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Sex Workers in a relationship

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cammando755

I know this thread has been done a fair bit, but this is from a different angle.

I'm wanting to know from people's experience about what the partners, who are sex workers, have done to make their partners feel more comfortable about their line of work.

Do they tell them everything to take the mystery out of it, or do they hide stuff from them to make them feel easier that their lover is sleeping with other people?

Thanks for your responses :)
 
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I agree with rickman. If your partner is a sex worker than obviously you have an idea about their work and it is only work! Unless you get off on what they are doing why would you want to know all the details?,actually it's you who should be making things special for your partner as this is not the easiest job to do.
If you have a good relationship built on mutual trust, understanding and respect, by making her feel really special when she comes home and if you are working as a team, you can both achieve amazing financial rewards and set yourselves up for life in a relatively short time. if you cant handle it the get out!
 
My girlfriend tells me about her work when she feels like it. She discusses the good and bad aspects. There have been some difficult times for both of us, but I trust and respect her as a business woman. As Sharaz has suggested, the best thing is to focus on your relationship. I do everything I can to make her feel special and as happy as possible. She responds to that and makes me feel special. We love and support each other.
 
Ozrock said:
My girlfriend tells me about her work when she feels like it. She discusses the good and bad aspects. There have been some difficult times for both of us, but I trust and respect her as a business woman. As Sharaz has suggested, the best thing is to focus on your relationship. I do everything I can to make her feel special and as happy as possible. She responds to that and makes me feel special. We love and support each other.
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I like your attitude Ozrock and can only imagine at times it could be difficult for the relationship. However, you seem determined with your partner to make it work and that to my thinking is brilliant, however many hurdles confront you two, and all that equals mutual trust and a loving relationship. Good luck to you both!!
 
That's incredibly personal. By which I mean it depends on the relationship and the people in it. Some partners might feel more comfortable not knowing, where as others would rather know and have no secrets between them. Same with the WL's. Some might need to talk about it as a sort of "debrief" and others might prefer to keep the mystery or just keep it separate.

Personally I need to talk about it. Not because its sex work but because it's my day. If I'm suddenly not allowed to talk about my day because my partner feels uncomfortable that relationship is not going to last very long.
 
Erl said:
Have any of your partners come across a client in public when you are with them?
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That has happened a couple of times with my girlfriend. She has noticed them, but they have not approached her. One of them sent her a txt after seeing her. She has said some of the people she sees would probably be upset to see her with me. Others might be embarrassed if they are in a relationship themselves. We have encountered people I work with, but none of them have been clients so far :). That would be an interesting situation ;)
I love her and we can't avoid going out just because we may see clients or people we know. She is very special and I am lucky to have her.
 
cammando755 said:
I know this thread has been done a fair bit, but this is from a different angle.

I'm wanting to know from people's experience about what the partners, who are sex workers, have done to make their partners feel more comfortable about their line of work.

Do they tell them everything to take the mystery out of it, or do they hide stuff from them to make them feel easier that their lover is sleeping with other people?

Thanks for your responses :)
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i think partners look into it to deeply, i understand that as a partner youd be upset that u have to share your partner, but she as a working girl should have goals and she also should be showing progress, if shes moving towards her goals and still coming home to you thats a good sign, you cant help but wonder what goes on at her work place, but this is how we see it.. well i do anyway. I get booked alot, i dont need to break any rules to make any extra money, im happy im moving fastly towards my goals, when i come home i often slip out a few things about what happend during my shift, i guess i dont relise its a big deal what im talking about becuase the people that i seen where only jobs, not emotionally connected in any way, so its the same as putting a bottle of milk through the register at woolies, no big deal. if you cant handle her talking about work, you need to state it loud and clear 3 times in a row, calmy though. but if you want to date an escort you should have prepaired yourself already you silly bugger. Personally iv tried dating while working and its to hard, boyfriends distract you from reacing your goals faster, they guilt you and manipulate you and put you down in a way of revenge to get you back for being a working girl, sort of punishment for the hurt they put up with while waiting for you to finish. what the boyfriend needs to remember is that it was his idea to date a working girl. idiot. if shes interested shel work hard to finish quicker and then retire and if she loves you shel come to you after. dating a man while being a working girl has been the worst experience of my entire life, has been so much hurt and pain in my life, i wouldnt wish it on my worst enemy, iv been through worse things mentally and physically that you could imagine, its a nightmare... break it off and let the poor girl reach her goals, shel come back to you if its meant to be. your only going to hurt yourself putting up with the pain of dropping her at work everynight and then going home thinking of her and what shes doing.
 
Tammy-Joe said:
you need to find out about her service, your girlfriends, personally, i dont kiss. its to personal .. only for my boyfriend.. if i had one.. im not sure if im single or not these days .. im still in lingo with my x / bf/ 1/2 bf
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Am I reading right, you dont kiss at all during your bookings? even as an extra? Is that correct?
 
Tammy-Joe said:
i think partners look into it to deeply, i understand that as a partner youd be upset that u have to share your partner, but she as a working girl should have goals and she also should be showing progress, if shes moving towards her goals and still coming home to you thats a good sign, you cant help but wonder what goes on at her work place, but this is how we see it.. well i do anyway. I get booked alot, i dont need to break any rules to make any extra money, im happy im moving fastly towards my goals, when i come home i often slip out a few things about what happend during my shift, i guess i dont relise its a big deal what im talking about becuase the people that i seen where only jobs, not emotionally connected in any way, so its the same as putting a bottle of milk through the register at woolies, no big deal. if you cant handle her talking about work, you need to state it loud and clear 3 times in a row, calmy though. but if you want to date an escort you should have prepaired yourself already you silly bugger. Personally iv tried dating while working and its to hard, boyfriends distract you from reacing your goals faster, they guilt you and manipulate you and put you down in a way of revenge to get you back for being a working girl, sort of punishment for the hurt they put up with while waiting for you to finish. what the boyfriend needs to remember is that it was his idea to date a working girl. idiot. if shes interested shel work hard to finish quicker and then retire and if she loves you shel come to you after. dating a man while being a working girl has been the worst experience of my entire life, has been so much hurt and pain in my life, i wouldnt wish it on my worst enemy, iv been through worse things mentally and physically that you could imagine, its a nightmare... break it off and let the poor girl reach her goals, shel come back to you if its meant to be. your only going to hurt yourself putting up with the pain of dropping her at work everynight and then going home thinking of her and what shes doing.
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Thanks Tammy-Joe for providing your perspective on having a boyfriend while being a W/L. I agree that as a boyfriend you do need to be prepared. I was her client before we decided to start dating. It was her initiative to change the nature of the relationship. Of course I was very happy that she chose me. My girlfriend is a smart business woman and has clearly define goals. There are times when I would like her to do more things with me, but I then try to look at it from her perspective. I can take holidays and still get paid, but she needs to work to maintain her income. Having said that she does put me first at times. I spoil her as much as I can to compensate, although she would never ask me for help as she is very independent. I respect her for how hard she works. She tells me some of what happens at work. I have at times struggled with some long-term bookings, but she does reassure me it is only work. The communication about how we feel about each other is important. Sometimes she has been stressed by work and I have focused on just being there for her with some support. I don't try to change her and accept that there will be good and bad things to deal with, as there are in any relationship. The important thing is we have come to love each other.
 
That was always a black and white decision for me.While I was working I never entered into a relationship and my reasons are personal to me.
I didn't want to be with anyone when I was working because I could not respect a man that would agree to it.
I have had a couple of relationships between times in the industry and honesty being the best policy I confessed to working in the past. Both times it has been thrown in my face
 
Viv said:
That was always a black and white decision for me.While I was working I never entered into a relationship and my reasons are personal to me.
I didn't want to be with anyone when I was working because I could not respect a man that would agree to it.
I have had a couple of relationships between times in the industry and honesty being the best policy I confessed to working in the past. Both times it has been thrown in my face
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Hi Viv, It is not about me agreeing to it. I accepted my girlfriends decision to work because of the feelings I have for her. It is not easy for both of us at times. I would never throw anything back at her for her choice to work. I just happened to fall in love with her and it was reciprocated. She will retire from the work when she is ready and I want to be with her long term.
 
Sabby said:
Working in the Industry and Having a Relationship - A hard dance to do........

Only the very secure of men can accept this! But I speak for myself...........
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There is a scene in The Chopper move where he says" Who ya kissing" that is what its all about........ and it doesn't take a rocket scientist to work out what he meant.........

Also BF works a day job and from Monday to Friday, GF whom is an escort has to either work day shift or she works at nights on weekends when he's off due to the fact of the busiest times are nights... Then she gets home and the last thing she wants to do is to have sex... LOL..... so you need to discuss this at length before it gets messy...
 
I've been seeing this girl who I've fallen for. I know it's common for it to happen but I feel that this is a different situation just in terms of how well we get on. I've asked her but she's just come out of a relationship with a former client and is apprehensive of doing so I guess thinking the same might happen. I'll continue to see her and hopefully she might change her mind. I'm 100% fine with her work. She mentioned she'll only be in the industry for another 6-12 months so maybe after that she might be willing to give things a try.
 
Orangeapple1 said:
I've been seeing this girl who I've fallen for. I know it's common for it to happen but I feel that this is a different situation just in terms of how well we get on. I've asked her but she's just come out of a relationship with a former client and is apprehensive of doing so I guess thinking the same might happen. I'll continue to see her and hopefully she might change her mind. I'm 100% fine with her work. She mentioned she'll only be in the industry for another 6-12 months so maybe after that she might be willing to give things a try.
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Hmmm this sounds firmiliar, but a lot of girls would say this so basically it could be about anyone, but if this was someone talking about me, my comment would probably be this, I can't count how many times Iv said 6-12 months, and now it's been coming up 3 years omg .. can't believe I'm still in it, I do love being independent and kicking goals like a boss! I don't rely on anyone and I can get my own stuff and pay my own way, I like it this way, I do want to finish and go back to ordinary life, I'm not sure I'll end up with anyone Iv met in the indistry, I guess it doesn't matter but I always thought having a partner thats from the ordinary world might be able to help reverse my bad habits and stuff , Iv almost re programmed to this lifestyle and when I go to finish it up I need to be tought to think like regular ppl again, if that makes sense. And have u told her you like her or your waiting for her? Coz personally I'd rather someone tell me they like me an planning on waiting for me coz I'd tell them wether to bother or not, coz if I don't like someone or I do then I'll tell u straight up.. soo do u think there's any questions I can hel with? Sorry I replied detail , I just relate to this comment a lot so yeh :) hope that helps
 
So all of u guys that think it would b great to date a sexy working girl would you really want to date a girl that has had sex with 2000+ men?
Do the math
A working girl in the industry for 2 years.
5 shifts a week.
4 punters per shift
= 20 punters a week
= 1040 punters a year
= your girlfriend has had sex with 2040 men & prob quite a few women as well in 2 years.
Obviously the longer she has been in the industry the higher the numbers
5 years = 5000+ people your girlfriend has had sex with.
Maybe if she had something worthwhile 2 show 4 it at the end e.g. a nice house u could almost tell urself it was all worthwhile but what if she spends all the proceeds she earns & has nothing 2 show 4 it when she finally gives it away?
 
Jamie said:
= your girlfriend has had sex with 2040 men & prob quite a few women as well in 2 years.
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And her Vagina is still tight as...... and can she can still walk, function, talk and have sex with you too.. The Amazing creature a woman is...

20*$400 = $8000 a week.... if you are not grateful for that then well you dont deserve her anyways....

or 1040 hour bookings *$400 = $416,000 two years and your home is paid off, whos the smart bunt and whos the silly **** ...
 
Phoebe said:
And her Vagina is still tight as...... and can she can still walk, function, talk and have sex with you too.. The Amazing creature a woman is...

20*$400 = $8000 a week.... if you are not grateful for that then well you dont deserve her anyways....
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To start with subtract an instant 50% to the house.
= 4K a week.
I know real estate agents that make double that & don't have 2 fuck wrinkly old men.
Anyway you completely missed my point which was could you date a girl who fucks 1000+ men a year?
 
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