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what were your overall thoughts on this ad?

  • did you look at the pictures attached?

    Votes: 4 80.0%

  • Do you think the advertiser is genuine?

    Votes: 4 80.0%

  • How long have you been a member?

    Votes: 2 40.0%

  • Are you in Perth?

    Votes: 4 80.0%
  • Total voters
    5
  • Poll closed .
I generally expect any ad asking for a deposit is a scam, particularly on locanto, but wondered if anyone might have any insight.

The link is broken so has been removed
 
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Number isn't registered for PayID so I would wonder how they want you to pay the deposit. Certainly a bit suspicious
 
Beachtowel said:
Suicide in men pretty much matches women killed by their partners.

Sometimes the emotional abuse delived by women is just as bad as the physical abuse by men. Just one is seen and measured while the other not so much.

I know many will disagree but each sex has their strengths and weaknesses.
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This is bad way of looking at things.

Yes, the male suicide rate is high but it's not mostly married men. Its mostly single men who never been in a relationship and have had difficult personal lives/careers.

I'm not discounting the emotional abuse some women dish out, but you need to understand that trying to tie that and DV incidents and deaths essentially pushes the blame on many innocent women who were killed by their partners instead of the partners who KILL the one they "love".

In a vast majority of the cases, the women killed in these DV incidents are repeat victims. Meaning there was a history of violence from their partner, and either they weren't able to make it out in time or were trapped with the person who would eventually kill them.
 
Love.oz said:
I contacted her and she says she doesn't do any sensual or extras!!
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and that's why YMMV .. faceless mob# asking too many Qus .. 🤖

FYI, I never ask until I see the person face2face.
Did you think to ask yurself why would she say Yes, when she has never met yu .. hasn't any real idea who or what you are , and could be asking the same qu at her end .." what's HE look like ? "
She advertises as legit so go with that in mind , or don't go. 🤷
 
mrys said:
Admin please delete if you would prefer as I will understand. To say I'm ashamed with some of my gender is an understatement. How the f*ck have 28 women been killed so far this year by their partners? I don't have any answers to what drives a man to take his partners life because he's pissed off and unable to process his own insecurity. How has it morphed from men being strong, willing and engaged family protectors to some men being so embittered that they kill the very person they love? Instead of men wanting to control others perhaps they need to focus on controlling themselves first, or have we lost the essence of being men?
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It’s bad but remember there’s two sides to every story. Women being murdered is terrible but in humans inside every man is a killer instinct and in every woman is a whore instinct.
 
doob said:
Be careful what you write in public. You're talking about an accused with alleged bikie connections.
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There's no place in the universe for those lowlifes at all. If only we were actually allowed to take things in our own hands and show them where they belong.
 
Something all people have to ask ourselves. If we wouldn't do that to siblings or kin, why would we do that elsewhere? And vice-versa.

 
James3006 said:
Haven’t been paying much attention to history or human behaviour have you?
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History is full of men and women who are prepared to sacrifice their own lives to protect others. Maybe you're reading the wrong books?
 
mrys said:
Admin please delete if you would prefer as I will understand. To say I'm ashamed with some of my gender is an understatement. How the f*ck have 28 women been killed so far this year by their partners? I don't have any answers to what drives a man to take his partners life because he's pissed off and unable to process his own insecurity. How has it morphed from men being strong, willing and engaged family protectors to some men being so embittered that they kill the very person they love? Instead of men wanting to control others perhaps they need to focus on controlling themselves first, or have we lost the essence of being men?
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Drugs & alcohol
 
mrys said:
History is full of men and women who are prepared to sacrifice their own lives to protect others. Maybe you're reading the wrong books?
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I am quite ignorant in this area. I agree that men sacrifice their lives but I have no knowledge of women doing so. As an example, women fled Ukraine when the war broke out. Young and old men stayed behind to fight/die. Men are expendable.

Another case in point. Some years ago I was chilling at the beach. A mum and dad were sunbathing on the beach while their kid played in the water. A strong wave came in and pulled the kid out. It was the man who bolted and retrieved his kid while the mother, fully aware of what happened at the same time as the man, continued to lay in her beach towel. Didn't even budge. Men are protectors and defenders by nature. Women are supposed to be nurturers but I am seeing this role diminish in women more and more and taken up by men. I have other examples as a first hand witness but I think you get the gist.
 
Terminator said:
Drugs & alcohol
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Yep, a big factor indeed. And guess who picked those guys while poindexter was overlooked?

I'll share a story. My sister fell over head over heels for a burly good looking dude. Broad shoulders and killer smile kind of guy. The kind of guy who could pick up a chic without blinking while the rest of us blokes have to pay ;). I knew the guy and knew he was a playboy and temperamental, not the kind my sister would have wanted. I warned and pleaded with her it wasn't going to work out, but you know, love and all.

Long story short, they got married and began to have problems. She would call me in the middle of the night because they had a fight. On one such occasion, I went to pick her up. She wouldn't let me past the front door but I could see the place was turned upside down. He hadn't touched her but she had thrown shit around. Anyway, I bring her back to my place and give her the spare room. When I woke up in the morning, she was gone and had left a note. She was making excuses for him. She went back. Fast forward, the guy left her hanging and is working overseas banging chicks there. And my sister pleads for him to come back. She basically had to restart her life, get a degree, get a new job etc. I know she secretly longs for them to be together again but the reality is that is not going to happen.
 
johnmatilda said:
Yep, a big factor indeed. And guess who picked those guys while poindexter was overlooked?

I'll share a story. My sister fell over head over heels for a burly good looking dude. Broad shoulders and killer smile kind of guy. The kind of guy who could pick up a chic without blinking while the rest of us blokes have to pay ;). I knew the guy and knew he was a playboy and temperamental, not the kind my sister would have wanted. I warned and pleaded with her it wasn't going to work out, but you know, love and all.

Long story short, they got married and began to have problems. She would call me in the middle of the night because they had a fight. On one such occasion, I went to pick her up. She wouldn't let me past the front door but I could see the place was turned upside down. He hadn't touched her but she had thrown shit around. Anyway, I bring her back to my place and give her the spare room. When I woke up in the morning, she was gone and had left a note. She was making excuses for him. She went back. Fast forward, the guy left her hanging and is working overseas banging chicks there. And my sister pleads for him to come back. She basically had to restart her life, get a degree, get a new job etc. I know she secretly longs for them to be together again but the reality is that is not going to happen.
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Thanks for sharing johnmatilda. It's difficult when you can see what others can't in terms of character assessment of a loved ones partner. What you have described is in part coercive control. Your sister fell for a bad boy. Some women love bad boys and think they can change them to make them better. 95% of the time they will fail, because bad boys don't want to change. But as they fail they become more invested as admitting defeat and leaving would make a nonsense out of all their previous efforts (and even more complicated when children are involved) Your sister sounds like she was lucky to remove herself from that relationship. All power to her that she did a reset. Let hope she finds a nice guy who will genuinely love and care for her.
 
I'm sorry to keep banging on about DV. But it's a men's issue for the most part. Yes our 'relationship roles' are changing as the years progress but that's no excuse for violence towards those we love who have little chance of defending themselves. Words, including mine are cheap. I'm immeasurably sad, disappointed and confused about the behaviour of some of my brothers who lash out rather than talk it out......and walk away if needed. Here is just a thought for you all on TS to consider. TS is about paying for sex for the most part. TS would therefore have some members that are paying for sex because they have unsatisfactory relationships at home. I'm sure 99.9% of those unsatisfactory relationships don't involve DV. It just is what it is and we blokes just need something to make us feel good and SW's do just that! However If there is the 00.1% that are struggling to cope with their relationships and anger maybe we should have a seperate link on here for guys to DM other guys to have a chat. TS is anonymous so there is privacy to message and discuss sensitive stuff. I guess I want to take action, offer support and do something to help. Reading the news every morning to see lives lost to DV can be changed but we all have to help that change.
 
mrys said:
Thanks for sharing johnmatilda. It's difficult when you can see what others can't in terms of character assessment of a loved ones partner. What you have described is in part coercive control. Your sister fell for a bad boy. Some women love bad boys and think they can change them to make them better. 95% of the time they will fail, because bad boys don't want to change. But as they fail they become more invested as admitting defeat and leaving would make a nonsense out of all their previous efforts (and even more complicated when children are involved) Your sister sounds like she was lucky to remove herself from that relationship. All power to her that she did a reset. Let hope she finds a nice guy who will genuinely love and care for her.
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That's it. In so many cases, women choose a fixer upper thinking they can change them. Then it fails and things turn to shit.

Too late for my sister to have the life she wanted. She wanted kids but is now past that age. She has since dated a few guys but she has ninja-warrior-wall requirements for all these nice guys. Requirements she didn't have for the bad boy.

I'm very logical and it's hard to feel sorry for her when all the red flags were present and pointed out. She made her choice and has to live with the consequences, just like the rest of us.
 
johnmatilda said:
That's it. In so many cases, women choose a fixer upper thinking they can change them. Then it fails and things turn to shit.

Too late for my sister to have the life she wanted. She wanted kids but is now past that age. She has since dated a few guys but she has ninja-warrior-wall requirements for all these nice guys. Requirements she didn't have for the bad boy.

I'm very logical and it's hard to feel sorry for her when all the red flags were present and pointed out. She made her choice and has to live with the consequences, just like the rest of us.
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The last part of your comment, please remember when someone is in a abusive relationship it's VERY hard to see things for what they are, completely love bombed followed by becoming trauma bonded and gaslight so much that you genuinely think your the problem, red flags are present and others can see it immediately but when in the situation it's extremely hard to get out. They are extremely manipulative and calculating as well as literally making you believe everything is your fault. It's not always a choice we make.. we are trapped and sometimes getting out is the worst part of all because we know what they are truly capable of. Abuse usually escalates after we leave.. the control they had is being pulled away and they don't like it.. sometimes they feel if they can't have you nobody can, they genuinely believe we have done wrong and they are very very manipulative. Well done to your sister for getting out of the situation
 
johnmatilda said:
That's it. In so many cases, women choose a fixer upper thinking they can change them. Then it fails and things turn to shit.

Too late for my sister to have the life she wanted. She wanted kids but is now past that age. She has since dated a few guys but she has ninja-warrior-wall requirements for all these nice guys. Requirements she didn't have for the bad boy.

I'm very logical and it's hard to feel sorry for her when all the red flags were present and pointed out. She made her choice and has to live with the consequences, just like the rest of us.
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Love is blind and infatuation creates even more tunnel vision. She will find what she seeks in a partner. Most of us do, we just need to modify expectations and discover what we really want in a partner. And that changes from our 20's to 30's to 40's etc......Thankfully :)
 
AmeliaKennedy said:
The last part of your comment, please remember when someone is in a abusive relationship it's VERY hard to see things for what they are, completely love bombed followed by becoming trauma bonded and gaslight so much that you genuinely think your the problem, red flags are present and others can see it immediately but when in the situation it's extremely hard to get out. They are extremely manipulative and calculating as well as literally making you believe everything is your fault. It's not always a choice we make.. we are trapped and sometimes getting out is the worst part of all because we know what they are truly capable of. Abuse usually escalates after we leave.. the control they had is being pulled away and they don't like it.. sometimes they feel if they can't have you nobody can, they genuinely believe we have done wrong and they are very very manipulative. Well done to your sister for getting out of the situation
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Thank you Amelia for sharing. And thank you for being the only lady to share. Lived experiences resonate more than my conjecture. TBH I'm really disappointed that more men haven't joined this discussion. Lot's of post likes but very few comments/contributions. It's time for men to own the bad behaviour of their fellow men. Call it out, help your mates, offer solutions and support. make a difference! Stop men killing their loved ones.
 
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