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How deep is deep?

Jamie Jackson

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So I met a client in the weekend that was really struggling with getting in the mood 🍆.
He has tried picking up at bar and the brothel many times with the same results.
He explained that he is physically attracted to all the girls he’s with but feels that there is just something missing.
After a lengthy conversation and relationship history, we came to the conclusion that he is a Demisexual.
So I was just wondering who else on here feels the same way and what their experience is like with brothels?

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Gobble_Doc

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Jamie Jackson said:
So I met a client in the weekend that was really struggling with getting in the mood 🍆.
He has tried picking up at bar and the brothel many times with the same results.
He explained that he is physically attracted to all the girls he’s with but feels that there is just something missing.
After a lengthy conversation and relationship history, we came to the conclusion that he is a Demisexual.
So I was just wondering who else on here feels the same way and what their experience is like with brothels?

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johnmatilda

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Jamie Jackson said:
I am however curious that if he has a regular lady at a brothel, could he create enough of a connection for it to work?
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I would say it is unlikely to help because his subconscious knows that that "connection" is motivated by money and it isn't real. That same "connection" is offered to other clients so it's not special to him. What he is likely sexually attracted to is a woman that genuinely cares for him which I don't think he would get from a WL. I wish him the best.

/just my 2c
 
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johnmatilda said:
I would say it is unlikely to help because his subconscious knows that that "connection" is motivated by money and it isn't real. That same "connection" is offered to other clients so it's not special to him. What he is likely sexually attracted to is a woman that genuinely cares for him which I don't think he would get from a WL. I wish him the best.

/just my 2c
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Also have to be super careful because if the connection is deemed real by him he may actually get pretty broken when he comes to the realisation that the SW isn't looking for the same things he is.
I may be very wrong here but if someone needs a true deep connection to get off so to speak then seeing a SW is only going to leave him more confused in the long run.
I have had some lovely clients who I have unfortunately had to let go because they wanted more I genuinely did care for them and still wish them well and hope they are doing okay, but couldn't separate the service from the true feelings. It's really sad when it happens because I try and be upfront and honest and explain that I'm not looking for a relationship and it's not them that's the problem but I have chosen to remain single & that won't be changing, it's really tough when that happens and with what the explanation says at the top about his need for connection makes me think maybe these clients ive mentioned were the same and in the end they got hurt because even though I'd been upfront from the beginning they hoped the more they saw me that I might change my mind. They still wanted to see me as a SW even after I explained how I felt but I couldn't do it to them because i knew deep down I was only going to be hurting them.

I dont like to make a booking transactional and I like to find connections and common interests and I have many clients who I look forward to spending time with & would happily keep in touch with them when I leave the industry but if they wanted a relationship and I didn't I wouldn't want to lead them on.
 
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I have a regular client who is demisexual, and it did take him a while to be able to stay hard during a booking. He enjoyed my company though, and said just having a "cuddle buddy" until he gets comfortable enough was alright with him. I always made sure the line that this was work for me was clear, and he was happy with that. It took him around 3 sessions before he was comfortable enough.

I do worry with what Amelia said though, as I do not wish to hurt him or lead him on, so I always make sure that the line is clear throughout the booking. I find I always leave expecting it to be the last booking, that he'll come to the realisation that a transactional encounter is not what he's after, and am always happy when he books me again. Though if he does end up not booking me again, I hope that means he's found someone he's genuinely interested in, and that makes me happy too.
 
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I have always led an active seX life from the age of 14. In that time I have had a wide variety of eXperiences and can say that no fantasy that I have ever had has been left uneXplored.

However now I find as I have aged it is more the emotional connection for me that needs to be satisfied before the physcial eXprerience is.
 
Jamie Jackson

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johnmatilda said:
I would say it is unlikely to help because his subconscious knows that that "connection" is motivated by money and it isn't real. That same "connection" is offered to other clients so it's not special to him. What he is likely sexually attracted to is a woman that genuinely cares for him which I don't think he would get from a WL. I wish him the best.

/just my 2c
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Yes he definitely needs that genuine special connection only a partner could give him.
 
Jamie Jackson

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AmeliaKennedy said:
Also have to be super careful because if the connection is deemed real by him he may actually get pretty broken when he comes to the realisation that the SW isn't looking for the same things he is.
I may be very wrong here but if someone needs a true deep connection to get off so to speak then seeing a SW is only going to leave him more confused in the long run.
I have had some lovely clients who I have unfortunately had to let go because they wanted more I genuinely did care for them and still wish them well and hope they are doing okay, but couldn't separate the service from the true feelings. It's really sad when it happens because I try and be upfront and honest and explain that I'm not looking for a relationship and it's not them that's the problem but I have chosen to remain single & that won't be changing, it's really tough when that happens and with what the explanation says at the top about his need for connection makes me think maybe these clients ive mentioned were the same and in the end they got hurt because even though I'd been upfront from the beginning they hoped the more they saw me that I might change my mind. They still wanted to see me as a SW even after I explained how I felt but I couldn't do it to them because i knew deep down I was only going to be hurting them.

I dont like to make a booking transactional and I like to find connections and common interests and I have many clients who I look forward to spending time with & would happily keep in touch with them when I leave the industry but if they wanted a relationship and I didn't I wouldn't want to lead them on.
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@AmeliaKennedy you’ve explained the situation perfectly. It is really hard to have really good connections and genuine care for them without feelings getting hurt.
Sometimes it’s hard for them to understand what the situation is and that what they are looking for “a relationship” is not what they are going to find with a SW.
Well very rare occurrence, so I have seen.
 
Jamie Jackson

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LongHair said:
I have always led an active seX life from the age of 14. In that time I have had a wide variety of eXperiences and can say that no fantasy that I have ever had has been left uneXplored.

However now I find as I have aged it is more the emotional connection for me that needs to be satisfied before the physcial eXprerience is.
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Correct me if I’m wrong,
But do you find the sex more intense and satisfying when you get that emotional connection first?
 
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I have a BA Psychology and currently doing my masters degree. Emotional connection and Psychology play a large part in my work as a SW.
We have a short window of time. To connect, assess any past unresolved trauma. To know what they don’t like or what turns them on the most.
Intimacy is not always about sexual pleasure.
On a personal level, I need someone with equal intellect. If they can't stimulate my mind. Then no way will they stimulate me in the bedroom
 
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Jamie Jackson said:
Correct me if I’m wrong,
But do you find the sex more intense and satisfying when you get that emotional connection first?
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yes and no, I find that the most intense seXual pleasures come after a period of time getting the rythm of each other, understanding each other needs, desires, triggers and limitations.

I dont ever find this with casual hook up's
 
R041

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Jamie Jackson said:
Correct me if I’m wrong,
But do you find the sex more intense and satisfying when you get that emotional connection first?
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Absolutely, I have engaged with approximately 16 different WLs on a total of 79 occasions since moving to WA 18 months ago(yes, I've kept count). My favourite I have seen 41 times in just over 12 months. I have thought about what my attraction to her is many times, and every time I come to the same conclusion, a deep emotional connection.
We not only share a good laugh, giggle, tease each other over very different language interpretations and open honest discussion about the great and intense sex that we enjoy, we know and understand each other.
Like Longhair says, being in tune with each others rythm, understanding the others desires, needs, go signs and stop signs. It all takes time and, understandably, many visits. But when you know and understand that you have a deeper connection with your partner than with any other WL, the experience then becomes more deeply and personally satisfying. I am currently living this reality.

I am also no fool, despite my age. I do know and understand that this beautiful woman is in the business of providing sexual services to as many clients as is possible and she may well have very similar connections to others. She will never be my partner in life, nor am I seeking her to be. But, for as long as I need to and she is available, I will continue to see her and her alone.
But, who knows what this scenario will look like in another year, she may be retired or I might be deceased. Life is as it is.
 
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R041 said:
Absolutely, I have engaged with approximately 16 different WLs on a total of 79 occasions since moving to WA 18 months ago(yes, I've kept count). My favourite I have seen 41 times in just over 12 months
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I have just remembered that of this 12 months that I mentioned, I did spend 9 weeks in Spain last Aug/Sept and 2 weeks in Tas in March.
This is, of course, leaving 41 weeks for 41 bookings with her. Can't stay away.
 
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sludgie said:
Good luck, l have tried with my two regulars and a discount /bonus has never been given.:(:(:(
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I know Sludgie, all a bit of 'tounge in cheek' banter. I did suggest to her last week that visit #42 she might pay the room fee for the 2nd hour and it bought the predictable slap on my ars.🖐:oops:
 
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