Happy Wife Happy Life

[Max23]

Time will tell whether they remain happily married.

For those who were happily married, I wonder why the marriage failed then. If there are big cash and prizes involved in the divorce, rarely is it amicable unless he is willing to roll over. If the man doesn't have much to his name, there isn't much to fight for hence an amicable separation.

As for bitterness, I am a product of my experiences. I have seen relationships turn nasty come divorce and I am merely spreading the truth of what could mostly happen given that most marriages end in divorce.

You are a product of you experiences. Is that why you want everyone else to be as miserable as you are? Or do you believe that love or companionship doesn't exist because it hasn't happened for you?

Here's the fun thing about humans, we are all different. Not everyone thinks the same way. There hundreds of thousands of different opinions and ways of doing things. For both men and women.

Fun fact: There is nothing objective about human relations or connections. Attraction, companionship, love, etc. are not variables you can plug into an equation and get a marriage.

Lashing out at all women from your divorce isn't healthy or productive for you or those around you. Being consumed by bitterness and resentment doesn't help your circumstances. Infact it can and will make you life more miserable.

 

[Mod7]

This comes off as immature and childish.

You want all the benefits of a marriage without any of the potential downsides from it not working out. You see women not as people, but objects. Robots that you input you own beliefs, whims and needs into.

You want the woman to be a stay at home homemaker and be left with nothing once you've left her on a whim?


You're not trying to educate anyone. You want to poison the well so more people are just as bitter, angry, lonely and pathetic as you are.

Back in the day women could not get divorces, and were seen as mens property. Do you know what they used to do to get out of abusive marriages with shitheads like you? Hint hint, it wasn't great for the man's health.

Well said

 

[chocy]

Time will tell whether they remain happily married.

For those who were happily married, I wonder why the marriage failed then. If there are big cash and prizes involved in the divorce, rarely is it amicable unless he is willing to roll over. If the man doesn't have much to his name, there isn't much to fight for hence an amicable separation.

As for bitterness, I am a product of my experiences. I have seen relationships turn nasty come divorce and I am merely spreading the truth of what could mostly happen given that most marriages end in divorce.

Your misses must hve fucked u over bro!!
Iv never heard someone so passionate in a negative way towards a women.

 

[Mod7]

See my posts at #50 and #51 above. If you agree that 42-43% of marriages (registered) end in divorce then considering married and non-married (defacto/unregistered), then the divorce/separation rate surely has to be well above 50% because defacto has to account for a lot more than 7%. As I said, marriage rates are on the decline while defacto is on the incline which is harder to track but see post #51 above.


College educated women initiate 80% of divorces (US stats, I don't have AU stats but can't be too far off). Wives overwhelmingly benefit the most from divorce (they are awarded custody in 98% of cases, alimony paid in 98% of divorces along with involuntary wealth flow from men to women).

Who can we point the finger to then?

Given the above, I would also like to put the onus on women because if they are not part of the solution to divorce unfairness, then they are part of the problem.

Don't blame me for the above in bold, I am merely taking a leaf out of Isiah McKimmie's article:

https://www.news.com.au/lifestyle/real-life/news-life/as-a-man-would-never-hurt-a-woman-i-feel-attacked/news-story/769ab3f61c4dfa952bc5243e5a6bb0f8

Just a bitter man trying to manipulate stats in other countries to support your personal issues. Leave it alone John, you have tried to make your point but we all understand you have been hurt. After debating the stats you still maintain that all women are the problem. Thats simply not true, just your own experience and the other divorced guys down at the pub. One last point.....if you have experienced this issue several times, have you stopped to think that you are the problem rather than them? That would be a statistically correct assumption. Good night, and I hope your happiness improves.

 

[johnmatilda]

This comes off as immature and childish.

You want all the benefits of a marriage without any of the potential downsides from it not working out. You see women not as people, but objects. Robots that you input you own beliefs, whims and needs into.

You want the woman to be a stay at home homemaker and be left with nothing once you've left her on a whim?


You're not trying to educate anyone. You want to poison the well so more people are just as bitter, angry, lonely and pathetic as you are.

Back in the day women could not get divorces, and were seen as mens property. Do you know what they used to do to get out of abusive marriages with shitheads like you? Hint hint, it wasn't great for the man's health.

Ok lol

Why does a random post not directed at you from a random guy trigger your emotions so much? Are you a divorce lawyer?

It was incumbent upon you to engage in dialogue which is what a forum is about and refute the points made.

You sound like a bully who gets his way by shouting down others people's throats and shutting down opinions and free speech and name calling. Unfortunately it's people like you who make others shy away from expressing their thoughts and opinions.

For the record, I don't want to get married nor have I ever been. I've seen too many men get burned and didn't want to take my chances.

And you are wrong, I don't want women to stay at home. See what I said in my post about both parties being winners. I want them to work just as we do. Sounds like you didn't read my post clearly. Your comment of back in the day is irrelevant. We're living in the present and will in the future. Women now have more opportunities to earn an income and be self sufficient than ever before which is what I advocate for. They are not helpless and delicate that they need to be protected from working.

 

[johnmatilda]

Your misses must hve fucked u over bro!!
Iv never heard someone so passionate in a negative way towards a women.

Never married, never divorced. Happy with my choices compared to the alternative. I love women, just not the institution of marriage and getting the state involved in personal affairs.

 

[johnmatilda]

You are a product of you experiences. Is that why you want everyone else to be as miserable as you are? Or do you believe that love or companionship doesn't exist because it hasn't happened for you?

Here's the fun thing about humans, we are all different. Not everyone thinks the same way. There hundreds of thousands of different opinions and ways of doing things. For both men and women.

Fun fact: There is nothing objective about human relations or connections. Attraction, companionship, love, etc. are not variables you can plug into an equation and get a marriage.

Lashing out at all women from your divorce isn't healthy or productive for you or those around you. Being consumed by bitterness and resentment doesn't help your circumstances. Infact it can and will make you life more miserable.

I'm not miserable unlike the men I've seen taken to the cleaners and barred from seeing their children. On the contrary, I'm very very happy. Companionship exists, but for how long is the question. Most marriages fail.

Yes, everyone is different. Yet most marriages will fail, maybe because the parties are different?

I've never been married. Still very happy.

 

[Max23]

Ok lol

Why does a random post not directed at you from a random guy trigger your emotions so much? Are you a divorce lawyer?

It was incumbent upon you to engage in dialogue which is what a forum is about and refute the points made.

Someone doesn't like being called out for the pathetic and childish worldview they have.

 

[Alana K]

My wife is very happy no sex for 17 years

 

[Alana K]

Yes the wife will be happy with no sex and the husband’s discretion on his business.
Have respect for her by not letting her find out your affairs and that =
happy wife happy life

 

[Alana K]

Yes the wife will be happy with no sex and the husband’s discretion on his business.
Have respect for her by not letting her find out your affairs and that =
happy wife happy life

Hate to say it but it’s just how it is.

 

[Alana K]

Gee now you have a good life. Cheers

Advice taken haha… see I’m a female on the reverse side…
A marriage that financially fucked me and a child involved with him taking control of that so FUCK MARRIAGE

 

[Alana K]

LoL

 

[BlackDagger_Au]

Advice taken haha… see I’m a female on the reverse side…
A marriage that financially fucked me and a child involved with him taking control of that so FUCK MARRIAGE

Thanks for sharing. Works both ways I guess. I did not think this thread would get so many comments. Interesting views from all. I just don't want it getting personal. Thanks Alana

 

[johnmatilda]

Yes the wife will be happy with no sex and the husband’s discretion on his business.
Have respect for her by not letting her find out your affairs

 

[johnmatilda]

Advice taken haha… see I’m a female on the reverse side…
A marriage that financially fucked me and a child involved with him taking control of that so FUCK MARRIAGE

Thanks for sharing! F**k marriage .

 

[johnmatilda]

Yes the wife will be happy with no sex and the husband’s discretion on his business.
Have respect for her by not letting her find out your affairs and that =
happy wife happy life

I think it was Kyle Sandilands that said a man will either empty them balls at home or outside. I'm not one to take away a woman's choice!

 

[Guru54]

To all those who seem to hate marriages and tend to blame the other party: the rule is, there are always two to tango!
I'm divorced twice, first one seemed amicable yet the vindictive ex used our kids to get back at me. Second one took me to the cleaners and as an emotional vampire sucks any positivity out of people.
My epiphany was when I looked at why I got hooked up with those type of vindictive people. It was me, myself and I who was looking for the wrong type. So, if you're a bitter hater, look in the mirror - you don't hate women, you hate yourself - you just blame others, because it is so damn easy. Blame yourself first, change your mindset, be happy with yourself, then you might be open for a good working relationship.
When I took responsibility for my own mistakes rather than always blaming the other party, changed the way I wanted to be treated and treated others the same way I expect others to treat me, life changed. But heck yes, you'd need to want it... if you're happy to be a bitter person, so be it. Just don't always blame others...

Just my thoughts after reading the whole thread in here... and not having a go at specific people!

 

[johnmatilda]

It's often said that:
A woman truly knows a man when she marries him.
A man truly knows a woman when she divorces him.

Often you can't know until things turn upside down.

My ex partner's brother went through a nasty nasty divorce and was taken to the cleaners. So I then asked my ex partner that if we split, whether she would do the same. Her response? "I can't say right now whether I'd do the same."

So if she couldn't say when the times are good, what would she do when things turn bad? Walk away? Needless to say, I exited that relationship before it became defacto, and for other reasons too.

 

[wrb]

I accept you are a product of your experiences, which is the case for all of us. I do, however, respectfully think you need to have another look at your statistics. According to the ABS the total number of marriages in Australia in 2022 (Normalised year post COVID) was 127,161. In the same year Divorces were 44,943. Thats only 35.3%. The rates havent changed much since no cause divorces were introduced.

The married couples that are separated, but not yet officially divorced are not listed. As a lot of couples separate for years before going through the divorce procedure so the true figure will be worse

 

[Tania Smiley]

Wow! That was a bit to read. My hubby and I have been married for over a decade and we are happy. We don't argue. There are times when one or both of us are to tired for sexual intimacy but we do other things together as well. Foreplay isn't just before the act. Foreplay is every day and with how you "both" treat each other. If there is tension ask why? Fix it. To many give up to easy these days. If you want something good, no matter what it is, you have to work at it.

 

[johnmatilda]

Wow! That was a bit to read. My hubby and I have been married for over a decade and we are happy. We don't argue. There are times when one or both of us are to tired for sexual intimacy but we do other things together as well. Foreplay isn't just before the act. Foreplay is every day and with how you "both" treat each other. If there is tension ask why? Fix it. To many give up to easy these days. If you want something good, no matter what it is, you have to work at it.

Agree that both have to work at it but the intent has to be there. I was once told "Our relationship sucks, so what are YOU going to do to fix it?".

Guess what I did? Nothing. And I bailed. Same lady that told me I can go to a hooker (I took her advise) and or use my hands when I tried to initiate intimacy.

 

[johnmatilda]

The married couples that are separated, but not yet officially divorced are not listed. As a lot of couples separate for years before going through the divorce procedure so the true figure will be worse

. Marriage is only deemed to have been forever when at least one of them passes on. For those still alive and still married, it doesn't mean divorce won't happen which is why the number of divorces in any given year is not the same as the divorce rate.

 

[Ninja]

More like Happy Husband happy life. Can't wait until daughter turns 18 so can separate from my negative wife that shits me all the time

 

[georgo]

Wow! That was a bit to read. My hubby and I have been married for over a decade and we are happy. We don't argue. There are times when one or both of us are to tired for sexual intimacy but we do other things together as well. Foreplay isn't just before the act. Foreplay is every day and with how you "both" treat each other. If there is tension ask why? Fix it. To many give up to easy these days. If you want something good, no matter what it is, you have to work at it.

Well said totally agree.

 

[voyuerism]

I should think all the hatred expressed here could be something to do with the meaning of marriage now being a legally agreement , as opposed to a lifelong commitment for the 2 to be as 1. Till death do us part ..

 

[Mod7]

. Marriage is only deemed to have been forever when at least one of them passes on. For those still alive and still married, it doesn't mean divorce won't happen which is why the number of divorces in any given year is not the same as the divorce rate.

Ok John, so where did you get the "over 50 % " statistic that you quoted 3 times in this topic ? And please dont quote me fake stats from Ambulance chasing divorce lawyers. I think you are making uo statistics to argue your case.

More like Happy Husband happy life. Can't wait until daughter turns 18 so can separate from my negative wife that shits me all the time

You want to be VERY careful she doesnt divorce YOU

More like Happy Husband happy life. Can't wait until daughter turns 18 so can separate from my negative wife that shits me all the time

 

[voyuerism]

Advice taken haha… see I’m a female on the reverse side…
A marriage that financially fucked me and a child involved with him taking control of that so FUCK MARRIAGE

So good to hear from the other side, as it were .. TY AlanaK

too sorry to hear your child is being abused ( fucked as you put it )

On a happier note .. please do post your itinerary here on TS when you get your bonking van on the road north

 

[langfordguy82]

There's no such thing as a happy wife lol. They'll always find something to be unhappy about.

 

[langfordguy82]

So good to hear from the other side, as it were .. TY AlanaK

too sorry to hear your child is being abused ( fucked as you put it )

On a happier note .. please do post your itinerary here on TS when you get your bonking van on the road north

I don't see any mention of a child being abused, if the dad was able to get custody then there must have been something pretty bad going on with the mother cos the courts almost never give the dads custody.