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Thatguy
You have something on your mind that you want to stop thinking about? How do you get it off your mind??
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By staying present to those thoughts and feelings and accepting these thoughts and feelings. Let them be and let them pass.
Trying to avoid or escape them will just have them resist getting out of your existence.
Trying to avoid or escape them will just have them resist getting out of your existence.
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Thatguy
and if the thoughts are about wanting to contact someone you know you probably shouldnt contact.. and would be better not doing so?
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laceyjoy
You just got to except that there is no point in fighting these thoughts, like everything else they will pass in time.
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Your conflict in making contact or not is a tell tale sign that no actions or decisions should take place until these feelings have passed.
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Ahoy either go have a Punt, or go by a bottle off Rum. The hangover is shocking but at least you Arrrr still sane.
Cheers and Pass the Rum
Cheers and Pass the Rum
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Thatguy
Ya i know.. i just wish i could stop thinkn about it.. then it would be easier..
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Ahoy ThatGuy, Go get your wallet and give Langtrees reception a ring, go spend some cash$$$$ book a double.
Once you leave get a bottle of Rum and have a drink.
I promise you will have smile and have something nice to say about "Old Custy-Grumpy Pirates" LOL
Once you leave get a bottle of Rum and have a drink.
I promise you will have smile and have something nice to say about "Old Custy-Grumpy Pirates" LOL
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Raye@Langtrees
Thatguy...if it's not too damaging ....then tackle it head on with no fear and get the answer your
looking for. Then get drunk
looking for. Then get drunk
sqizza
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Good question. Now where did HP put his rum bottle I need a drink while I think.
Take time out for yourself and try to relax. Just because something is on your mind as hard as it sounds try not o think about it constantly be patient and wait and see what happens. Occupy your mind with something else find something stimulate your mind. When your mind is stimulated you will find yourself subconsciously not thinking about whatever it is that is bothering you.
If you are blaming yourself for something don’t play the blame game. People often do that They think about past events and then in deeper thought start assigning blame for that event to some person or thing and usually that person is themselves.
Try not to fall into the thoughts of others Don’t try and think what someone else is thinking use your own thoughts and think logically not irrationally.
If whatever is on your mind makes you angry deal with the anger as anger will cloud judgment and rational thinking
If it involves another person don’t try and work them out because you won’t. You would not have a clue what is going through their mind the same as they would not have an inkling of an idea what is really going through your mind.
Deep thought can evoke emotions such as fear anxiety stress Try and concentrate on the facts as they are and not the false facts the mind subconsciously creates This will alleviate the stress and anxiety.
Always be true to yourself
Take time out for yourself and try to relax. Just because something is on your mind as hard as it sounds try not o think about it constantly be patient and wait and see what happens. Occupy your mind with something else find something stimulate your mind. When your mind is stimulated you will find yourself subconsciously not thinking about whatever it is that is bothering you.
If you are blaming yourself for something don’t play the blame game. People often do that They think about past events and then in deeper thought start assigning blame for that event to some person or thing and usually that person is themselves.
Try not to fall into the thoughts of others Don’t try and think what someone else is thinking use your own thoughts and think logically not irrationally.
If whatever is on your mind makes you angry deal with the anger as anger will cloud judgment and rational thinking
If it involves another person don’t try and work them out because you won’t. You would not have a clue what is going through their mind the same as they would not have an inkling of an idea what is really going through your mind.
Deep thought can evoke emotions such as fear anxiety stress Try and concentrate on the facts as they are and not the false facts the mind subconsciously creates This will alleviate the stress and anxiety.
Always be true to yourself
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Thatguy
Thatguy...if it's not too damaging ....then tackle it head on with no fear and get the answer your
looking for. Then get drunk
It would be too damaging..
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Thatguy
The situation in question left me very low.. lower than ive ever been.. but because of distance and time.. i was starting to find my way back and find myself again..
However the person in question is now back and making contact.. wanting to at least be friends.. but my feelings for her have not changed..so i asked for some space to heal..
She thinks i dont need it and is finding it hard to stop contacting me.. she says she needs me.. needs to see me.. so it has me thinking about her again and the 'what ifs' ...
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Yeah Thatguy I hear what you saying..... the body and mind greaves, it takes time to heal. Sadly it's a slow process finding the path that brings you back....but nothing hurts more than being disappointed by the person you thought would never hurt you.
However...her selfishness and complete disregard to how you feel, to suddenly appear BAM!!! she needs you......she needs to see you....she wants to be friends.....she can't stop contacting you....WTF ? Now she's got you thinking about her again.....and your asking yourself about the WHAT IFS....remember Thatguy it's not love that hurts, it's being hurt by someone you love.
However...her selfishness and complete disregard to how you feel, to suddenly appear BAM!!! she needs you......she needs to see you....she wants to be friends.....she can't stop contacting you....WTF ? Now she's got you thinking about her again.....and your asking yourself about the WHAT IFS....remember Thatguy it's not love that hurts, it's being hurt by someone you love.
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Ahoy stay strong and stay away from her, to you she very toxic
That my 2 cents worth
That my 2 cents worth
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This is the hardest part to deal with because with every lie there is a grain of truth, and with every true statement there is a lie. Remember the adage, "I know that you believe you understand what you think I said, but I'm not sure you realize that what you heard is not what I meant." Overtime they will be caught in their own web of lies. Listen to you own inner voice, don't be their puppet. Think logically,