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And good luck to all peeps who suffer eh Polkam
Depression......
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With a reply like that are you from chulak ?
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I got rid of the toxic people out of my life, increased the self love and hey presto I felt so much better.
Sir Cruiser
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You are lucky to have achieved that VP, did it take long to "hey presto"
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Within an instant.
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Ahoy My Thanks for everyone who has been supporting this thread, My current Thank-You go To, Mr Cruiser, Mr Obbie, Mr Bepp712 and Mr XLNC. If you wish to have a private chat please contact any person by PM, these guys have a hugh range of experience and knowledge.
Anyway if you feel the need to share a thought please do. Do not feel alone remember depression has no boundaries it effects Men and Women at any age
Ahoy;- Depression, Anixiety, stress
Beyondblue is a great site, information on depression.
Mantherapy is another good site as well.
Most guys will experience some form of depression during there life, a lot of guys do not even understand if they have it.
http://mantherapy.org.au/?gclid=CLex_ues5rwCFcYzpAodqU4AWA
Anyway if you feel the need to share a thought please do. Do not feel alone remember depression has no boundaries it effects Men and Women at any age
Ahoy;- Depression, Anixiety, stress
Beyondblue is a great site, information on depression.
Mantherapy is another good site as well.
Most guys will experience some form of depression during there life, a lot of guys do not even understand if they have it.
http://mantherapy.org.au/?gclid=CLex_ues5rwCFcYzpAodqU4AWA
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That's true but here I feel like I'm amongst friends it's strange how we don't know each other face to face ok some do but it seems as if there is s lot of people who do care about others we are here for you bepp don't forget that
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Just jumped on the forum today after a long day and saw that this thread had been active recently and thought I'd read through.
I think many people have pointed out there are many different ways to deal and many different manifestations of the disease of depression. It's a tough road. I can just speak about my own experiences with true authority.
I think I've probably been depressed for about 25 years. Self-loathing as many people mention, but I was always able to suck it up, push it down and make it to work the next day. When things got to feeling bad, I'd go to a psychologist and then hide my feelings from them (or refuse to confront them about how they didn't understand) and give up. Once, about 15 years ago, I went to a psychiatrist and got medication, took it for five days, hated the side effects and thought meds were for suckers.
Then about three years ago, I started to actually think of my plan for suicide. I had always done casual research, but I was heading down a road where I didn't see any light and those thoughts became much more real. Then, one day I wasn't able to go to work. I couldn't go the next day or the day after. The fourth day, I made it, but I made a doctor's appointment to see why I had no energy. The doctor ran tests and when I came back to visit her, she said my tests were fine. Then, she put down her laptop, looked me square in the eye and said, "I think the problem is that you're depressed."
It hit me like a ton of bricks. Tears started to well up in my eyes because it made so much sense and it felt like a relief. She set me up with a therapist and started me on medications. I started to fight the disease and try to understand it more.
Like I said, it has been three years. I have good days and bad ones. I'm on my third and fourth medications to try to find the cocktail with the least amount of side effects and the most positive results. Today, though long, was a pretty good day, so I feel like writing.
I can offer my PMs to help and to give a sympathetic ear or a sounding board. You can write, and I'll try to respond, but when I get down, sometimes I shut out everything in my world, so I may not be the best resource. (It's also why when I hear, "Call and ask for help," that it isn't necessarily as easy as it sounds to talk when you're in the grips of serious depression. Then if you can't call, you might get down on yourself for not being able to call and it can make things worse. It's tough out there. I have found that if I make plans for my bad days on my good days, I can better respond, but that's just me.)
So, all that said, I figured I would share some of the sources of help that I've found as well as other people that have dealt with depression (and have expressed themselves somewhat elegantly) that I use in addition to therapy, a psychiatrist and medications.
First, I go to a live meeting (as most of the locations are in the U.S. though there are ones in Brazil, China, Greece, Mexico and Singapore) of a DBSA (Depression and Bipolar Support Alliance) support group. The group also offers an online discussion group - http://www.dbsalliance.org/site/PageServer?pagename=peer_OSG You don't have to share, but you can just listen and read about experiences that you have had in other people's stories. Sometimes you may be able to offer your insight about how you felt and dealt with it. Other times, it just feels good to listen and send love to your fellow people.
As far as others go, Rob Delaney (a very funny comedian and a great guy to follow on Twitter) also suffered from depression and wrote about it here - http://robdelaney.tumblr.com/post/414007899/on-depression-getting-help WARNING - it does contain a very frank discussion on suicide, so there could be triggers there. The good part, it's laced with profanity and somewhat funny.
Another funny person that has suffered from depression is Allie Brosh, author of the "Hyperbole and a Half" blog that went on to become a great book. Her post on depression (http://hyperboleandahalf.blogspot.com/2011/10/adventures-in-depression.html) and depression part 2 (http://hyperboleandahalf.blogspot.com/2013/05/depression-part-two.html) capture the feelings of depression quite well and in a darkly humorous way.
However, if I ever have someone that I care about that I want to understand what I think depression is about, I suggest depression comix - http://www.depressioncomix.com/posts/001/ (this link starts at post one.) It's tough to read sometimes, but the author really captures in a short collection of panels published regularly, what depression can feel like and really how I feel and how I hide it and and I listen to those inner thoughts that reinforce depression. Again, WARNING as this one can get into really frank discussions of suicide and self-loathing.
So, there are many people out there and there are many ways to deal with depression. I would advise that you don't close your eyes to any possible solution or close off any offer of assistance because I know I did those things and it may have made my depression longer and stronger and delayed my recovery.
Love you all, good luck in your daily lives and your battles to stay strong and know you are not alone.
I think many people have pointed out there are many different ways to deal and many different manifestations of the disease of depression. It's a tough road. I can just speak about my own experiences with true authority.
I think I've probably been depressed for about 25 years. Self-loathing as many people mention, but I was always able to suck it up, push it down and make it to work the next day. When things got to feeling bad, I'd go to a psychologist and then hide my feelings from them (or refuse to confront them about how they didn't understand) and give up. Once, about 15 years ago, I went to a psychiatrist and got medication, took it for five days, hated the side effects and thought meds were for suckers.
Then about three years ago, I started to actually think of my plan for suicide. I had always done casual research, but I was heading down a road where I didn't see any light and those thoughts became much more real. Then, one day I wasn't able to go to work. I couldn't go the next day or the day after. The fourth day, I made it, but I made a doctor's appointment to see why I had no energy. The doctor ran tests and when I came back to visit her, she said my tests were fine. Then, she put down her laptop, looked me square in the eye and said, "I think the problem is that you're depressed."
It hit me like a ton of bricks. Tears started to well up in my eyes because it made so much sense and it felt like a relief. She set me up with a therapist and started me on medications. I started to fight the disease and try to understand it more.
Like I said, it has been three years. I have good days and bad ones. I'm on my third and fourth medications to try to find the cocktail with the least amount of side effects and the most positive results. Today, though long, was a pretty good day, so I feel like writing.
I can offer my PMs to help and to give a sympathetic ear or a sounding board. You can write, and I'll try to respond, but when I get down, sometimes I shut out everything in my world, so I may not be the best resource. (It's also why when I hear, "Call and ask for help," that it isn't necessarily as easy as it sounds to talk when you're in the grips of serious depression. Then if you can't call, you might get down on yourself for not being able to call and it can make things worse. It's tough out there. I have found that if I make plans for my bad days on my good days, I can better respond, but that's just me.)
So, all that said, I figured I would share some of the sources of help that I've found as well as other people that have dealt with depression (and have expressed themselves somewhat elegantly) that I use in addition to therapy, a psychiatrist and medications.
First, I go to a live meeting (as most of the locations are in the U.S. though there are ones in Brazil, China, Greece, Mexico and Singapore) of a DBSA (Depression and Bipolar Support Alliance) support group. The group also offers an online discussion group - http://www.dbsalliance.org/site/PageServer?pagename=peer_OSG You don't have to share, but you can just listen and read about experiences that you have had in other people's stories. Sometimes you may be able to offer your insight about how you felt and dealt with it. Other times, it just feels good to listen and send love to your fellow people.
As far as others go, Rob Delaney (a very funny comedian and a great guy to follow on Twitter) also suffered from depression and wrote about it here - http://robdelaney.tumblr.com/post/414007899/on-depression-getting-help WARNING - it does contain a very frank discussion on suicide, so there could be triggers there. The good part, it's laced with profanity and somewhat funny.
Another funny person that has suffered from depression is Allie Brosh, author of the "Hyperbole and a Half" blog that went on to become a great book. Her post on depression (http://hyperboleandahalf.blogspot.com/2011/10/adventures-in-depression.html) and depression part 2 (http://hyperboleandahalf.blogspot.com/2013/05/depression-part-two.html) capture the feelings of depression quite well and in a darkly humorous way.
However, if I ever have someone that I care about that I want to understand what I think depression is about, I suggest depression comix - http://www.depressioncomix.com/posts/001/ (this link starts at post one.) It's tough to read sometimes, but the author really captures in a short collection of panels published regularly, what depression can feel like and really how I feel and how I hide it and and I listen to those inner thoughts that reinforce depression. Again, WARNING as this one can get into really frank discussions of suicide and self-loathing.
So, there are many people out there and there are many ways to deal with depression. I would advise that you don't close your eyes to any possible solution or close off any offer of assistance because I know I did those things and it may have made my depression longer and stronger and delayed my recovery.
Love you all, good luck in your daily lives and your battles to stay strong and know you are not alone.
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Very well said mate
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Ahoy;- Garry George McDonald AO (born 30 October 1948) is an Australian stage, film and television actor. He is known for his portrayal of the bawdy Wollongong interviewer and Gold Logie award winning character Norman Gunston and for his role of hapless Arthur Beare in the ABC television sitcom Mother and Son.
Suffering from both depression and anxiety, McDonald talks openly about his condition and has become an advocate. He is a member of the Board of beyondblue, an Australian national depression initiative and serves as patron of the NSW branch of the Anxiety Disorders Foundation of Australia McDonald is quoted in the press discussing a link between his own anxiety and that of his grandfather and mother.
Anyway if you feel the need to share a thought please do. Do not feel alone remember depression has no boundaries it effects Men and Women at any age
Ahoy;- Depression, Anixiety, stress
Beyondblue is a great site, information on depression.
Mantherapy is another good site as well.
Most guys will experience some form of depression during there life,
a lot of guys do not even understand if they have it.
http://mantherapy.org.au/?gclid=CLex_ues5rwCFcYzpAodqU4AWA
Suffering from both depression and anxiety, McDonald talks openly about his condition and has become an advocate. He is a member of the Board of beyondblue, an Australian national depression initiative and serves as patron of the NSW branch of the Anxiety Disorders Foundation of Australia McDonald is quoted in the press discussing a link between his own anxiety and that of his grandfather and mother.
Anyway if you feel the need to share a thought please do. Do not feel alone remember depression has no boundaries it effects Men and Women at any age
Ahoy;- Depression, Anixiety, stress
Beyondblue is a great site, information on depression.
Mantherapy is another good site as well.
Most guys will experience some form of depression during there life,
a lot of guys do not even understand if they have it.
http://mantherapy.org.au/?gclid=CLex_ues5rwCFcYzpAodqU4AWA
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Ahoy; - Anyway Winter has arrived and very soon the financial year will end and hence I thought I would bring out this old Thread...................
Anyway if you feel the need to share a thought please do. Do not feel alone remember depression has no boundaries it effects Men and Women at any age
Ahoy;- Garry George McDonald AO (born 30 October 1948) is an Australian stage, film and television actor. He is known for his portrayal of the bawdy Wollongong interviewer and Gold Logie award winning character Norman Gunston and for his role of hapless Arthur Beare in the ABC television sitcom Mother and Son.
Suffering from both depression and anxiety, McDonald talks openly about his condition and has become an advocate. He is a member of the Board of beyondblue, an Australian national depression initiative and serves as patron of the NSW branch of the Anxiety Disorders Foundation of Australia McDonald is quoted in the press discussing a link between his own anxiety and that of his grandfather and mother.
Depression, Anixiety, stress
Beyondblue is a great site, information on depression.
Mantherapy is another good site as well.
Most guys will experience some form of depression during there life,
a lot of guys do not even understand if they have it.
http://mantherapy.org.au/?gclid=CLex_ues5rwCFcYzpAodqU4AWA
Anyway if you feel the need to share a thought please do. Do not feel alone remember depression has no boundaries it effects Men and Women at any age
Ahoy;- Garry George McDonald AO (born 30 October 1948) is an Australian stage, film and television actor. He is known for his portrayal of the bawdy Wollongong interviewer and Gold Logie award winning character Norman Gunston and for his role of hapless Arthur Beare in the ABC television sitcom Mother and Son.
Suffering from both depression and anxiety, McDonald talks openly about his condition and has become an advocate. He is a member of the Board of beyondblue, an Australian national depression initiative and serves as patron of the NSW branch of the Anxiety Disorders Foundation of Australia McDonald is quoted in the press discussing a link between his own anxiety and that of his grandfather and mother.
Depression, Anixiety, stress
Beyondblue is a great site, information on depression.
Mantherapy is another good site as well.
Most guys will experience some form of depression during there life,
a lot of guys do not even understand if they have it.
http://mantherapy.org.au/?gclid=CLex_ues5rwCFcYzpAodqU4AWA
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It is known that i have suffered from depression at times and whilst i am no expert i can and have offered my support and advice. I know i have helped some peeps so thanks to hp, i get the reminder to help others again on TS.
Anyone is welcome to pm me even if they just want to chat about nothing, don't think that anyone will judge you, more people are aware than you realise even if they do not understand.
Anyone is welcome to pm me even if they just want to chat about nothing, don't think that anyone will judge you, more people are aware than you realise even if they do not understand.
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Ahoy Bepp, that is why I revisited this thread.
Depression has no boundries, it effects men and women at any age, at any time.
We as a coummunity, share a laugh but we also need to support each other
Depression has no boundries, it effects men and women at any age, at any time.
We as a coummunity, share a laugh but we also need to support each other
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hi beep : the dark clouds never disappear .
you learn to live with it so no one can see . 
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So ive found outhi beep : the dark clouds never disappear .
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bepp never be scared to ask for help as i was for 30+ years until a lady friend suggested i talk to my doctor for a referral to a professional .
this has helped . help is out there , but you need to take the 1st step and people will help some more , than others , you will find the right connection with the help given .
all the best and walk tall
i do play this tune a lot as i do relate . be proud of who you are .
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Aye, My old friend AD - anxiety & depression was once me companion, they took me places that I've been before...my room. They are no longer close friends but they still linger around.
Recent change at work brought them a step closer and I told them to F off...pardon me french..I am not very fluent.
Recent change at work brought them a step closer and I told them to F off...pardon me french..I am not very fluent.
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If I can offer any sort of advice, it would be to talk to those close around you, try to stay social, or if can't be done, talk to a professional . Everyone I know , including myself, has had a bad period in their lives.
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Been told by a friend that if you can try to push your doctor hard enough then you can get 6 therapy sessions free under medicare, as Karl says try to avoid medication as much as possible.
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yep.....get professional help...... create a relaxing environment. Make right choices....eventually you may have to drop something or someone. Sleep, rest are important. Find trusted people with patience. Try to focus on things you like, that make you happy.
It's a nasty thing. It can be caused in the very past. You need help.
It's a nasty thing. It can be caused in the very past. You need help.
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I have not suffered depression. Never have I thought about topping myself. I have had plenty of days where I have not been happy for one thing or another. but I have always bounced back.
I have met a few people over the years trying to get me to join there religious group.
and each and every one I have asked them why they believe so strongly and all of them told me they hit rock bottom suffering from terrible depression.
then they tell me they saw the light and god saved them.
So maybe depression changes your outlook on life even after the depression has gone.
I have met a few people over the years trying to get me to join there religious group.
and each and every one I have asked them why they believe so strongly and all of them told me they hit rock bottom suffering from terrible depression.
then they tell me they saw the light and god saved them.
So maybe depression changes your outlook on life even after the depression has gone.
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Ahoy;- Thanks everyone for sharing.
If you feel the need in contacting someone.....please do
Depression, Anixiety, stress
Beyondblue is a great site, information on depression.
Mantherapy is another good site as well.
Most guys will experience some form of depression during there life,
a lot of guys do not even understand if they have it.
http://mantherapy.org.au/?gclid=CLex_ues5rwCFcYzpAodqU4AWA
If you feel the need in contacting someone.....please do
Depression, Anixiety, stress
Beyondblue is a great site, information on depression.
Mantherapy is another good site as well.
Most guys will experience some form of depression during there life,
a lot of guys do not even understand if they have it.
http://mantherapy.org.au/?gclid=CLex_ues5rwCFcYzpAodqU4AWA