Personally I would prefer I didn't know if there was a partner somewhere on the scene, being the overly alert and suspiciuos person that I am I would constantly be asking myself "why" such is the situation.
But then again, the above is based on my old-fashioned opinion that it is a mans job to support, provide and protect his partner. I wont voice my opinions of what I think of the fellas who sit at home and live off their WL partners, as that is just my opinion..