True friends or fake friends??

[Perth boy]

Is it just me?

I am a straight shooter and tell it as it is but this gets me into trouble sometimes. If I don’t like someone I don’t believe in faking it. I will not be rude to them but cannot see the point in faking a friendship. I know a few people that are friends with people for what they have not the true person they are. I don’t agree with this, a friend needs to be true and loyal.

I have a very good long term friend that told me I need to be friends with someone because of who they are (this person happens to be a Polly). I find this person fake, and pretentious and I just don’t like them. This person calls me to play golf or have a drink or lunch with. I want to tell this person I am not interested in being friends. Happy to say hi and shake a hand in public but just not friends. Problem is this person helps my good friend in business.

I am torn between looking out for my true friend and my issues with fake friendships.

What would you do? Do I do as I have always done and be nice but tell them what I feel or do I keep my mouth shut and play the game.

 

[HappyPirate]

Ahoy;- Commonly today, any work place and any person holding a postion, is completely full of fake freindship. Sadly my opion is that you need to learn to play the game. The only nice thing is hopefully in your private life you can choose your own freindships.

 

[homer]

tell it straight to your true friend. you dont do fake friendships. If my friend wants me to do this, I would tell him I don't want to be friend with someone I don't feel good about. End of story.

 

[WRXXXR]

If it helps your good mate, i think it's worth being nice and friendly to the other bloke. Sure he might be a twat but if it helps your mate out its worth a bit of sacrifice.

 

[billybones]

Ever notice when politicians go to shake hands they turn towards the camera and smile as they are about to do so? I wonder what is really going on inside their heads...

 

[Justlookin]

I know what you are saying about Polly's. Polenisians are the worst

 

[colzilla]

My principals don't have price and if I don't like someone both of us know it.

Don't waste time with fake people.

 

[Contrarian]

"Those are my principles, and if you don't like them... well, I have others." - Groucho Marx

 

[Tony S]

Tell your friend how you feel and that you do not wish to entertain the Polly. When the Polly calls to ask you out, just refuse but don't be rude about it.

 

[Reggie]

I look at it from your mates point of view. Is a free lunch or a round of golf such a big ask? If you absolutely hate the Pollie then don't go as you will risk making things worse for your mate, ie- you have a few beers at lunch and tell the Pollie what you think. If you can at least stomach the guy, do your mate a solid but make it clear it won't be a regular thing. Relationships like this can be beneficial to everyone concerned, it's the way the world works. Plus then your mate owes you one, again, how the world works. Saying you are 'too honest' to have this kind of relationship is ridiculous and sounds like an easy out to me, unless of course your mate wants you to f#^k the guy. If he is your mate I don't think it is such a big ask and could easily benefit you in the future. Just a thought, or maybe I am a believer in Karma.

 

[Contrarian]

Well like they say, if you want to meet princes, you gotta kiss asses.

 

[Rochelle]

You are not the only one PB. I am a straight shooter as well with a touch of diplomacy.........let's say it depends how you say it as much as what you say. But I do speak my mind.
Now over the years I experienced the fact that real friends are hard to find especially in the age of fake friends (mind you......how many friends do you have on face book?)
But I do believe that real friends last for life and I am happy to might get a handful together. And in saying that there is nothing wrong with temporary friend ships....like mates at work (if we last after changing jobs then there is a real chance for a real friendship.)
I do prefer a good mix of real friends and temporary friends. Let's face it real friends are a lot of maintenance.....so how many can you actually have without neglecting them?

R.xxxxxxx

 

[Thatguy]

Ive pretty much lost all faith in friendships after some recent events in my life with someone I felt very close to... thought of her like a little sister...

So I pretty much have no close or even good friends and can't see that changing any time soon...

 

[colzilla]

Friends are for wimps. I'll take cold hard cash any day. Most of my favourite people I paid to be with.
$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$

 

[Dallas]

Since my divorce I lost pretty much all my friends - they seem to be my ex's friends now, something I wasn't expecting so I'm like Col in that respect, give me cash so I can be around my favourite people here.

 

[Tony S]

You can stop a Polly from asking by actually meeting up and asking sensitive questions, questions that they are uncomfortable to answer. Believe me they will stop asking you out.

 

[homer]

i take plastic money anytime but not plasticky friends.

 

[stovo82]

fake friends are frenemies and they are worse than enemies. there is nothing worse than an ex or someone rejecting you and using let's be friends line. Cowards use weak cop out lines like that. It would be much better if they were open and said they were not interested and you should go away.

when you come into wealth you seem to attract a lot more fake friends who suddenly become interested in you. You know who your true friends are when you face troubled times.

 

[HappyPirate]

Ahoy, more Treasure is a delight, but attracts more fake freinds. Its my Treasure and I am not sharing.