Excellent websites on sex-workers for people with disability

[Plumage]

After reading some of the excellent posts in this Sex & Disabilities subforum, I was feeling very inadequate and in need of some good detailed advice and information. I found a couple of websites which have some really good advice for both sex workers and for clients who have disabilities. I was thinking of summarising them here, but really they are so well written and cover so much that I think the summaries might end up longer than the originals! Anyway, here they are:

Link is broken,so has been taken down

This document is aimed primarily at sex-workers working in this field. It is very detailed. It originally comes from the TLC-Trust in the UK (I assume TLC just stands for Tender Loving Care), which is a branch of The Outsiders Trust, a social, peer support and dating club, run by and for people with invisible and visible disabilities.

The second website is the TLC's own website, which doesn't have the useful info found above for sex-workers (so far as I can see; maybe you have to register with them as a sex-worker to see it?) but does have some very detailed info for people with disability who are contemplating engaging a sex-worker:

Help and Advice | TLC Trust

tlc-trust.org.uk

 

[WildBrumby]

After reading some of the excellent posts in this Sex & Disabilities subforum, I was feeling very inadequate and in need of some good detailed advice and information. I found a couple of websites which have some really good advice for both sex workers and for clients who have disabilities. I was thinking of summarising them here, but really they are so well written and cover so much that I think the summaries might end up longer than the originals! Anyway, here they are:

Link is broken,so has been taken down

This document is aimed primarily at sex-workers working in this field. It is very detailed. It originally comes from the TLC-Trust in the UK (I assume TLC just stands for Tender Loving Care), which is a branch of The Outsiders Trust, a social, peer support and dating club, run by and for people with invisible and visible disabilities.

The second website is the TLC's own website, which doesn't have the useful info found above for sex-workers (so far as I can see; maybe you have to register with them as a sex-worker to see it?) but does have some very detailed info for people with disability who are contemplating engaging a sex-worker:

Help and Advice | TLC Trust

tlc-trust.org.uk

 

[Plumage]

Here at least is an outline sketch of the things covered in the two websites:

Link is broken,so has been taken down

Tips for Sex Workers—
providing experiences that help the client with future partners
Meeting their needs—
skin-to-skin contact;
emotional outbursts;
having a clear ‘training’ agreement so they don’t become emotionally dependent on you;
respecting confidentiality;
expect a wide range of sexual interests;
people with vision impairment;
deafness;
cerebral palsy;
polio;
spinal injuries;
impaired genital responses;
payment

Help and Advice | TLC Trust

tlc-trust.org.uk

Advice for clients:
—advice for female clients
—cost
—making a booking: what to ask the sex-worker; points to consider; things you need to know
Stigma

 

[Plumage]

Also Rachel Wotton's 2016 PhD thesis is available online:

https://ses.library.usyd.edu.au/bit...d=AC314DC8A0A1478567F18A823C6334FA?sequence=1

The thesis is called: Sex workers who provide services to clients with disability in New South Wales, Australia

Rachel Wotton has decades of experience within the sex industry throughout Australia. She has also worked for the Sex Workers Outreach Project (SWOP NSW) and as a volunteer with Scarlet Alliance – the National Sex Worker Association of Australia.

There is a lot of really good stuff in the thesis, which is pretty easy to follow. (Not that I have read it all yet.)

 

[DeletedUser]

Amazing @Plumage and thank you for sharing, and researching.

 

[janny-ammerson]

One of the biggest myths about disabled persons is that we don't have sexual desires or sex lives or what have you. But as the two other answers stated here, we indeed do have sex lives and normal sex. Adaptions are made, but so are they made for other people as well. Lesbians, gay men who don't like anal sex, and women who have pain when penetrated.

 

[AceSportyz]

One of the biggest myths about disabled persons is that we don't have sexual desires or sex lives or what have you. But as the two other answers stated here, we indeed do have sex lives and normal sex. Adaptions are made, but so are they made for other people as well. Lesbians, gay men who don't like anal sex, and women who have pain when penetrated.

indeed, the biggest issue i have is being housebound however and how hard it makes dating in 2024 due to obvious issues that bad men have created with stranger danger and worst case scenarios it seems almost everyone ive spoken to has had