Are men selfish in sex

[Geordie Steve]

I can't speak for other men, but I am sure I'm not alone when I say, I enjoy sex, but that enjoyment is heightened when the lady dresses to please and tease.
Is it selfish to want this and should men be more thoughtful to ladies and reciprocate.

Thoughts?

 

[Kitty]

I don't think that being selfish in bed is a trait found only in males, but sex can have so many different moods and intentions, from the gratifying quickie to the 6hr long pleasure marathons. However, there is a huge difference between having sex with a partner, as opposed to having sex at them. x

 

[MikeB]

How can you ever enjoy Sex if the pleasure of the experience is not shared mutually?

Perhaps this differentiates simply having sex & lovemaking? I for 1 prefer the latter which highlights the importance of respect & connection whether with a W/L or any other partners.

 

[Xtraman]

In a nutshell yes
But we convince ourselves otherwise

 

[homer]

Any stick carrying man is most likely to be selfish, hence the term "Selfish Prick".

 

[Polkam]

Yes I most definitely am, and suffer regularly from PE, and that is NOT a good combination...whoops.....ah. That was beautiful....thanks.....

 

[Happy2]

No I am not selfish
Now roll over and be quiet This is about my orgasm,not yours

 

[XLNC]

There've been a couple of times at least when I've succeeded in getting a WL off but haven't made it to the finish myself. I still enjoyed myself and felt good having satisfied my playmate (it helps if it's someone you've seen before and genuinely like). If I were selfish, I'd probably have ensured I got over the line first and left her to find her own way to the Paradise Inn. I don't think I could be a selfish lover without feeling very guilty afterwards.

 

[Sir Cruiser]

Yes I most definitely am, and suffer regularly from PE, and that is NOT a good combination...whoops.....ah. That was beautiful....thanks.....

There is something you can do for that P, pm me for a link

 

[happytimes]

I don't think that being selfish in bed is a trait found only in males, but sex can have so many different moods and intentions, from the gratifying quickie to the 6hr long pleasure marathons. However, there is a huge difference between having sex with a partner, as opposed to having sex at them. x

Very true Kitty, you find it in both. Your point on a partner is also true but you can find that with a W/L which is very uncommon but it can and has happened.. There would be a very few on here that have but there is.. So i guess it comes to a point at some stage where you both just have to walk away from each other and not see each other again.. It can be very hard, as in a certain case the Lady was married and worked only 5hrs a week and i seen her for xx every week for along time, he didn't know about any of it.. Sooner or later it just had to stop and it did, one cause she was leaving the industry and 2 we just got to close.. That is a very true story..

 

[Raye@Langtrees]

In a nutshell yes
But we convince ourselves otherwise

 

[Raye@Langtrees]

I can't speak for other men, but I am sure I'm not alone when I say, I enjoy sex, but that enjoyment is heightened when the lady dresses to please and tease.
Is it selfish to want this and should men be more thoughtful to ladies and reciprocate.

Thoughts?

 

[Raye@Langtrees]

 

[Raye@Langtrees]

 

[happytimes]

Why is it selfish, if you treat any women with respect then most times you get it back. Whether it is a W/L or not, if you go there and treat them like there only there for your pleasure which a lot do i guess then that to me is selfish and that can be both parties as well, yeah a lot are going to say that's what you pay for but i have never seen it that way, you pay for a woman in anyway any day... All women can go thru rough times with certain guys, abusive, physical. types, though why they stay is beyond me.. So that would be my answer treat people like you want to be treated and most times you get it back!!

 

[Ginger Spice]

I think 1% of my clients have managed to get me off on there own... 5% have allowed me to come at the end... another 5% have tried and the rest are as someone mentioned before "selfish pricks" but they are there for their satisfaction not mine... Just don't complain that I dont make much noise because if i'm not feeling it, I'm not faking it... Unless I REALLY REALLY want you to get the F off me. haha

 

[Zeus]

Crazy thing....The biggest turn on for me is to see my partner enjoying herself while we are having sex and ultimately cum.
Would never think of cumming before she did and would generally want to time it so that we cum together.

 

[Sir Cruiser]

Crazy thing....The biggest turn on for me is to see my partner enjoying herself while we are having sex and ultimately cum.
Would never think of cumming before she did and would generally want to time it so that we cum together.

Not every one is the Supreme Commander of the Allied Powers Z

 

[Rochelle]

might be something that comes with age (as most of my clients are mature guys) but 80% of my clients want me to enjoy it too.........a give and take until we are both satisfied. luckily only 3% of my clients don't care about anything else than their pleasure regardless if I like it or not.......that's what I call selfish and sometimes a rather encounter.

 

[Dave Magic]

I can't speak for other men, but I am sure I'm not alone when I say, I enjoy sex, but that enjoyment is heightened when the lady dresses to please and tease.
Is it selfish to want this and should men be more thoughtful to ladies and reciprocate.

Thoughts?

Everyone else has commented on orgasms etc, but i think what you have written about being prepared is very relevant - If you expect a lady to dress to please and tease, shouldn't you do the same? Shave (and shave well!), wear clean underwear, shower , smell good and dress well! or at least dress like you want to please and be pleased.

 

[Kitty]

Everyone else has commented on orgasms etc, but i think what you have written about being prepared is very relevant - If you expect a lady to dress to please and tease, shouldn't you do the same? Shave (and shave well!), wear clean underwear, shower , smell good and dress well! or at least dress like you want to please and be pleased.

Thank you Dave! Personally there is nothing sexier than a man that smells good.. However effort is always appreciated, and will ensure that the female steps up her game to please, especially if she knows the effect it will have x

 

[Sir Cruiser]

Thank you Dave! Personally there is nothing sexier than a man that smells good.. However effort is always appreciated, and will ensure that the female steps up her game to please, especially if she knows the effect it will have x

I believe in daily cleaning and an additional one on top if you are meeting anyone that you shave, shower, dress to the part and put on some smellies. Present yourself well and treat your partner well is just common decency. Plus it makes me feel good too

 

[Cayla Cream]

Yes they are either selfish or they have googled cunnalingus and think they know what they doing. Everyone needs to find their passion. Maybe some people never do.

 

[Cayla Cream]

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[Sir Cruiser]

Yes they are either selfish or they have googled cunnalingus and think they know what they doing. Everyone needs to find their passion. Maybe some people never do.

I am always willing to learn new things and if I am not doing something correctly, I am open to being told how to. I never stop learning and I enjoy giving pleasure as it gives me pleasure to see my partner enjoying my attentions. Not all men are selfish, some may not know how to do things but who does when they start, teach them the right way to please you.

 

[XLNC]

Me too, I enjoy learning new things and am continually building my repertoire. Uninhibited communication both ways during sex is so important to make it truly mutually satisfying.

On cunninglingus, as with fellatio and hand relief for men, while there may be a generally 'right' way, each woman has her own preferences, so what works wonders with one might only elicit a "Meh" from another. So feel free to let us know what really gets your motor running. I actually like it when a woman moans "Oh yes, just like that!" so I know I've found her sweet spot at that moment in time, or "Just on my clit now, lick me faster!" so I know how close she is to nirvana. Yes, non-verbal communication usually works too but sometimes saying it out loud helps us to interpret each moan and grunt quickly (when time can be of the essence to achieving bliss) and leads to continual improvement -- and also turns me on.

Let me draw you a couple of diagrams of what I'm talking about...

 

[Winter W.]

Kevin Heart....ALL heart

 

[longjohn]

The first thing I ask the girl is what position do you orgasm the easiest .

Normally works for her.