I finally broke my silence

[Lucy Lake]

So much strength to face this hardship. You are truly an inspiration. I hope you are getting all the support you need in this difficult time. You are in my prayers tonight Tania.

 

[Tania Admin]

Thanks to everyone for their calls, support and messages.
I found out today that the guy who was living at our house when I was a child, and I reported, died a year ago..It's a weird feeling,,I'm kind of glad he's not alive but I also feel ripped off to a degree. To confront him would have been a good part of the healing process. I've spent the last couple of weeks spring cleaning,,changing furniture, sorting through everything and throwing things that don't need to be kept, a physical action to go with the mental process. I'm feeling better and slowly getting on top again. And thanks again everyone, your all awesome xo

 

[johnlou]

hi Tania , that's good to hear that you are feeling much better , you know where we are if and when you need us for any reason .

and i am sorry that you are unable to confront the person who put you in this position , that would have been a good move .

 

[Madam Tracey]

Hopefully there is some justice for you. Either way just bringing events like this to light is empowering for you.

 

[Madam Jacqui]

You Know Im Always there for you......xxxxxxxx

 

[DitaTempest1]

Thank you for sharing this on the forum, Tania! I admire your courage and your clarity in expressing something so close and (still, despite the years) so raw. I don't think that I have anything really special or new or insightful to add here, I just wanted to raise my hand in solidarity and support along with all the other good folks who are sending you love and support. For every single individual who speaks out, I'm sure that there are many who are then able to find their voice. Lots of love to you x x x

 

[Madam Leigh]

Hi sweetie,Life is to short to worry about people that are less then perfect, so please do not
dwell on the negitives,but stay strong and happy because that is who you are,and that person is beautiful on the inside and outside.I do remember who you are and i still love you, your friend Leigh.

 

[Olivia Grace]

Today has been tough, really tough, it needed to be done but it wasnt easy.

Today I reported 2 incidents in my life, 2 incidents which have played my mind for a very long time.

The first an incident which occured in first grade primary school. It involved a male predator and a few other young girls who were in my year. I had many vague recollections of the incident but in the past few weeks crystal clear memories have brought me distress. I recalled the police coming to our school and myself lying about what had happened out of fear. It has been wrenching at my gut and i today reported my full recollections of the event.

The second incident involved a male who lived in our house for a while. My parents eventually found out what was happening and kicked him out. For reasons I won't mention he was never reported by my parents and their reason for this does not sit well with me. I know it was occurring from the same offender to other girls who were daughters of my parents friends. I have contacted my step father asking him to come forward about what he knows. My mother I really have no wish to speak to but guess I must.
All though both incidents were over 30 years ago it is never to late to come forward. The police woman I spoke with from the special unit was very kind, helpful and reassuring.
Why now? I don't know. I am not known for being backwards in coming forward but its something I just had to do now. Before today the only people who knew about the school incident was those of us who were there. I had never told anyone. The person who was living with us I have quite openly talked about what happened, though never in detail.

It's never to late to come forward, never.

I will have a trek ahead with some of this but am glad I broke my silence.

Tania, you are so incredibly brave for coming forward. I hope this can be resolved and bring some peace for you.
Much love and positive vibes xx

 

[imnowretired]

Today has been tough, really tough, it needed to be done but it wasnt easy.

Today I reported 2 incidents in my life, 2 incidents which have played my mind for a very long time.

The first an incident which occured in first grade primary school. It involved a male predator and a few other young girls who were in my year. I had many vague recollections of the incident but in the past few weeks crystal clear memories have brought me distress. I recalled the police coming to our school and myself lying about what had happened out of fear. It has been wrenching at my gut and i today reported my full recollections of the event.

The second incident involved a male who lived in our house for a while. My parents eventually found out what was happening and kicked him out. For reasons I won't mention he was never reported by my parents and their reason for this does not sit well with me. I know it was occurring from the same offender to other girls who were daughters of my parents friends. I have contacted my step father asking him to come forward about what he knows. My mother I really have no wish to speak to but guess I must.
All though both incidents were over 30 years ago it is never to late to come forward. The police woman I spoke with from the special unit was very kind, helpful and reassuring.
Why now? I don't know. I am not known for being backwards in coming forward but its something I just had to do now. Before today the only people who knew about the school incident was those of us who were there. I had never told anyone. The person who was living with us I have quite openly talked about what happened, though never in detail.

It's never to late to come forward, never.

I will have a trek ahead with some of this but am glad I broke my silence.

I have been thinking about this subject of late, I had a situation happen when i was around 8 or so with a older girl in our church, i'm not sure what I should do, as it may distroy her life, which i don't wish to do, but what she did was not right either, it was very very wrong.

I'm confused, and feel sick about the whole thing. just don't know what to do....

 

[Morgan Sapphire]

Thank you. But to be honest right now I want to curl into a ball and cry. And I think I will..better out than in they say....

I went through the same ordeal with a family member which went on for a number of years. I sometimes feel like you do. I should report it, I know, but this particular person is now serving time for the same crime but to different kids. I feel a bit better within myself now because Karma has prevailed. Good luck with everything and I wish you all the best.

 

[Tania Admin]

I went through the same ordeal with a family member which went on for a number of years. I sometimes feel like you do. I should report it, I know, but this particular person is now serving time for the same crime but to different kids. I feel a bit better within myself now because Karma has prevailed. Good luck with everything and I wish you all the best.

I'm sad for everyone else who has had this happen to them. If you do decide to come forward and report it the perpetrator has more chance of not being released. But it's not about them,,I completely understand it's about you and where you are at with the situation. I wish you strength and comfort beautiful lady. You always have an ear here.
*big hugs

 

[johnlou]

this is my thoughts and mine alone !!
these predator along with the bullies, thieve on you the victim, to not report these incidents for the repercussions from other people who might get onto the same band wagon and continue the act .
the best response is to tell everyone no matter who they are and someone will help you get what you need to move on .

" if you don't purchase a ticket , then you cannot win the prize "

enjoy and do what you feel is right

 

[Happy2]

As a student of a Christian Brothers boarding school I totally understand why many have no intention of coming forward with their ordeals
But those who do have my utmost respect