What's wrong with me

[thiswayup]

Hey everyone! This is my first post but have visited this site before hopefully I'm putting this in the rite area.

I have come out a 8year relationship and have been single now for about 8months, so cool for me I hear u say. I wish that was the case!*****
I'm a pretty fit 29yr old easy enough on the eyes I'd ya like to think and can make friends and chat up woman ez enough.*****
Problem is the last two in-counters with woman I've picked up have gone terrible! On the two different occasions as were getting down to business I start to panic about what's happening! I over think what I'm doing and no matter what i do on both occasions I have lost my erection! I pretty much try make thinks up like I'm really drunk or tired but feel so dump and get out of there as quick as I can.
I can't get these thoughts out of my head and it's killing me....softly.*****
Help please what can I so to fix this!

 

[buffy69]

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[colzilla]

You can have plenty of fun with a woman and not even stick your dick in. A hug and a squeeze is always fun. She might even be riveting conversation. Sex isn't the be all and end all.

 

[Rochelle]

Hi thiswayup......don't think women only enjoy sex when your dick is hard and pumping. There are so many other ways to skin the cat......no need to just focus on your dick. (how about a nice long tongue? or a soft fingering of certain areas?) Be creative. :hello:

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[Cristal dirtyslut hotbabe]

keep your chin up...Smile and time is a healer. Your confidence will grow and eventually you will be back in swing of things. Take your time, find a girl who is gentle and passionate...The last thing you want is someone like me...LOL, you'd be leaving in a body bag lol


xx

 

[shiftyvin69]

cristal maybe you are the exact thing he needs to get his confidence back.

 

[msmagdelena]

thiswayup
I can only say go slow, take your time & performance will return once you get over your ex.
Hard & fast may not be what you need. And thinking too much about your performance will be sure to give you "performance anxiety".
I wish you well & maybe choose girls to take home that you actually can chat to so at least you can be comfortable with them prior to performing.

Regards,
Ms M

 

[Chanel]

how about coming to langtrees for some treesome :3some: he he he that may help you relax a bit .look i thing you just need time to get over your 8 year relationship so just relax and take it easy .xoxoxoxoxox




chanel

 

[thiswayup]

Wow, Thank u all for answering my questions.

It prob wouldn't be a bad idea then to chat to someone about the breakup and other stuff going on in my head at the time. Also sounds like a great idea to go langtress for a threesome haha! ;-P
Sounds interesting / scary Cristal haha
I'm also well aware that there's more to it the just sticking my dick in, and believe me I love going down and using my tongue and fingers and don't like to come up till the job is done

They are one nightstands maybe I should hit them on the head for awhile, its been awhile since i was single so I think I just over think what's happening, talking may help see how I go.
Thanks again

 

[homer]

i fink don't put too much focus on your weener. It is shy with your brain constantly monitoring it. lol...put focus on pleasure, enjoy the moment. A hug a tease, the little one does not need to salute straight away. It's ok to take a bit of time. I am sure most women, would enjoy some or lots of foreplay before the friction starts.

 

[Haste69]

Mate, do the dinner date, but very little alcohol, by the time you get to bed it will be like old times!

 

[msmagdelena]

If you need or are looking for a person to talk to... I am a qualified individual, relationship & sex counsellor/therapist (18yrs). I work privately but you may message me directly for more information.

 

[wcmonger]

Mate i can assure u if u take Chanel up on her offer you will be cured!!!!!

Other option is to keep a Cialis on you & if you look like scoring take it 20 mins before.

Will make things work when you are over thinking & I know exactly what you are experiencing. Once you get these fucked thoughts the smallest thing can cause you to get stage fright so to speak & the more you stress about it the worse it gets.

C or V pills will get things straight & get your confidence back.

Warning: i am not a doctor or therapist so please do not try this at home!

 

[~Dragons_Princess~]

I'm a bit late here and I may be wrong but you were in an 8 year relationship with your ex, that is a long time, I think that possibly you are still not over her completely and your anxiety could be attributed to still having an internal sense of cheating on her when you are intimate with another girl?

If that's the case then it is completely understandble, 8yr relationships just don't disappear from your heart, you sound like a sweet guy, maybe you will just have to let time heal this one, I don't think forcing yourself to screw other people will benefit you mentally... Just my 2 cents

 

[AlexandraSilk]

an 8 year relationship with your ex, that is a long time, I think that possibly you are still not over her completely and your anxiety could be attributed to still having an internal sense of cheating on her when you are intimate with another girl?

I agree Princess. Take your time Thiswayup. Maybe invest some time in the women you want to sleep with Build a repore. It will drive them wild when you don't sleep with them straight away. So when it does happen there will be so much more enjoyment and less stress (hopefully)

 

[WRXXXR]

They are one nightstands maybe I should hit them on the head for awhile, its been awhile since i was single so I think I just over think what's happening, talking may help see how I go.
Thanks again

You just got out of an 8 year relationship so your probably just not used to being so far out of your comfort zone.

Nothings wrong with you, its exactly like you said, you're over thinking these things. Stop that and you'll be rocking a hard on in no time!

Do as every bloke before you has done and go out, have a shit load of fun, dont worry about what the ex is doing and start a new chapter of your life. Remember women are like opportunities, grasp them when their in reach.

Play safely and remember the 3 F's during this phase. Your not out to find the next mrs thiswayup!

 

[thiswayup]

Thanks everyone for all the advise and kind words.
Think I'll take everyones advise and forgot about trying to hook up and just go out, stress less and party.
Feel like I've been missing out that's all 8years is a long time, but I'll chill for now, defo not looking for another misses just wana fuck around ya no get freaky and see what's changed haha!

Cheers again guys & girls! :notworthy

 

[Miss Delights]

Thanks everyone for all the advise and kind words.
Think I'll take everyones advise and forgot about trying to hook up and just go out, stress less and party.
Feel like I've been missing out that's all 8years is a long time, but I'll chill for now, defo not looking for another misses just wana fuck around ya no get freaky and see what's changed haha!

Cheers again guys & girls! :notworthy

I'm with you honey..I find it soo hard to hook up after a relationship, generally takes me a year to move on..guess I was just lucky with my profession that I could get laid in the mean time lolccasion14:love76::icon_boun

 

[Chanel]

Thanks everyone for all the advise and kind words.
Think I'll take everyones advise and forgot about trying to hook up and just go out, stress less and party.
Feel like I've been missing out that's all 8years is a long time, but I'll chill for now, defo not looking for another misses just wana fuck around ya no get freaky and see what's changed haha!

Cheers again guys & girls! :notworthy[/QUOT



very good decision honey ,you should enjoy your life xoooxoxox take care :hello:

chanel

 

[Fudd]

....guess I was just lucky with my profession that I could get laid in the mean time....

....hahahaha.....what a pearler of an observation.....hahaha