Just after some Opinions :)

[Damprye]

Hi I have also been with a cheat and a lier and i knew the entire time he was doing it although it was only about a year after he last cheated on me that i told him i knew the entire time and he broke down because it was only then he realised how well i knew and love/d him

We also had an age gap although not so great of one but that has never mattered to me either (but it did to him.)

We were going steady for about 2 years after he stopped cheating (with 3 different ppl) and i fell pregnant i was 17 (He wasnt happy about being a father before but did once i told him) but stupid me all emotional thought that everything was going to shit and fell into a depression and thought that he didnt want me or the baby...then i miscarried... he was devistated and i fell into a deep depression rebelling against him and everybody else.

We broke up I got engaged to a bloke id known for two weeks (talk about rebound) then one day he turned around and told me to ditch my new lover and go back to him...so i did...i was supposed to meet up with him and we were supposed to talk and see how we felt etectcet...now that didnt happen i fell pregnant to him again...said hed take care of me and protect me and that hed love nothing better than being father to mour baby so i didnt use protection.

He cheated on me with my best friend and now is still with her i have a beautiful baby boy whom i adore but until 4 months ago no contact with the father. Since then he has met his son twice and now remembers how i was before our first baby and is wanting to meet up but not as a taken man.

The funny thing is after all this I still love him and if you asked me honestly i would have to say yes i would take him back in a heart beat although i wouldnt admit it to most ppl

We tried to make a truce a while ago knowing that we would always love each other but we were going to leave it at that and go our seperate ways

I do know how hard it is to stay away from someone you love so much and how hard it is to be with someone that you cannot trust. even saying that could i really give you a the RiGHT advice (stay or go) no i do not think so but i do know that the worst thing to do in a relationship is to listen to what family and friends say as that more often than not makes things worse and they say what they think you want

If you both love each other you will come to an agreement together whether to be a couple or be friends maybe with benifits but no matter what thisis a decission that can only be made by the two of you together.

 

[kevin]

Yep Yep I agree with most of what's being said.

I hope Im not being too insensitive but I think you should just cut the guy off. How many chances are you planning on giving him? You're allowing a total head fuck of a situation waste the best years of your life. Seriously. You're 21. Do you really want to be with a liar for the rest of your life? I think you should grab all your girlfriends, head to town on a Sat night and just be the biggest bunch of cock teases you can be.

On the other side I know what it's like to care about someone so much.. I know I'm only 19.. what the fuck do I know right? I guess Ive been lucky enough to have never met the right girl haha. Looking back at my past experiences I've realised that I was stupid enough to fall for gals who are great friends but shitty girlfriends. Maybe you should just be friends... But that's something you need to figure out for yourself. It's up to you to decide whether you share the same values as each other and whether or not you can both provide for each other what you both need mentally, physically and spiritually.. even him providing for you if you're into the traditional male being the main bread winner thing.

None of us can convince you to do shit. At the end of the day you're only going to listen to yourself... but I hope the words of the some of the people who have been through this stick in your mind a little.

Keep us all posted.... Good luck. I hope it all works out for the better!

 

[SubNymphet]

Hi Dampyre... it was nice to get a comment from someone whos been through a similar thing. To be honest, i cried when i read it! been 2 days since i cried, damnit! lol.
i guess it must have been so difficult having a child involved too. the only concern we have it the 5 hairy children.. (3 dogs, 2 cats!)
I have thought about whether i could be just friends with him but i dont think i could, i would always want more and from experience, friends with an ex just doesnt work for me.

I have come to realise over the last few days how much i really do love him. How much he has sacrificed to be with me as well and never told me. He has started trying to talk about his feelings which is a great change and as long as things continue the way they are going i think we might have a chance.

I am definatly not going back into this with blinkers on though. I will make sure if i have doubts about ANYTHING they will be brought up straight away and if i dont like the answer well, that will be it. I will not let myself be lied to anymore.

 

[MASTER WIZARD]

Greetings again,
The very best of luck to you both.