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princesssuzie

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To Any Married Couples or Partner Relationships,

How do you feel about your man with another woman? Is there a jealousy thing or do you not have any problems just as long as they're enjoying themselves as much as you. Do you ever feel that they might enjoy themselves more with someone else than you and is this a problem?

Slavegirl Suzie
 
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lickedysplit

That is huge question..i think 80% of women expect there partners to be manogamous. and i don't think the 'woman' would be upset because "he might have a better time with someone else," i think it more of an emotional attachment they fear, the fear of loss.. this only apply's to the monogamous relationship.. it all depends on what promises and oaths you made to each other when entering the relationship. If you both agree to have an open sex life then thats great,but if one partner feels they can and has forgot to tell the other that is what he or she is doing, then that makes them unloyal and untrustworthy.
I can understand men seeing working ladies, i would prefer my man to see a w/l than a lady he worked with or a personal friend as that is were the emotions get involved. With paid sex that isn't really a factor. I feel women, if fullfilling there men sexually, then hubby should be happy, but in a lot of relationships that is not the case and there is no pleasing them no matter how hard one trys. Some women can also use sex as tool over a man.

But at the end of the day it is what you both have agreed upon...

Jealousy is a deep emotion, often stronger than that of love or hate, it is only natural to feel it or act on it. Sometimes we agree to things for our partners in order to keep them happy also which inevitably leads to jealousy if those things agreed upon actually take place...

How many times do you hear someone say "I don't mind" "thats fine" or "ok"
when they really dont mean it but say it because some people are just crowd pleasers.. or they think it is easier to agree than disagree, all these regular every day occurences will lead to misunderstandings, anger and frustration and possibly jealousy...

As long as everyone is absolutely sure they are doing things for the right reasons it shouldn't be a problem..

fear of loss
fear of change
can both be misconstrued as jealousy..
powerful and amazing emotion.

to what extent do we enjoy making our partners jealous??
to what extent do we need to see jealousy from our partners to feel we are loved?
 
princesssuzie

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Just Curious

Hi Lickedysplit

I think you're a very wise woman, thankyou for your thoughts.

Slavegirl Suzie
 
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cat in the hat

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'Tis what I referred to in my introduction, if I may intrude on the ladies' discussion. Why is it ok for the woman to go with any number of partners, male or female, and it be deemed "exploring her sexuality", but the guy is not allowed to play as well, otherwise it is "emotional and/or physical deceit"?
This is not just my experience; a couple of veterans I know corroborate this as well.
 
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Mary Anne PA

Grunks say

Me have three women in cave. Each women different, has different needs. Also a lot easier to keep cave clean. Cave have no door so always open for someone new. Variety is the spice of life.
 
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lickedysplit

Cave man got the right idea..Its all ok as long as everyone knows the door doesn't close .... and everyone is aware of what there getting into and what they will get out of it!!!
 
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cat in the hat

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Serena, veteran swingers. They agree that when in a relationship and their wives/ girlfriends have indulged with other partners, the same ladies get mighty peeved when the man wants a turn with someone new and this causes problems.

Great for you Caveman, but because I'm married I have to respect what my wife wants.
 
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cat in the hat

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Oh yeah, and what about you Slavegirl? If you are married, what are your thoughts on this, ie are you free to play but your partner is not, or is this an evolving issue for you?
 
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Mary Anne PA

I thought swinging was about both couples agreeing to what they both want.. or nothing happens at all.

If you swing you have to be prepared to things to happen, but only if you BOTH agree. If you can't then this needs to be out in the open at the beginning.
Make the rules from the start.
what do you want.. and what is okay with you.
If you can swing, then I should be able to also.
If I can't, then you can't either...
depends on whether you want to bring a male, a female, a couple into your relationship.
set your boundaries and rules from the start.
If you can't... then I believe you shouldn't swing at all my luv.
that will stop all grieviences.
 
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Mickyduck

I presume Slave girl is directing her question at our caucasian, christian society. Do you think it relates to those cultures where men take multiple wives, or those where it's acceptable for husband to have mistress and wife - gigolo. Is the jealousy issue a result of the rules our society has imposed upon us to differentiate us from "animals".

Should we teach Love and Lust as two different acceptable emotions?

I am sure both sexes can engage in the act with one and love another!!!

The difficulty we have, is that our society says the act of making love is the ultimate expression of love......BUT....IS IT??
 
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Vyxxxn

slavegirlsuzie said:
To Any Married Couples or Partner Relationships,

How do you feel about your man with another woman? Is there a jealousy thing or do you not have any problems just as long as they're enjoying themselves as much as you. Do you ever feel that they might enjoy themselves more with someone else than you and is this a problem?

Slavegirl Suzie
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I am not in any p/ship at the moment but have been and discussed this...IMHO it wouldn't matter....if my man loves me and both in agreeance why should there be a prob, it's the sex thats happening....not love...purely physical emotion not an emotional one....and if they reckoned they enjoyed themselves more-so, then I'd be asking them to show me how to give them the same pleasure....and this should go both ways...how do men feel also?
 
Marriedman82

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Ok, so this ones for the married couples, partner or peeps who've been in serious long term relationships.
Have you ever wanted your other half to be with someone else? Either watching or just being told all the details after? I would love to surprise her with a male escort.
Bit of history; we have been to the then pleasure lounge but would never partake in the festivities, had a few mmf threesomes with a friend of mine and now I'd just love to watch my wife be pleasured by another man or come home and be told how bad she was while out with the girls. Don't get me wrong would still love another mmf but more focussed on her.
 
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