Sir Cruiser
Legend Member
Love Vodka.....and even if you haven't found the love of your life yet........ there is always something else to find in rather unexpected places
Melinda Morgan
Foundation Member
It does happen, however he has to be a strong secure and supportive man or it just won't work and causes so much heart ache for both. Xox
Karl
Silver Member
It just hurts, it is a torture....pain, fear and pain. Apart from that, other things play a role as well. It's the woman's income. You can not force her to retire and make her depending on you if she doesn't want. And what about the club (if she works there), do they like this? The club has no interest at all to see customers walking out of the door with one of their ladies in their arm. It all sounds very romantic but apart from hurt feelings there are also other interests. In addition, how will you behave in your social environment? Where do you go to, where can't you go to? Are you sometimes in the middle of the spotlights? Is it better to avoid these situations? Decisions, decisions....
At the end of the day I do believe that love can overcome a lot. Dating, loving or having a relationship with a WL is not easy. But it can work out. And these are no empty words....
At the end of the day I do believe that love can overcome a lot. Dating, loving or having a relationship with a WL is not easy. But it can work out. And these are no empty words....
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bushseeker
I had a mate that used to take the odd shot at me for paying for ladys....
Until his wife up and left overseas with the kids.
He openly says now I got alot more sex with alot more ladys for one hell of alot less than he ever got close to. .. and I reckon I got alot better companionship from at least some of these ladys than he got close to with his wife
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bushseeker
A lady im close to has fallen for a few clients.
I saw straight through them I warned her on them but of course not listened too.
All of them just treated her like an unpaid working lady and then worse.
I told her number one thing to look for is a real man is going to want to be seen in Public with you.
If they only get in touch 11pm and havnt at least asked you out for a couple at the local. .. they want free sex nothing more
I saw straight through them I warned her on them but of course not listened too.
All of them just treated her like an unpaid working lady and then worse.
I told her number one thing to look for is a real man is going to want to be seen in Public with you.
If they only get in touch 11pm and havnt at least asked you out for a couple at the local. .. they want free sex nothing more
Ozrock
Silver Member
I agree with Melinda that to have a WL as a girlfriend and partner you need to feel secure in yourself and be supportive of her. It is her business and I am fully supportive of her working. I would never ask her to stop working as it is her career. It gives her financial security. As I mentioned in my earlier post, communication is really important. She has explained all the good and bad aspects of her work so that I understand. She is also a wonderful support to me in my career, which is outside the industry.
I do understand and can sympathise with the comments made by Karl that it can hurt at times. It is difficult knowing that she is spending time with other men. There are some clients that make her work difficult, but there are others that treat her very well. However, she just reassures me that it is me that she is in a relationship with. She makes it clear to any client that wants to date her that she is already in a relationship and declines their offer.
Bushseeker has made some other important comments. Anyone that does not treat a WL in the same way as you would treat any other girlfriend or partner should be avoided. With my girlfriend we go out socially to dinner and to many events in the same way as any other couple. We have encountered people I know while out and I introduce her as my girlfriend. I am not in any way embarrassed by having such a wonderful woman by my side. I love her unconditionally.
Sir Cruiser
Legend Member
Good for you Ozrock,
Melinda Morgan
Foundation Member
Your partner is one lucky woman. Unfortunately my ex partner was insecure and as a consequence made for a very tormentous relationship for both of us. A heartbreaking situation to end up in.
Ozrock
Silver Member
Hi All,
I have already posted two entries on my experience of dating a WL. I am on my own tonight as she is working, so I will provide some more insights. It can get lonely at times when she is away on longer bookings such as overnighters or weekends. She is on an overnight booking now, so I am feeling a bit low.
Although we are dating and I consider her to be my partner we don’t live together. We prefer to spend some time together at either my house or hers. Some might say that it is not a full on relationship unless you are living together and dealing with both the domestic and romantic side. However, I find it easier to cope by not living in the same house. We both like some personal space. I think being there when she goes off to see various clients would be hard on a regular basis. I have been there when her work phone rings or she gets messages. I can cope with it, but if I was there all the time it would be difficult. I explained in my earlier post that communication is a big thing so I do understand the good and bad aspects of her working. I am certainly very supportive of her. However, I fluctuate from being turned on by what she does to being a bit jealous. If she is seeing multiple clients in a day it is easier than the times when she has long bookings, like tonight. Knowing she is spending multiple hours with one client is much harder for me. It is the long bookings in which I can picture much more intimacy in the encounter.
As we don’t live in the same house, when we are together it is quality time in which we go out to dinner, concerts or go on weekends or holidays away. They are the times I can enjoy her company without the client bookings. She now turns her phone off when we are together on most occasions. On my birthday we were about to leave to go out to dinner and her phone rang and I could see it was a client calling. She had forgotten to turn the phone off and it did spoil the start to the night! There are occasions when I book something as a surprise and she can’t go because of a client booking which also can hurt.One advantage to not living together is that the romance is easier to prolong, so I would recommend it as one way of dealing with the relationship. However, that is easy for us because we don't have children together. I could see it being much harder for those in a relationship with a WL in a family situation, which is the case for others.
We have discussed how I should deal with the situation when she is working long hours and not able to spend time with me. She does encourage me to see other WL at times when she is away on long bookings. I occasionally see another WL at her suggestion. We are very open with each other. At least when I do see another WL we can compare our experiences. Although I would love to be with her more I would never ask her to stop working. I admire and respect her as a business woman. However, I am really missing her tonight!
I have already posted two entries on my experience of dating a WL. I am on my own tonight as she is working, so I will provide some more insights. It can get lonely at times when she is away on longer bookings such as overnighters or weekends. She is on an overnight booking now, so I am feeling a bit low.
Although we are dating and I consider her to be my partner we don’t live together. We prefer to spend some time together at either my house or hers. Some might say that it is not a full on relationship unless you are living together and dealing with both the domestic and romantic side. However, I find it easier to cope by not living in the same house. We both like some personal space. I think being there when she goes off to see various clients would be hard on a regular basis. I have been there when her work phone rings or she gets messages. I can cope with it, but if I was there all the time it would be difficult. I explained in my earlier post that communication is a big thing so I do understand the good and bad aspects of her working. I am certainly very supportive of her. However, I fluctuate from being turned on by what she does to being a bit jealous. If she is seeing multiple clients in a day it is easier than the times when she has long bookings, like tonight. Knowing she is spending multiple hours with one client is much harder for me. It is the long bookings in which I can picture much more intimacy in the encounter.
As we don’t live in the same house, when we are together it is quality time in which we go out to dinner, concerts or go on weekends or holidays away. They are the times I can enjoy her company without the client bookings. She now turns her phone off when we are together on most occasions. On my birthday we were about to leave to go out to dinner and her phone rang and I could see it was a client calling. She had forgotten to turn the phone off and it did spoil the start to the night! There are occasions when I book something as a surprise and she can’t go because of a client booking which also can hurt.One advantage to not living together is that the romance is easier to prolong, so I would recommend it as one way of dealing with the relationship. However, that is easy for us because we don't have children together. I could see it being much harder for those in a relationship with a WL in a family situation, which is the case for others.
We have discussed how I should deal with the situation when she is working long hours and not able to spend time with me. She does encourage me to see other WL at times when she is away on long bookings. I occasionally see another WL at her suggestion. We are very open with each other. At least when I do see another WL we can compare our experiences. Although I would love to be with her more I would never ask her to stop working. I admire and respect her as a business woman. However, I am really missing her tonight!
My heart goes out to you. I have no further comment on times like that.
Will I ever heal from those times? I don't know. But a wise friend has said many times.......
You have been down that road......
I will never go down that road again......
kneaded relief
Gold Member
Hey Buddy,this is a very sad situation,unfortunately you are going through it,I can relate to this for it happened to me some years ago ,it was this lady who was a regular client and she fell In love with me,I one day sat her down and explained to her the consequences,my dedication towards my work,and cliental,its a choice I have to live with,we all do feel all for one another in close friendships but if one cant spend that time together well ,it becomes a living hell ,my advice to you bud,is a choice is up to each one,you can or you cant make it work out,sit your lady down and have a gud talk ,there are other ways of making income,and time management,if love dwells in you two,I'm sure things will work out.Cheers Edwin
Sir Cruiser
Legend Member
Oxrock, like yoda, i have been down that same road and i was lucky in that i was never jealous of her work and i was fortunate to have a few years with her ((this was many years ago in another country). She was a fs w/l and it was the deceit that ended our time not her work. May i suggest you try to come to terms with the longer bookings by talking to her about the jealous feelings that you sometimes have, it might help to release them as she sounds like a remarkable girl. Treasure your time and relationship But most of all trust her as it appears that she trusts you.
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Ozrock
Silver Member
Hi,
Yoda thanks for your sympathy. Edwin and Sir Cruiser thanks very much for the advice.
I am usually not jealous. The problem with the client she was with last night is that he treats her really well, lavishes gifts on her and she thinks he is “falling in love” with her. For her it is an easy booking. She gets the same money as seeing 5 other clients and she finds that she can meet his needs easily. Therefore I should be happy for her, particularly as she has some other clients that are really hard work for her in long bookings. I guess I was just a bit flat.
The other issue is that she has been really busy recently so we have had less time together than usual, so I was feeling sorry for myself! Edwin your comment on time management is worth me talking to her about. Getting a bit more time with her is probably what I need, so I will talk to her about that.
Sir Cruiser, she is certainly a very special woman. Your comments about trusting her and treasuring our time together are helpful. I don’t think there are too many women that would suggest that their partner see other WL to broaden their experience and spice up the relationship. She is a confident, liberated, well educated and beautiful. I have a demanding job and her counselling skills are really great. She helps me solve problems I have with work and family. She is a brilliant sounding board. I am really lucky to have her in my life. I love her very much.
I do want to make our relationship work. Thanks again for your support. It was much appreciated.
Yoda thanks for your sympathy. Edwin and Sir Cruiser thanks very much for the advice.
I am usually not jealous. The problem with the client she was with last night is that he treats her really well, lavishes gifts on her and she thinks he is “falling in love” with her. For her it is an easy booking. She gets the same money as seeing 5 other clients and she finds that she can meet his needs easily. Therefore I should be happy for her, particularly as she has some other clients that are really hard work for her in long bookings. I guess I was just a bit flat.
The other issue is that she has been really busy recently so we have had less time together than usual, so I was feeling sorry for myself! Edwin your comment on time management is worth me talking to her about. Getting a bit more time with her is probably what I need, so I will talk to her about that.
Sir Cruiser, she is certainly a very special woman. Your comments about trusting her and treasuring our time together are helpful. I don’t think there are too many women that would suggest that their partner see other WL to broaden their experience and spice up the relationship. She is a confident, liberated, well educated and beautiful. I have a demanding job and her counselling skills are really great. She helps me solve problems I have with work and family. She is a brilliant sounding board. I am really lucky to have her in my life. I love her very much.
I do want to make our relationship work. Thanks again for your support. It was much appreciated.
Sir Cruiser
Legend Member
You are, as others are, always welcome. Should you need to chat, you are welcome to pm me anytime