Cheating

[THRUSTMASTER5000]

Ive found even ive been able to chase a few sheillas in my time, one girl who was 23 had a husband who was 55 and a stepdaugher who was 30, she was a grandmother at 23, so i guess you can call me a Granny F$%&er. Oh the great times ive had, her husband worked in south america, for 3 months at a time so it was quite fun. Apparently the old bloke couldnt get an erection or something HAHAHA, never had those troubles, I just think of the Shelby and how im going to save a 10nth of the quarter mile and i last all night. But i guess im getting side tracked. Damm Supersnake, i better put her in the garage its getting late.

 

[LouiseT]

I think that women probably do cheat as much as men. But i dont think most men cheat at every oppertunity. I hope not anyway!

If you dont want to be in an exclusive, monogamous relationship then dont get into one, or leave the one you are in. Like poeple have already said, it is the lieing that hurts. It's not nice to knowingly hurt someone, especially someone who trusts you.

 

[forest]

So, choices you make as a teen/twenty should rule the rest of your life, leaving no room for growth or change? Or just leave if you want to change?? What if you are still in love, have children, a real life together?

Humans, especially women, are into ownership, if they own you they can be happy for years but if they find a lie in those twenty, happy years the whole thing is ruined and all is shit, and the 20 happy years never happened.

 

[Max1955]

I've never bee married, and the longest relationshi I had was 5 months (and that was on-again-off-again), and have to admit, the one thing that has possibly prevented me getting into long term relationships over the years is that fear that I may get married to someone I really like, then one day meet the "girl of my dreams".

I agree with LouiseT, long term relationships aren't for everyone, so if you're not the type, don't do it. If you can't respect yourself, then at least try to respect the other person.

 

[THRUSTMASTER5000]

Im in a relationship with a 25 yo girl who married this Balding middle aged man who for some reason thought it would be cool to shave his head, grow a long beard and start wearing flanelette shirts. He works up north and i have his wife every day 3 weeks on 1 week off,for the last 2 years. and the guy cant get a hard on-what a Looser. Its pathetic I am doing this girl a service. Feel the Thrust Baby yeah

 

[LouiseT]

So, choices you make as a teen/twenty should rule the rest of your life, leaving no room for growth or change? Or just leave if you want to change?? What if you are still in love, have children, a real life together?

I think that if you are really in love the you should be able to be honest. A real life together shouldnt involve big lies. Maybe im being idealistic. Im just thinking of the way i would like to be treated, and i hope id be able to be open an honest too.

But im not in love and dont have children and havent ever been with someone for 20 years so i dont know what thats like either.

I'm sorry if i offended anyone, it really wasnt my intention. It just my own opinion

 

[Max1955]

I don't think you offended anyone. This is a forum, a place where we all offer our opinions. They are neither right notr wrong, they are our thoughts, and it's good to hear them. Pretty boring forum if evryone had the same opinios, don't you think?

As it turns out, I agree with what you said

Cheers

 

[forest]

LouiseT, certainly no offense taken, I think you were being idealistic and that is sort of sweet.

But the thing is, everyone makes mistakes, it's only human, most will lie to cover mistakes, that not right but it is very human. I was just trying to say is nothing is black and white.

 

[LouiseT]

Yes it would be pretty boring without opposing opinions! Thanks for the comments about mine

I do get that everyone makes mistakes and we all lie. There's not really an easy answer when marriage and kids are involved i guess. I hope that in the future i will be able to stick to everything iv said

 

[Max1955]

I guess I have a simplistic, some may say unrealistic, attitude to the whole infidelity thing. Once again, this is possibly born from the fact I have never really been in a serious long term relationship.

I hold the opinion that it's all about trust, and trust comes from respect. I could never be in a relationship with someone who has broken that trust. The moment I found out my partner had been unfaithful, that would be the end of it. If there were kids involved, obviously that would be something that needed to be addressed, but the bottom line is without trust, a relationship has nothing.

I realise we are all human, and made of flesh with carnal desires, but in my book, the moment you begin to crave the affection of another, then your relationship is dommed to failure.

 

[WayneRoberts1977]

both cheat just as often, men just get caught more often

 

[Meaningless]

Well I have cheated on nearly every long term partner I have had, often at the prompting of the partner, so I am not sure if that is cheating. I never quite cheated on my husband, mainly because when I asked at the beginning of the relationship he said no and the guy I tried to cheat with was too noble. I have the belief that humans have not evolved as monogamous creatures and if we accepted that we would all be much happier.

 

[ethnhwkk]

I have the belief that humans have not evolved as monogamous creatures and if we accepted that we would all be much happier.

Could not agree with you more. I believe its a fact.
Its all great to say if you cannot be faithful dont enter in to a relationship. A lot of people when they enter in to a relation/marraige do it in good faith. but some time later things change .....you may still love your partner/wife+kids etc ...still ..things change ...

 

[Walshy]

i thnki itd be about the same on both sides to be honest. but there are all sorts of different factors which can contribute to cheating

 

[Spank_Master]

Well I have cheated on nearly every long term partner I have had, often at the prompting of the partner, so I am not sure if that is cheating. I never quite cheated on my husband, mainly because when I asked at the beginning of the relationship he said no and the guy I tried to cheat with was too noble. I have the belief that humans have not evolved as monogamous creatures and if we accepted that we would all be much happier.

Meaningless ... i don't think it is cheating if you partner prompts you to, that is just him wanting you to have sex with other men..

I agree that we have not evolved as monogamous creatures and for many reasons some societies just expect it that way..

Some are better at it that others, you, like me, are not .. I can live quite happily with that

 

[sglen82]

of course they sleep around, its human nature!!!

 

[kzzkzz]

both are just as bad !!@#!@

 

[Curious1]

Just a question.....
Do we cheat because we need more sex than we are getting at home?
or
Do we cheat because we are not getting what we need at home?
or
Do we cheat because its riskier, therefore better sex?

 

[Rancorel]

Most interesting thread I've read in months. For months it just seemed like desperate guys wanting a root. I've got an engagement ring on layby and pick up next week. The whole marriage concept has been warped and manipulated. Statistics and poles saying that marriages these days don't work. Should you not strive to find happiness through romance? There's so many thoughts running through my head and quite frankly cheating wasn't there. Am I turning a blind eye to reality? Can I see the marriage im about to propose going the distance?, I sure hope so! Sounds like most people here have been hurt in relationships. If you have gone through the entire marriage procedure. Where did the hope, love and trust go? Did you forget? It must have been there to begin with? Reality is people have less respect for everything than ever before. They don't respect their own feelings let alone somebody else's. Reason's and excuses don't factor into cheating. It is a personal choice and often just taking advantage of someone at a particular time. I'm now dribbling shit but I'm still going to propose and I prefer my reality over anyone else's lol
PS. I have cheated before in another relationship.

 

[ceeya400]

[QUOTE Bring girls home to share! If people werent so possessive over their partners, I think that there'd be a lot less cheating/ relationship problems.[/QUOTE]

Totally agree. I am a W/L and do have a boyfriend. I think its only fair that i allow him to see other gals too. But as i am open about myself working he should be open as well if he wants to see othe working gals. It works so we are both cheating i guess.

 

[Bluegrass9]

Cheating? I am not sure if having only one love is natural.
I have been happily married for thirty four years but every day I see a female I would love to have sex with. Yes just pure lust!
I realize it is not good for our society having all men with this attitude. However I do have control and think before I do ever let my lust have its fill.
:walk:

 

[Miranda Fox]

Do women cheat on men, as much as men cheat on women ?

How would we really know the answer to this ???

Rancorel good on you, for romancing and going for the old fashioned way, good luck man.
Bluegrass, you may have been married for 34 yrs but are you really happy ?
You see females you would like to have sex with ..... well that is nature and why us Ladies are out there for men like you.
Just maybe you are not getting the love and affection and sex that you used to get at Home ????

 

[asianguy77]

I'm sure some punters, who use the services of WL/escort are married or in long term relationships.

From a different angle to my other post, about what if you found out your girl was a WL, from a punters perspective, how do you think your partner/girl would feel/react if she discovered you were visiting WL/escort?

Would she leave you or would she forgive and stay on the condition you cease your punting?

 

[Saige]

turning the tables, well done!! These threads are going to be very interesting

 

[Perth boy]

Ok on the other post I said honisty is the key to a good relationship. Well Im going to shoot myself in the foot but I would not tell my partner I see a W/L.
It would be the end of a great relationship.

Good thread Asian guy

 

[asianguy77]

Ok on the other post I said honisty is the key to a good relationship. Well Im going to shoot myself in the foot but I would not tell my partner I see a W/L.
It would be the end of a great relationship.

Good thread Asian guy

LOL, why the double standards? JK Yes, but I'm sure it wouldn't go down too well with honesty in this situation

 

[Perth boy]

Double standard yes but if my partner was a working girl she would be doing it all the time with LOTS guys. I on the other had have only been a handful of time. More of a R&T guy.
No that doesnt make it write I know its still double standards. LOL

My excuse if caught would be well I dont get a lot at home and better this way with no emotions and falling for another girl.

 

[sexycrystal]

look its a hard one , don't ever tell your lady you punt it do more harm than good, .

And in the past I have myself ended up dating a client if I am to be honist , its hard not to fall for clients when you have the conection.

I ended up getting my heart broken not because of him punting or me working.

Because he new what I already did for a job .. and in saying that it did take the pressure off and was a relief that I did not have to live a lie .

But real life is not a fairy tail and it all went to shit ,

 

[Buzz]

thought provoking.
are we meant to have just one person in our lives?
I think there needs to be separation between a loving relationship.... (or just relationship) and sex

 

[sexycrystal]

thought provoking.
are we meant to have just one person in our lives?
I think there needs to be separation between a loving relationship.... (or just relationship) and sex

Yes I agree you can't eat steak every night of the week sometimes you might feel like a bit of chicken lol:icon_blow