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Daredevil

Silver Member
Remember w/ls are not your friends, they are a business partner.

True, although I am not sure it is great business to make a booking with a client, confirm it the day before, then ghost them from the appointment time onwards, without explanation.

I have since learned that I'm not the first, not by some margin. That has been comforting to some extent.
 
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Night Owl Ciao

As mentioned previously earlier in this thread you were entering into a business arrangement nothing more nothing less.
If say you booked your car into the mechanic shop for a service but the morning you arrived for the pre arranged booking the mechanic was too busy to service your car would you obsess over it & search for answers or would you simply find another mechanic & forget about it all in a day or 2?
Not a single one of us will even come close to working out what makes a woman tick & throw in the many variables associated with a WL & you have got more chance of picking the winning lotto numbers every Saturday for the rest of your life 😬
 

Daredevil

Silver Member
If say you booked your car into the mechanic shop for a service but the morning you arrived for the pre arranged booking the mechanic was too busy to service your car would you obsess over it & search for answers or would you simply find another mechanic & forget about it all in a day or 2?

I think that analogy only works if you turn up for the service and the doors are locked, the phone is disconnected, and there is no explanation. (only for the shop to reopen the next day)

Ultimately, the point I was making is that I dont think that is a good way of conducting yourself, and given the trail of people burned (including stolen deposits in some cases), eventually it catches up with you, regardless of how good you look.
 

Snowy

Legend Member
True, although I am not sure it is great business to make a booking with a client, confirm it the day before, then ghost them from the appointment time onwards, without explanation.

I have since learned that I'm not the first, not by some margin. That has been comforting to some extent.
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Hello Daredevil, after reading all the posts, yours & the members there is two things you could do, ''Just forget her''' or book to see her under a different name because you are clearly smitten by her, whether you want to admit it or not. Even though my advice might not seem practical, it might help you either way. She must be a real looker because she's still got you by the balls at the moment, sometimes being a nice guy isn't always the best thing to be, I have been lied to & used up many times in the past by Beautiful women & it always hurts because I didn't see it coming, so all the best to you, try the 2nd option just for fun if your game.
 
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Night Owl Ciao

DD pm me her fone no & I'll book her & find out if she is worth all this effort mate 😀
 

Daredevil

Silver Member
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Hello Daredevil, after reading all the posts, yours & the members there is two things you could do, ''Just forget her''' or book to see her under a different name because you are clearly smitten by her, whether you want to admit it or not. Even though my advice might not seem practical, it might help you either way. She must be a real looker because she's still got you by the balls at the moment, sometimes being a nice guy isn't always the best thing to be, I have been lied to & used up many times in the past by Beautiful women & it always hurts because I didn't see it coming, so all the best to you, try the 2nd option just for fun if your game.

Ha, after I found out she'd burned a bunch of other people too, her good looks lost their shine very quickly. Give me an honest, decent person over a fraud any day.
 

Down boy

Gold Member
This post has always puzzled me.
Amazing change of tune over someone you’ve never met.
Im sure Madi has given it a lot less thought than you have.
The attempted Kindness Factory connection seems a bit false to me now.
 

Jacqui Luxe

Enjoying the weather and company in Darwin!
Gold Member
That sounds like a confusing and frustrating situation to be in - I know from the worker side of the fence it's always puzzling when a client books in, seems keen, and then doesn't arrive for the booking and I never hear from them again. I've found that the best way I deal with it is to go on with life, and enjoy the time I have with people who I do meet. It doesn't seem like you've done anything wrong from what you've done, I think all you can do now is enjoy life, and any encounters you have with any other workers in the future.
 

Lex888

Gold Member
There are a few SW that I have not got around to booking, and I keep an eye on their twitter feeds intermittently to see whether I want to set up an appointment. One in particular had a horrid 2019, and when she posted in early 2020 that she had another dose of incredibly bad luck - and was looking for financial assistance, or simply just some love to feel a bit better. This was right before her birthday.

Weirdly, I was compelled to get in touch. I texted her that I had seen her tweets, felt horrible for her, and said that if there was anything that she needed - a bill paid, some shopping done, etc - to let me know. She thanked me and said that she'd take me up on my offer.

With her birthday the next day, I wanted to get her something to put a smile on her face, and decided I'd get some chocolates from a Koko Black. There was some difficulty in meeting up - and I understood she may have some hesitation given we hadnt met previously - but it worked out that I could drop them off to her at her friends place. Cover story (for her) was set up, and I dropped them off while she was on her way there, and not long after I got an awesome text from her thanking me again.

Life is good.

A week or so later I check in to see how her recovery is going, and the news is somewhat positive. She asks me if she books a hotel in the city, would I be interested in meeting up. We work out the details, lock in a date and time.

I don't make any contact after that, so as not to be overbearing, and she texts me the day before to check whether I am still good. :I let her know that I cant wait, and ask whether she knows the logistics of the particular hotel and how to get in and out discretely, as I dont want it to be awkward for either of us.

No response, but I wasnt concerned.

The day comes, and I drive to the city and text her that I am parked, and to get details of where to go. This is 15 minutes before the appointment.

No answer.

I wait 20 minutes, and text her to check that everything is ok.

No answer.

Over the following 20 minutes, I text a couple more times - suggesting that if there is an issue with the appointment, thats fine, but just let me know. I was worried for her safety (who knows what can happen) but in reality there was nothing I could do to help if there was a problem at all.

Nothing.

Eventually after being in the city for 90 minutes, I give up. I'm really starting to worry, as we'd gone from having great chats, her being really positive towards me (I know, I know, but it seemed genuine) and her checking the appointment was still on, to getting ghosted. I was hoping something had happened like her phone had died, or something similar that meant she was ok, and we'd work out another time.

But still nothing.

I was flying to Adelaide the next day, sick to my stomach - no tweets from her, and I was worried something had happened.

The next night, I got the good and bad news. She tweeted - fantastic, she is ok - but by being fine that meant that the reason for her lack of response was now unexplained.

I sent her an email, and have left it at that. But I'm gutted and I have no idea what I must have done. (especially given on the Monday is was fine, and despite no contact by Tuesday something had changed). Weirdly, I'd still love to see her, but I think the awkwardness of what went wrong a few weeks back would be hard to overcome.

Sorry, this feels like therapy for me getting this down.

Mate, sorry to hear about your situation. It would appear that you got played. I’m not saying she wasn’t genuine and she very well could be, but it does sound like she pulled a fast one in you there. Commerce is the currency all over, we trade with each other at home, at work, everywhere really. You give something and the other party gives something in return. If you keep giving and get strung along then you’re going to get hurt. Sorry.
 

Lex888

Gold Member
Thanks for the reminder! 60 mill this thursday😎
Think it’s 80 mil....
So 6 weeks later, completely out of the blue - at 11:50pm (!! not ideal :() - I get a text from her.....

"Hey you"

"Well that is an unexpected text, that's for sure. Can't chat - tomorrow?"

Tried twice to follow up her text, and got nothing back.

It seems I'm being fucked with, and not in a good way.
dude... you keep playing into her messed up games!! For your own mental health, let it go and block that number.
 

Daredevil

Silver Member
Think it’s 80 mil....

dude... you keep playing into her messed up games!! For your own mental health, let it go and block that number.

Appreciate your concern, but I'm good. I fell for the 2nd trap but that was the clincher to know that I'd missed out on nothing.
 

Daredevil

Silver Member
This post has always puzzled me.
Amazing change of tune over someone you’ve never met.
Im sure (removed) has given it a lot less thought than you have.
The attempted Kindness Factory connection seems a bit false to me now.

Interesting take. Short story is that I was keen, got ghosted, felt it was my fault for some reason, felt crap about that, and then after more research realised it wasn't me., she has done this a bunch of times to other people too. That latter part was somewhat comforting. What is the change of tune? That I was keen and now I'm not? Being ghosted will do that.

You're dead wrong on the Kindness Factory thing too. I've been doing that nearly every week since I met Kate (Kindness Factory founder) and the chocolates gift when someone needed cheering up very much was part of that. Sure, most of the efforts I make are to random people and she was the only one for someone I'd seen only on twitter, but the gift was without motive/expectation.

Did I name her here? I didnt, deliberately so. So that's an interesting choice you've made.
 
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Night Owl Ciao

Interesting take. Short story is that I was keen, got ghosted, felt it was my fault for some reason, felt crap about that, and then after more research realised it wasn't me., she has done this a bunch of times to other people too. That latter part was somewhat comforting. What is the change of tune? That I was keen and now I'm not? Being ghosted will do that.

You're dead wrong on the Kindness Factory thing too. I've been doing that nearly every week since I met Kate (Kindness Factory founder) and the chocolates gift when someone needed cheering up very much was part of that. Sure, most of the efforts I make are to random people and she was the only one for someone I'd seen only on twitter, but the gift was without motive/expectation.

Did I name her here? I didnt, deliberately so. So that's an interesting choice you've made.
I don't wanna be the devils avocado here mate but have you considered perhaps saving your random acts of kindness for a non working girl?
Afterall a lady whose profession is solely based on being paid to make men feel good is likely to be programmed very differently than say a lady who works in a more traditional field of employment?
 

Daredevil

Silver Member
I don't wanna be the devils avocado here mate but have you considered perhaps saving your random acts of kindness for a non working girl?
Afterall a lady whose profession is solely based on being paid to make men feel good is likely to be programmed very differently than say a lady who works in a more traditional field of employment?

Fair to say the ratio of kindness of non-working girls to working girls has been drastically one-sided, at least as far as I know. :)

More broadly, most acts are completely random (in that it is whoever the next customer is) or more targeted (eg elderly, destitute etc) - but generally I help who I think needs it, not based on what their occupation is.

That said - I acknowledge it may have been an act I fell for.

Anyway, probably best if we all move on. I have.

(would recommend you reconsider naming a WL though in your previous post)
 
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Night Owl Ciao

(would recommend you reconsider naming a WL though in your previous post)

I don't really really know what you mean Daredevil sorry mate
 

Jacqui Luxe

Enjoying the weather and company in Darwin!
Gold Member
I don't wanna be the devils avocado here mate but have you considered perhaps saving your random acts of kindness for a non working girl?
Afterall a lady whose profession is solely based on being paid to make men feel good is likely to be programmed very differently than say a lady who works in a more traditional field of employment?
Uh, come on man, nurses are paid solely to make men and women feel better too, but are they programmed differently? We are caregivers in a big way, which means most of us are truly very caring individuals. Are female therapists less deserving of kindness because they're "programmed very differently" from others because they are paid to make people feel better about themselves? Not loving this negativity toward my colleagues because of one bad egg.

I don't let one bad client put me off men and clients in general.
 

Lex888

Gold Member
Appreciate your concern, but I'm good. I fell for the 2nd trap but that was the clincher to know that I'd missed out on nothing.
Hey, just wanted to say good on you for the kindness initiative thing. If we all show a little more kindness and being less opportunistic (taking advantage of others, panic buying, etc), maybe, just maybe the world will be a better place. Just saying.
 

Lex888

Gold Member
I don't wanna be the devils avocado here mate but have you considered perhaps saving your random acts of kindness for a non working girl?
Afterall a lady whose profession is solely based on being paid to make men feel good is likely to be programmed very differently than say a lady who works in a more traditional field of employment?
WL/SW are still people, have feelings and emotional intelligence like everyone else. Yes, that’s their profession but don’t be a bigot.
 
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