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Farm Boy 2
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Repeatedly and in a courtroom in front of the media , FB2 feel's a small amount of empathy .
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Texwalker13
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A wife and a mistress sounds good to me surely they both won't have a headache at the same time
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MISTRESS
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AND ANOTHER MISSTRESS
Happy2
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Unless the husband's, Masterful ?So a woman needs a husband and a master?
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I don't see a problem with different partners fulfilling different needs, as long as communication is flowing and honest. The problem arises when partners' feel the need to lie or hide their needs and what they want. Jealousy is a secondary emotion, albeit a toxic one at that. Expecting one person to fulfill your every need and desire, as well as support and push you, while simultaneously striving towards their own goals, must be exhausting! X
Jake "monas"
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i normally hear about the victim of cheating and the cheater in relationships, but I'm wondering about the other man/woman. The person the spouse is cheating with. Because I know that if it were me and I found out that I was with a girl who had a partner and she was cheating I would feel ashamed of myself and disgusted that I had takin part in such a thing. So would that just be personnel preference or would other people agree with me. Not to judge anyone for what they do more just my own curiosity in the matter
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Yes but if you had no idea, its simply a matter of ending it isnt it ?
Kylie Middleton
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Obviously at work I'm going to end up seeing married men and I just accept that everyone's situation is different so it's not up to me to judge. This almost happened to me in my personal life a little while ago and had things gone further I would have felt really bad. Although if you don't know, I really don't think you're at all to blame.
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A query,
If involved with a working girl,
Separating the idea of work from personal life?
How does a WL differentiate sleeping with clients to a partner ?
I know the standard answer, "it is just work, just my job"
But surely it must go deeper ?
If any WL can shed some personal thoughts.
Sometimes I struggle with the idea that my current partner works in this industry, but I must accept.
If involved with a working girl,
Separating the idea of work from personal life?
How does a WL differentiate sleeping with clients to a partner ?
I know the standard answer, "it is just work, just my job"
But surely it must go deeper ?
If any WL can shed some personal thoughts.
Sometimes I struggle with the idea that my current partner works in this industry, but I must accept.
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Kylie Middleton
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I definitely wouldn't say that it's "just work", although a lot of girls feel that it is. When I'm with a client I do give a lot emotionally and do my best to connect with them because it's how I personally can give the most genuine service. The difference for me is that I wouldn't ever see them outside of work but if I'm completely honest, I've had clients who didn't make it feel like work at all. When that happens it comes back to loving your partner and having an emotional connection with them that fulfills your needs. It works for me and my partner because we have a huge amount of trust in each other and a really solid foundation. If we for any reason started having problems I would have to seriously consider stepping out of the industry until we sorted them out because I think this job is tough on shaky relationships. Does that help at all?
Ozrock
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Mr J White, as the thread is about "cheating" are you raising this in the context that you feel your partner "cheats" on you with clients? I also have a girlfriend that works in the industry and like you there are times when I struggle. The extended bookings with clients she gets on well with can be hard to deal with, but she always reassures me that I am the one she loves and has a true connection with. I trust my girlfriend, and similar to Kelly, she would not see them outside of the client/WL arrangement. I don't feel that my girlfriend is "cheating" on me by working in the industry, as it is her job and her main motive is financial. I am also fully aware of her work and so she is not hiding anything from me. Having been a client, I also know the difference between how she works and the wonderful relationship that we now have. We have a special emotional connection and nothing beats the intimacy when you are both in love with each other.
Kylie Middleton
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I totally understand how you struggle more with extended bookings. Half way through my shift I almost received an eight hour booking and obviously I would have jumped at that kind of money, but it would have ruined my dinner plans with my partner which he would have had every right to be put out by, especially because one of my main motivations for starting this work was that I could fit in around his schedule.
Ozrock
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It was good that you ended up sticking with your dinner plans in support of your partner. I have organised specific activities at times ( including expensive tickets to events ) and my girlfriend has cancelled on me when I have been looking forward to seeing her. I have then had to find a family member or friend to go. However, recently she cancelled a longer booking with a client to attend something with me. As that cost her money I did appreciated it.
Kylie Middleton
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I do think it's a tricky balance to get right because on one hand it's so much money and right now it is my full time job, but it's so easy for partners to feel left behind or unappreciated if they aren't put first at least some of the time.
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If the Working lady is giving her all in a booking, and has 3 or 4 clients in a day, what would then interest her in coming home to her partner, and being intimate with him, as she has possibly been very satisfied at work.
Does that then 'sort' of feel like cheating as she is being pleasured outside of their relationship?
I know both parties know what is going on, but it could feel like that for the guy.
Does that then 'sort' of feel like cheating as she is being pleasured outside of their relationship?
I know both parties know what is going on, but it could feel like that for the guy.
Happy2
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I think mrJwhite means if A man was to go out with a lady thinking her single only to find out she was married and so cheating on her husband how would that man feel
I am sure if a man or woman is in this situation they would feel hurt or embarrassed more that dirty as they had no active role in the cheating
I am sure if a man or woman is in this situation they would feel hurt or embarrassed more that dirty as they had no active role in the cheating
Ozrock
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With my girlfriend that works in the industry, she is mainly "satisfied" when she has a good day financially. She has a mix of good and difficult clients. She mainly focuses on meeting their needs. The clients don't meet her needs for intimacy and love. I adjust my approach to how she is feeling. Sometimes she needs her space, other times it is to be kissed and cuddled. Then there are times when we have incredible love making that exceeds anything I have experienced before (I am now divorced and have had some other past relationships). It is not easy being in a relationship with a WL at times, but my love for her as a person means that I don't want to be without her. She has demonstrated her love for me by her actions.
Kylie Middleton
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I have a lot of clients who i get on really well with and who I do enjoy having sex with but that doesn't change how I feel about my partner. The main difference is that at work it's ultimately my job to leave the man satisfied so I naturally "perform", whereas at home sex serves the purpose of allowing us to bond intimately and I feel more free to lie back and enjoy myself sometimes without worrying so much about always putting in 100% effort.
ChatLotte
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I've been the "other woman" without knowing it. I was single and we met from a dating website, went on a few dates, hooked up regularly. I started to get suspicious after a couple of months when he was called 5 times in a row which all rung out ad he wouldnt answer it around me. I asked him "is that your girlfriend?" and he went white, guilty as! I walked out on him pretty quick after that!
ProfD
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Open and honest play with others doesn't undermine the primary relationship as much as finding a third person secretly. I've been in this position and the external relationship did little to help sort out the serious problems between my wife and me. It helped me understand what was missing though! Connection, respect, focus, fun.