When is it ok...

[Dez]

to ask a woman how far along she is?

 

[Master Yoda]

far along?

 

[Dez]

Pregnant?

 

[dominique lewis]

i think some people should be mindful and considerate and should find out info about the person before making a big mistake and hurting the other persons feelings and only if you really know the person is pregnant

 

[svengali]

Dead right Dominique. If the lady has just put on a couple of kilos there could be a withering stare or a slap in the making.

However, thank heavens we are past the days when pregnant women felt obliged to hide their bump under the kind of robes ladies wear in Muslim countries.

I saw one at my local shopping centre fairly recently wearing shorts and a crop top and she must have been around the seven month mark but couldn't care less what people thought.

 

[homer]

you missing a t there Tania.

 

[Farm Boy 2]

you missing a t there Tania.

Yer it should be rewriting

 

[DDxoxo]

 

[Miss Chloe]

It's not ok to ask. It's akin to touching a pregnant woman's stomach. Just don't do it - unless invited to.

 

[Dez]

I've had some time to think on this, there has been a few questions thrown my way recently and it's frustrating to say the least. I'm not pregnant. I've not just had a baby. I have had three children and that first pregnancy saw my body quite changed. I'm not blessed with those snapping back genetics that some women have and in my own way I've been walking around for ten years feeling deformed.

Even when I've lost weight and been the same as I was before having kids my stomach never 'snapped' back. I'm incredibly self conscious about it, and over the years have experienced bouts of anxiety and depression which has prevented me leaving my house, socialising and even getting dressed into day time clothing.

After the birth of my daughter three years ago I was training hard at the gym 4-5 times a week and focusing on fitness. I'm still finding it difficult to get back to that but I will eventually- zombie apocalypse impending- but even with all the hard work- I was and still am deformed.

For me it's a hard subject. I'm self aware enough to know that referring to my body as deformed is not particularly kind- but it's how I feel. For those who don't know me- I'm probably 5'2, size 12 and busty enough. To me I feel like a round ball of goop. The body image I have of myself is poor. So in recent weeks when being asked if I'm having a baby has made it a horrible confirmation of what I generally perceive of myself anyway. There cemented in reality.

But my reason for asking this plainly- was to gather some sort of information about what is it that people see when they ask that question, "how far along are you?" Because I know I'm not alone in being asked.

Is it ever ok to comment on a woman's weight or body shape, is it for the comedy of others? And if so is that how we are stuck as a society?

 

[Bluegrass9]

Strange world we live in Master Jack.
It is written that males become very protective when a lady is pregnant.
I have this primitive instinct and often wonder why I have assisted a lady to find out she is only a few weeks pregnant.

And we all come in different shape and sizes and there is more to a lady than a stomach. Not always so with a male

I remember a lady who was stripping shortly after having her baby. She was a little worried about her stomach. Her close friends including me informed her we were sure they were looking at other areas of her body. And yes she did have very sexy come to bed eyes.

 

[homer]

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I got one more to add to that,

Did you have baked beans for brekky?

 

[Ms Sue]

 

[Ms Sue]

 

[Ms Sue]

 

[Ms Sue]

I've had some time to think on this, there has been a few questions thrown my way recently and it's frustrating to say the least. I'm not pregnant. I've not just had a baby. I have had three children and that first pregnancy saw my body quite changed. I'm not blessed with those snapping back genetics that some women have and in my own way I've been walking around for ten years feeling deformed.

Even when I've lost weight and been the same as I was before having kids my stomach never 'snapped' back. I'm incredibly self conscious about it, and over the years have experienced bouts of anxiety and depression which has prevented me leaving my house, socialising and even getting dressed into day time clothing.

After the birth of my daughter three years ago I was training hard at the gym 4-5 times a week and focusing on fitness. I'm still finding it difficult to get back to that but I will eventually- zombie apocalypse impending- but even with all the hard work- I was and still am deformed.

For me it's a hard subject. I'm self aware enough to know that referring to my body as deformed is not particularly kind- but it's how I feel. For those who don't know me- I'm probably 5'2, size 12 and busty enough. To me I feel like a round ball of goop. The body image I have of myself is poor. So in recent weeks when being asked if I'm having a baby has made it a horrible confirmation of what I generally perceive of myself anyway. There cemented in reality.

But my reason for asking this plainly- was to gather some sort of information about what is it that people see when they ask that question, "how far along are you?" Because I know I'm not alone in being asked.

Is it ever ok to comment on a woman's weight or body shape, is it for the comedy of others? And if so is that how we are stuck as a society?

Tania , you have a beautiful body you look stunning and should be proud of how you look but more importantly your are a amazing women .....