Listen, if your wife or partner is not putting out at home there may be a reason for that......could be cause she does not feel appreciated, loved or is tired from work and doing house work......fellas girls like to be romanced, made to feel special, made to feel like the most beautiful girl in the world and that you only have eyes for them thats all girls not just married ones but it gets harder when you are married and had kids.....so take the wife out so her some romance or even just help around with the housework and you will be surprised at what can happen
This is a very popular train of thought quoted above, draconian but still regarded as relevant and many people would agree with these ideas, particularly women.
When relationships are new and exciting its easier to go the extra mile and make her feel special, its fun and as stated the rewards are forthcoming however...
Why is it always about what the woman wants and needs? Why isnt it about consideration for the needs of both partners equally?
Given that sexual release appears to be so much more important for the males in our society why is it frowned upon when males seek this outside, particularly if its not available at home regardless of the reasons? If it were equally important for females we would see hundreds of male sex workers advertising to cater for demand, but no it isnt required is it?
Why? I will tell you why, its inequality between the sexes.
Heres a scenario for consideration its one i know well,
What if, as in more modern and less traditional households, the man comes home from slogging his guts out all day in the sun or at the office where ever, physically mentally drained, then he for example-services the nice car he has bought for her,which she cant be bothered washing, fueling up, checking tyres etc she just drives it , then he mows the lawn she asked him to plant, which she cant be stuffed watering, this way he will have more time on the weekend to do all the other jobs she has on her list for him to do, hes such a lazy prick, then he plays with the kids to give her a break, goes inside and cooks cos its his turn then he does a load of his work washing, gets it on the line, does the dishes and helps get the kids to bed, she has had a tough day doing the shopping, cos those coles car parks arent air conditioned you know, and her useless man doesnt treat her right and take her out to nice places enough, so why should she put out for him?
Then out of desperation if he gets hand relief after a massage once every other month or 3, 6 or 12 whatever, to try and help himself cope with the stress hes labelled a cheater? He probably already feels bad enough for a host of possible reasons about having to do this as it is.
This is not equality not even close.
Believe me theres plenty of the above mentioned scenario going on out there, i see it all the time. It cuts both ways or at least it should. Lots of guys i know struggle to get laid at home more than once or twice a month, and they have to bribe their life partner with something nice to get that. That is just wrong on so many levels but completely accepted in our society, it must be, as i hear it so frequently. Its a freakin cliche.
I've never attended sex therapy but you could always try that down the track if you ever have problems again. I've heard it's effective as long as the couple is willing to put in the effort
I actually shared your post with my partner who is a fact sponge and he found it really interesting as well 
