shag once a leap year!

I think that she would kill me if she knew.

I work in a high stress/ pressure environment, money is never the issue. I am fortunate that I can visit Langtrees/ AMPs 2-3 time with out denting the finances.

I have thought about Tinder/ Grinder but never ventured. I find that, not always, that girls develop an emotional attachment, for me, SEX is just that, SEX. A release. I don't want any emotional strings attached or potential blackmail.

As my best friend and accountant would say to me, it's always cheaper by the hour.

Happy punting!

Fishing boats are like women
They’re better if you rent them by the hour

 

[sludgie]

A million dollar separation, OUCH!

Your calculations for the girls was a bit high however fairly close and I said a lot more than OUCH when it all happened

 

[AlwaysUp]

Your calculations for the girls was a bit high however fairly close and I said a lot more than OUCH when it all happened

You sounded like a classy guy and didn't want to cheapen your potential experience

 

[User184]

cPTSD and resulting aversion to sex. Use WL to fulfill what needs and desires I do have as I live a lonely hermit lifestyle.

 

[sludgie]

You sounded like a classy guy and didn't want to cheapen your potential experience

 

[baal6007]

Similar story to others, married the wrong woman. Nasty divorce, no desire to enter a relationship again but still have needs.

 

[Happy_Punter_2010]

For me it's variety and knowing during the booking the lady is focused on me and my pleasure.

To all the working ladies in the Perth industry thank you for doing what you do. Mwah x

 

[AlwaysUp]

Because I am a filthy kinky dirty minded soul, that has too much money & too much free time to conjure up more kink and booking ideas... My duty on Earth is to please women, before I trondle off to the big brothel in the sky!

I love the fact that you think you are going to heaven! *delusional thinking* I have seen your posts, the devil needs you downstairs to teach more lessons!

 

[Phoebe]

I love the fact that you think you are going to heaven! *delusional thinking* I have seen your posts, the devil needs you downstairs to teach more lessons!

"Mission Accomplished".

 

[JosephBroseph]

Convenience, single and not looking for a relationship either so it's a lot easier for me to go to amp joints than going out to meet women and work on something just to fulfil that need every now and then. I'm a lot shorter on time than money.

 

[sunyun]

Similar to a lot of guys, I had a long term relationship end in divorce. I haven't met anyone I'd be open to starting another relationship with, and WL's help fill the need for physical intimacy in between the hookup droughts.

It's nice knowing that sex is on the table and having someone focused on your pleasure. It takes a lot of the pressure off and just lets me have fun.

Sadly, I can't really afford it as a regular habit, so it's only once every few months for me, if that.

This is me exactly !

 

[Andrew TS]

I’m not married, I’m single in my late 40’s and found out at a early age I cannot produce children. I will happily admit I have a problem with needing sexy time with a lady at least a few times when I’m home from work (it used to be a lot more but my budget won’t stretch that far) I’m addicted. I need the mental stimulation of licking pussy before sex and touching her boobs and skin. I guess it confirms with me that I’ve still got it. I love variety and I’m always respectful and a gentleman to the ladies I see. I will buy them gifts and some I just hang out with and go to dinner. I’ve tried to curve my addiction but I just can’t. So this is why I do it.

 

[Dans]

Like a few others in a marriage where there’s been no intimacy for quite a few years (5 plus).
Not even a kiss or a cuddle. I’m sleeping in the spare room in a kids bed. Why am I still there ? Simple, my kids. They are my world and I still get to see them everyday.
Could I have an affair ?I don’t think I can, because of the guilt and wanting to spend time with my kids. This way, even though I feel guilty it’s considerably less and for an hour I can try to forget everything whilst in the company of a lady.

 

[AlwaysUp]

Like a few others in a marriage where there’s been no intimacy for quite a few years (5 plus).
Not even a kiss or a cuddle. I’m sleeping in the spare room in a kids bed. Why am I still there ? Simple, my kids. They are my world and I still get to see them everyday.
Could I have an affair ?I don’t think I can, because of the guilt and wanting to spend time with my kids. This way, even though I feel guilty it’s considerably less and for an hour I can try to forget everything whilst in the company of a lady.

I feel you brother Dan! Here's a bro hug going your way.

It's hard when there's kids involve, I too would question whether I would be there minus the kids.

 

[Tucson2470]

I’m not married, I’m single in my late 40’s and found out at a early age I cannot produce children. I will happily admit I have a problem with needing sexy time with a lady at least a few times when I’m home from work (it used to be a lot more but my budget won’t stretch that far) I’m addicted. I need the mental stimulation of licking pussy before sex and touching her boobs and skin. I guess it confirms with me that I’ve still got it. I love variety and I’m always respectful and a gentleman to the ladies I see. I will buy them gifts and some I just hang out with and go to dinner. I’ve tried to curve my addiction but I just can’t. So this is why I do it.

Are there many ladies out there that are happy to just go out for dinner/drinks? That is something I really miss doing since becoming single again. I have not dated for over 30 yrs and am finding this whole online dating thing very difficult. You will start chatting with a lady and next thing you know you just get no response, I don’t know what I am doing wrong or if I am doing anything wrong
the last time I dated they were in person, if they were not interested they would tell you, and walk away it was obvious then now it’s a guessing game. So now I see ladies to get the intimacy that I have been missing for years, I tend to book longer times, 2hrs would normally be short for me, 4hrs would be the average time I book.

 

[Dans]

I feel you brother Dan! Here's a bro hug going your way.

It's hard when there's kids involve, I too would question whether I would be there minus the kids.

Thank you mate - really do appreciate the what you say. Just so conflicted all the time, thoughts whirling around in my head. just to be held, cuddled, kissed would be nice but the guilt !

 

[sludgie]

Are there many ladies out there that are happy to just go out for dinner/drinks? That is something I really miss doing since becoming single again. I have not dated for over 30 yrs and am finding this whole online dating thing very difficult. You will start chatting with a lady and next thing you know you just get no response, I don’t know what I am doing wrong or if I am doing anything wrong
the last time I dated they were in person, if they were not interested they would tell you, and walk away it was obvious then now it’s a guessing game. So now I see ladies to get the intimacy that I have been missing for years, I tend to book longer times, 2hrs would normally be short for me, 4hrs would be the average time I book.

Absolutely agree with you Tuscon, the dinner and drinks plus concerts etc it is nice to have company. As for the dating sites you are not alone, I also have the problem with conversation then nothing and when you meet some of them you realize the photo was taken 10 years ago or they expect you to look after them etc.