Crocodile tears...

[billybones]

I was taught at a young age that men should never cry but was I taught wrong??
Not trying to sound sexist but should women be treated differently to men? Quite often I have seen a boss talk in a tone that is more harsh to a male then they would to a female?
What if she was able to shed crocodile tears in an attempt to gain a bit more sympathy?

 

[wr3xr]

Mate, your treading on dangerous grounds

i know plenty of girls who've used tears to their advantage. Both in their personal and professional lives...

Treat them differently? Damned if you do, damned if you dont sometines. They are a funny species

No reason why men cant cry. I cried in the arms of a vet nurse when my dog was in a really bad way, during Marley and Me and when i've lost close friends.

Also a great way for a guy to win an argument that is going nowhere is to cry.

Bring on those crocodile and funeral tears and you'll stand a good chance at getting lucky

It's ok for men to cry but not to be an emotional sooky lah lah.

 

[Reggie]

---NEWSFLASH---

Men treat women differently than they treat other men.

Cavemen knew this.

 

[colzilla]

You're not a regular unless a w/l bur$ts into tears on the odd occasion.

 

[HappyPirate]

Ahoy ;- Yep I agree Bro Col, Ohhhh you forgot the shoe tap and shoe stampping.
OK Guys who cry, what about an Old Pirate I got one eye and sometimes I rub Rum in my eye,
no one ever comes by and says, "Ohhh dear old Pirate". Instead they laugh and get all jolly, until I show them the way of the Plank.

You're not a regular unless a w/l bur$ts into tears on the odd occasion.

 

[colzilla]

They're like those chocolately marsh mellow thingy$. Hard on the outside soft on the inside.

 

[colzilla]

"You're evil... and I love it". Is what one nice young lady said to me a while back.

 

[colzilla]

I'm not really bad just... indifferent.

 

[homer]

I cried like a baby when I was young. I did cry like a man once. Ok a few times but they were different.
I shed tears when my rocket failed to fire in front of a w/l. I made like a tree.

 

[Dallas]

I was taught at a young age that men should never cry but was I taught wrong??
Not trying to sound sexist but should women be treated differently to men? Quite often I have seen a boss talk in a tone that is more harsh to a male then they would to a female?
What if she was able to shed crocodile tears in an attempt to gain a bit more sympathy?

A slightly different spin on this but my mother was brought up to believe that her sons shouldn't get the same emotional contact as her daughters or they'd become soft and not act like real men. So there was no hugging or cuddling for us boys... so my sister now has a great bond with my mother.. yet my mother is like just another person to me now... I had no physical contact with anyone I can recall until my first girl friend when I was 11. Wow I thought I'd died and gone to heaven!! so now I spend $$$$ on getting the physical contact I never got growing up.... I think the moral of the story is some parenting - while well intentioned - is totally screwed!! and in my families case, women were treated differently to the men.... now where is that Phych??

 

[colzilla]

My parents weren't overly loving but when the s##t hit the fan they were always$ there for me.

 

[Dallas]

Mine always took the side of other adults.. like if I was being bullied at school, they'd listen to the teachers over me. Apparently they also believed that your elders always knew more, so when my teachers said I was just imagining having the crap beaten out of me and my bruises were from falling off the play ground equipment.. mum and dad would say.. oh naughty boy - the teachers are right. So when you're parents don't trust you or hug you, there's not much of a basis for a relationship.

 

[colzilla]

Sorry to hear that.

My ma and pa always stood up for me.

 

[Miss Chloe]

Well in my family I was raised to act like a lady but think like a man. My father never treated me differently to my brother and I think this may have had some bearing on my life path into becoming a W/L. He would speak openly about sex and reguarily tell me to toughen up.

In the same note, my younger brother was treated to the same emotional upbringing from my mother. He wasalways able to cry and was never made to feel less of a man by doing so at home.

This has resuted with myself being more steareotypically "Male" and my brother being more steaotypically "Female"; emotionally speaking. i.e I work DAMN hard and am less likely to take any sort of BS (or shed tears of any kind) than my brother who is happy to end up a homemaker. He would kill me if he knew i said this though! lol

 

[Barbosa]

Ayyyyyyeeeeee
If she was able to shed crocodile tears in an attempt to gain a bit more sympathy?
Because she is aware that its just another weapon in her arsenal that she can utilise.

 

[Happy2]

A slightly different spin on this but my mother was brought up to believe that her sons shouldn't get the same emotional contact as her daughters or they'd become soft and not act like real men. So there was no hugging or cuddling for us boys... so my sister now has a great bond with my mother.. yet my mother is like just another person to me now... I had no physical contact with anyone I can recall until my first girl friend when I was 11. Wow I thought I'd died and gone to heaven!! so now I spend $$$$ on getting the physical contact I never got growing up.... I think the moral of the story is some parenting - while well intentioned - is totally screwed!! and in my families case, women were treated differently to the men.... now where is that Phych??

This may all be a generational thing too I mean we are about the same vintage Though I had elderly parents But Dad was always one who gave you a gentle cuff over the ear and the sage old words of "Don't be a sook No one likes a cry baby" And Mum had similar views Though both were quick to put an arm around the shoulder when required

 

[homer]

Awww....I'm sure you could cry again given the right set of circumstances...say at the hands of a kinky BDSM mistress!

Well, i would shed tears in your hands when we reached the peak of the pleasure zone...no bdsm required. Just lots of ooooo's and aaaah's with lots of agreement and be religious if you like.

 

[Happy2]

Well, i would shed tears in your hands when we reached the peak of the pleasure zone...no bdsm required. Just lots of ooooo's and aaaah's with lots of agreement and be religious if you like.

What is it with sex and religion We get to the moment of greatest pleasure And no matter how ardent an atheist you may be There is a massive chance you will mention God rather than say Ohhh Big Bang theory

 

[homer]

What is it with sex and religion We get to the moment of greatest pleasure And no matter how ardent an atheist you may be There is a massive chance you will mention God rather than say Ohhh Big Bang theory

We human are more adapt to saying simple words with very little syllables. Oh Big Bang theory is too hard and before you can finish saying it, your on the next wave of sensation, 2 words sensation, it's like waves up and down, up and down....you get to Oh Big then your at the foot hill Hence it's more practical to be religious. Or in total agreement.

 

[Happy2]

You become truly erudite in the last few days Homer Mr Burns been doing experiments on you?

 

[homer]

Nooo...wouldn't let that old hag near me...I been doing some side reading with my drink buddy Barney Gumble

 

[Happy2]

Some people say 'fuck' too

I wouldn't be so crass as to use a word like that Lexiexxx
Oh no I F***n wouldn't Homer and Col !

 

[colzilla]

To be truthful I don't think you've ever sworn on the forum Mr 2. Such conduct would be unbecoming of a gentleman like you.

 

[homer]

Awww that does sound like a truly lovely climax fantasy No need to be religious I just believe there is something out there...the forces of the universe are pretty impressive, don't you reckon

Definitely the law of attraction in itself is so powerful, no religion can break it apart and f*ck with it.

Some people say 'fuck' too

Yes definitely, 1 syllable, easy as you, me, or off. It's been referenced numerous time in my collection of "Fine Art". When it's been used in the right context, it works. As an adjactive, e.g. "Your f*cken gorgeous." means your so damn beautiful. or WTF? means what's going on?, etc etc...

 

[Dallas]

Oh Dallas, these posts are sad

This post has turned into an 'on the couch' session, but don't worry I'm sure we can make you feel better

First of all...I think such parents all want the best for their kids and maybe just didn't have a clue and didn't realise the pain they were causing, so if you have it in you to forgive them you could

I think it happens to so many people and most people don't self reflect, so they never realise the cause of why they are the way they are.

Secondly, there are amazing people out there, so don't be permanently jaded by your upbringing and let it stop you finding those special souls, connecting and having fulfilling relationships in all areas of your life

I really do believe genuine love is the cure

Hey Lexie! sorry I didn't mean for it to be sad, just the way it was for me that's all.

I totally agree!! I know for me, genuine love is the cure.. but it's very difficult to find .. even just a date is.... especially as a guy who has to do the asking out on a date... I've been out of dating for a long time while I was married and everyone I meet that I am genuinely attracted to now seems to be in a relationship or has come out of a bad one and doesn't want another one.

So working girls are the best until I find someone that loves me for me.

 

[Dallas]

There are a lot of duds out there for sure....most of the good ones are gone....you will find the right person...don't lower your standards though....I really believe relationships only work when people are compatible on a deep level, not just shallow bullshit and when they don't just settle and take time to find 'the one'.

I don't mind it being sad. It is what it is. It's your story and the truth. Good on you for surviving it and seeming pretty normal and nice despite it

Thanks Lexxie, If anything my standards have increased because I now understand what I'm looking for in a partner.... compatibility on a deep level... that's definitely it.!

 

[Dallas]

I recommend her Mr C, she has good advice!!

 

[homer]

Thanks for the English lesson. Now I know how to use fuck properly in a sentence. Before I had only ever used it on it's own.

Your just so welcum, mi lady. Have a fucking great day now, won't ya.

Think we could all do with a psychological assessment from Miss Sexy Lexy, Mr D.

I don't think I would fare well depending on the scale she uses. lol.

 

[colzilla]

What $cale would that be Mr H.

 

[homer]

I don't know Mr C, you need to check in with miss Sexy Lexie. Could be a scale of 1 to OMFG Your a F**kin Lunatic.