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Dating a working lady (Advice please)

I can only share my opinion but any sex or relationship I have outside of 'work' is definitely more intimate and I enjoy it much more :)

I can understand how a man would feel uneasy with his partner being a W/L. I have toyed with the idea of having a relationship whilst working and the only way I think I could do it is if he was a working man. Maybe a bad idea? Are there many men in the industry?
Plenty.... but I think you will find women arnt thier style
Men for women workers are like actors. Writers and artists.


Unemployed dreamers
 
I married a client and we are still together Thirty years later,its trust that you need,after all she keeps coming home to you.Thats the inportant thing,you like the money she brings home and the little extra's she gives you,so chill its not life threatning is it,so enjoy while it lasts as life is to short.
 
I married a client and we are still together Thirty years later,its trust that you need,after all she keeps coming home to you.Thats the inportant thing,you like the money she brings home and the little extra's she gives you,so chill its not life threatning is it,so enjoy while it lasts as life is to short.

Wow! it's great to hear of a situation that has worked and lasted the distance. I'm so pleased to hear! :)
 
Re: Dating a working lady

Sex with someone you are in a relationship and have feelings for is so much better than someone or a client that you don't feel for. I have a girl friend that is a W/L and what makes it worse she is in another country. Open communication I found is the best. I am sure she does not tell me everything but we are very honest with each other at that helps.
Although these girls have sex for a job they still need love and a supportive partner.


I agree with Perth boy, open communication is the best thing. I work to support the people in my life that I love, by choice I do not have a partner whilst working, but I need love and support too. I have some amazing people in my life that know that I work and actually respect me for it.
The bottom line is, if you can't take the heat, get out of the kitchen!
 
Interesting read. Recently visited a w/l who I have completely fallen for. Yes she is attractive and the sex was great but much more than that just feel we connected. We spoke about some personal issues concerning both of us and felt so comfortable. Yes I know most try to strike up a conservation and get you relaxed and so forth but this just felt different. So I asked if she was interested and she said why would I go out with a guy when guys pay to be with me. Guessing w/l get asked a bit so maybe a standard reaction but hoping to see her again soon and might give it another go, what are my chances do you think? I'd have no issues being with a w/l.
 
Interesting read. Recently visited a w/l who I have completely fallen for. Yes she is attractive and the sex was great but much more than that just feel we connected. We spoke about some personal issues concerning both of us and felt so comfortable. Yes I know most try to strike up a conservation and get you relaxed and so forth but this just felt different. So I asked if she was interested and she said why would I go out with a guy when guys pay to be with me. Guessing w/l get asked a bit so maybe a standard reaction but hoping to see her again soon and might give it another go, what are my chances do you think? I'd have no issues being with a w/l.
I think she gave you her answer already - see her again and be infatuated - like we all are with beautiful gorgeous smiling happy working ladies - but guard your heart...
 
I think she gave you her answer already - see her again and be infatuated - like we all are with beautiful gorgeous smiling happy working ladies - but guard your heart...

That's what I'm dreading. Normally if a girl says no I'd leave it but wasn't sure in this case. Yes I certainly see her again. Issue is I think it's more than just lust which I never thought I'd be in this position.
 
Interesting read. Recently visited a w/l who I have completely fallen for. Yes she is attractive and the sex was great but much more than that just feel we connected. We spoke about some personal issues concerning both of us and felt so comfortable. Yes I know most try to strike up a conservation and get you relaxed and so forth but this just felt different. So I asked if she was interested and she said why would I go out with a guy when guys pay to be with me. Guessing w/l get asked a bit so maybe a standard reaction but hoping to see her again soon and might give it another go, what are my chances do you think? I'd have no issues being with a w/l.

A wl and I hit it off a bit when we were arranging her first visit.. She told me she felt like she was texting an old friend... The first visit went double the time booked and money never came up.. And we had a date for the following Saturday cos we hit it off so well..

You should see her again and broach the subject if u think its same as first visit.. But if you get same answer then likely that's the only answer you will get..
 
A wl and I hit it off a bit when we were arranging her first visit.. She told me she felt like she was texting an old friend... The first visit went double the time booked and money never came up.. And we had a date for the following Saturday cos we hit it off so well..

You should see her again and broach the subject if u think its same as first visit.. But if you get same answer then likely that's the only answer you will get..

Planning to see her again this week so see how it goes. I paid upfront as usual but did spend time after chatting for a good period.
 
If you continue to pay her even a small amount, I wouldn't get too attached. The last WL I saw spent another hr with me unpaid. There is a connection but she gets married this w/e and really its just a great business relationship.

But I know how you feel. Busty strippers are my weakness and I fall in love straight away lol
 
It's hard from our POV as well, I am now sleeping with someone who met me at work, and I don't know whether he actually genuinely likes me, or whether he is just stoked he is now getting my services for free...
Damn emotions!
 
It's hard from our POV as well, I am now sleeping with someone who met me at work, and I don't know whether he actually genuinely likes me, or whether he is just stoked he is now getting my services for free...
Damn emotions!
I am sure he loves you Emily...you would feel if he didn't and move on....
 
Of course she wouldn't "feel" it. Guys have been sleeping with girls and ditching them when someone new comes along since the dawn of time. I don't get what's happening on this forum in recent months. All these guys playing the sensitive, thoughtful, romantic guy game in an attempt to impress the girls.

Em, if he takes you out (not overly romantic crap but normal guy stuff: breakfasts, bunnings, 4wding, footy, movies etc), introduces you to his mates etc he's interested in getting to know you if nothing else. If he's "taking it slow" after weeks / months and your not in his social circle he doesn't see you as anything more than sex. Cant blame a guy right :p
 
Of course she wouldn't "feel" it. Guys have been sleeping with girls and ditching them when someone new comes along since the dawn of time. I don't get what's happening on this forum in recent months. All these guys playing the sensitive, thoughtful, romantic guy game in an attempt to impress the girls.

Em, if he takes you out (not overly romantic crap but normal guy stuff: breakfasts, bunnings, 4wding, footy, movies etc), introduces you to his mates etc he's interested in getting to know you if nothing else. If he's "taking it slow" after weeks / months and your not in his social circle he doesn't see you as anything more than sex. Cant blame a guy right :p
Yep I guess it's just sex then... He won't even kiss me...
 
Yep I guess it's just sex then... He won't even kiss me...
To me that would be a fairly high indicator and if you go to kiss him and he doesn't return it then you feel it....I would anyway - sorry Magoc for being too much of soft jelly for you - we can't all be 'real men' I guess....
 
He specially told me not to kiss him!
Did you ask why? I find kissing to be so intimate and close I find it hard not to kiss when I am making love....if I am just having sex then maybe I can forgo it...How do you feel about the not kissing stuff?
 
Yep I guess it's just sex then... He won't even kiss me...

OMG babe thats terrible, I'd treat you so much nicer. I'd buy you whatever you like and take you to the best restaurants. Treat you like a queen and at night we can kiss and cuddle on the couch whilst watching the girly shows you love and you can tell me about your day. By the way did i tell you that I'm a great listener? :p

SNAG mode off ( so best you'll get is I might remember to drop the toilet seat back down!!), he definitely has no emotional feelings towards you whatsoever. He might already have a partner (due to no kissing. I did this once but its a shit thing to do lol). Either way he's simply using you for sex. If its good, might as well hang around but dont get attached.
 
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Why ,If he had feelings for you he would say yes kiss me.
If it was me I would kiss her with great passion.
But I am not the best at love and don't have much luck with ladies.
He must be a fool.
If I liked a w/l .I would love her like any lady .
 
Hmmmm....I have so much to say that I must hold back on......... Emily I understand........

I have a story to tell, but I do not know how to present it yet..........
 
I used to date a client for about a year. Personally, I don't believe they ever can really work. Firstly, you should consider how comfortable you really are acknowledging the fact she would've had her 'fair share' of men before coming home to you that night. Secondly, you should consider how comfortable you are letting your family and friends know what her profession is, because if you aren't comfortable with being honest with them there you'll have to live in a continual lie.

To answer your questions:
1. Yes, I really did enjoy having sex when I was in a relationship. It's different to having sex with a client. Honestly, I found I did become a little sick of sex after a busy weekend and I'd focus on my boyfriend's pleasure.
2. It probably won't change.
Very hard to put it all together on this one,For starters i think age does play a part in this as well. If your young and are with a W/L and you have to ask yourself did the relationship come together thru you meeting her at her job or socially, if it started from her job then i would agree with Jennifer, probably wont last. If you met her socially then things could turn out great. As you said she has told you about her job etc etc. If she does a shift and says to the receptionist i am going home to fuc my man crazy, then you at least know your doing well in the sex side of it. As has been said there is alot more to a relationship though, but sex is definately one good part of it. It gets a little more complicated when your older, just my opinion. In these times you may feel a few things you say, though if you can handle your Lady doing her job, then this shouldn't bother you and i guess there is always going to be a W/L that a guy will see and they have awesome sex for a few hours, as has been said ,(i love having sex with a stranger) how will that make you feel? Gather you get my drift and to be honest i think there are only a few that really last. On the other side i have met a couple of W/L's that are in relationships and love there job and have a few favorite clients that they have great sex with.but very rarely will see them out in public.
Hope it all works out anyhow, if your love for each other is strong enough then things should work out, very hard call in my books..
 
Thats your sign right there girl……...

Fully agree nightrider, and also what Wr3xr said.

If he wont kiss you , and has not introduced you to his mates, then he is just using you.

If I ever took up with a lady again, WL or not, I would want to introduce her to my mates ASAP and they would make her feel welcome. That is what a relationship is all about.

With a few exceptions, like Dexter !, everybody lives in a web of relationships, and when you take up with someone, either they become part of your web, or they are outside it all - i.e. by definition, not part of a relationship.

Ditch him !
 
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