What if the x punter was married when he was a punter???

[Sammi1974]

Ok, so this thread is to respond to a question I was asked which was

What if the x punter was married when he was a punter???

when I posted the below on the following thread

Link is broken so has been taken down ​

I have opened a new thread being that my response may cause some reactions.

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It does seem to be a sticky situation.

A friend of mine was in the industry but quit about 3 years ago. Her previous partners knew she was a working lady, whilst she was working, but the ex boyfriend and the new beau that she is seeing don't know.

When I asked her about this, she felt that it would somehow lower his esteem of her, if she admitted to being an ex-working girl. Her thinking also that the past is the past, and she's sure that he has secrets that he hasn't told her.

But the reality is, is that some people really do take issue with you being either an ex-working girl or ex-punter. For some the exchange of money for services is a problem for them. Yet if you just randomly slept with 50 partners etc, that was more acceptable.

Its a funny old world we live in, and we all make judgements about people everyday.

I personally would date an ex-punter over a cheater any day (but that's my own judgement).
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Farmboy that depends entirely on whether the other partner was aware that they are punter. If they did, then I have no issue with that person being a possible prospective partner of mine. The issue I have is the cheating, non disclosure etc to a person in which you are suppose to be having a loving relationship with.

I don't care whether the person is monogamous, polyamory or has an open marriage. If there is an agreement for the person to be sexual monogamous and that person chooses to go against that agreement, is what I have an issue with.

Just as if they have an open marriage, unless its a DADT (Dont ask, Dont tell) arrangement and BOTH parties agree to that arrangement, then someone that is married and is a punter, I have no issue with, unless of course, working ladies were specifically banned from that agreement.

Hope that makes sense.

 

[johnlou]

hi Sammi , all I can say is no one can answer this question as there are too many variables to the human being personalities clash with a drop of a hat .

john

 

[TheRoamingEyeball]

hi Sammi , all I can say is no one can answer this question as there are too many variables to the human being personalities clash with a drop of a hat .

john

I agree that there are many variables to the human being, but I feel the question can be answered, just as a matter of personal preference

It seems the focus of Sammi1974's post is that her personal preference is regardless of punting history, it would be on whether the person is capable of cheating on someone or not, and if they are Sammi will say a very loud hell no thank you!

I would definitely join her in that hell no too, as my personal preference is to avoid selfish cowards. Big fan of consent in all forms!

 

[Miss Delights]

hi Sammi , all I can say is no one can answer this question as there are too many variables to the human being personalities clash with a drop of a hat .

john

Well said, this is my thoughts completely everyone is so different 7 there are soo many different outcomes this could have eventuate, in the end everyone has the right to do as they want with their life & also that there is no text book reaction for such circumstances.... (Personally I am loud & proud & that works for me)

 

[Chloe xox]

I believe the past should stay in the past. If a lady is working and practicing safe sex, it is a lot better than picking up 50 randoms and not enforcing the practice of safe sex. At least both parties know what is expected of them during a service. Id rather an ex punter than a flat out cheater any day, thats just my opinion.

Miss Chloe xoxo

 

[Perth boy]

Sammi I just came across your tread. Haha.

I know a few guys personally including me that are married but from time to time punt.

Now for me I punt because my wife has issues with sex. But NO way would I ever get involved with a non working girl. Once emotions get into a 2nd relationship it would distroy your marriage.

I did separate from my wife for a while and thought would I tell any new lady that I punted. No way!! What's done is past history and most lady's just would not understand.

 

[Naio]

I agree whats in the past should stay there.....but just wondering....have you mentioned to your wife that there is a problem with your sex life or tried to look at ways to improve it? *just curious*

Sammi I just came across your tread. Haha.

I know a few guys personally including me that are married but from time to time punt.

Now for me I punt because my wife has issues with sex. But NO way would I ever get involved with a non working girl. Once emotions get into a 2nd relationship it would distroy your marriage.

I did separate from my wife for a while and thought would I tell any new lady that I punted. No way!! What's done is past history and most lady's just would not understand.

 

[Perth boy]

I agree whats in the past should stay there.....but just wondering....have you mentioned to your wife that there is a problem with your sex life or tried to look at ways to improve it? *just curious*

Naio it's been a long struggle for us both for many years. We have been to a few counselers, have been to a well known sex therapist, done meditation, have changed diets have tried scedualed sex, have had trips away in romantic locations including Paris and Venice.

We have tried the lot and very aware of each other thoughts and needs. But intimacy is a issue because of child hood sexual abuse.
Not happy about punting but W/L's saved my insanity and marriage.