Talking dirty...some advice please

[Buk]

I've never really got into or understood dirty talk during sex. Perhaps it was lack of many partners in my youth, moving from town to town in north west with work or lack of opportunity to visit brothels or the fact that I'm a very tactile person who is concentrates more on the female body than concentrating on what to say. Several ladies I've been with on a casual basis over last several years have used sex talk during our encounters and I have found it unreal, awkward and humorous and have found myself chuckling and even laughing aloud, much to the annoyance of the ladies. I guess at my age the following sound like really dumb questions, nevertheless, my request to both men and women on this forum is 1. Please let me know if sex/dirty talk turns you on or alternatively does little for you. 2. What are some words, sentences,phrases you have used successfully or received from your customer or partner that have worked really well in spicing up a sexual session. That is, what do women want to hear? What do men like to hear? 3. I want to delve into this approach but subtly and carefully or I'll end up laughing in a session and make a real dick of myself. Any hints gratefully accepted. Thanks.

 

[XLNC]

1. Yes, an audio track is helpful in getting the juices flowing.
2. What different people want to hear varies widely from person to person, I think anyway. E.g. some girls like being called a slut during sex, but others would probably slap you and knee you in the groin. I don't feel comfortable using such epithets so I don't, at least not with girls I like (i.e. most of them). For me good sex talk is often about open communication, hearing what she likes and letting her know what I like, and often is expressed in moans or semi-coherent sentences.
3. Don't force it, just go with what comes naturally depending on who you are with. Sex talk doesn't always have to be 'dirty' as such, and really dirty talk is not always sexy. Also, don't be afraid to have a giggle, as long as you're not laughing at her, but with her. Humour can be sexy too.

 

[Buk]

1. Yes, an audio track is helpful in getting the juices flowing.
2. What different people want to hear varies widely from person to person, I think anyway. E.g. some girls like being called a slut during sex, but others would probably slap you and knee you in the groin. I don't feel comfortable using such epithets so I don't, at least not with girls I like (i.e. most of them). For me good sex talk is often about open communication, hearing what she likes and letting her know what I like, and often is expressed in moans or semi-coherent sentences.
3. Don't force it, just go with what comes naturally depending on who you are with. Sex talk doesn't always have to be 'dirty' as such, and really dirty talk is not always sexy. Also, don't be afraid to have a giggle, as long as you're not laughing at her, but with her. Humour can be sexy too.

Thanks XLNC much appreciated. One lady I see mostly and have for a few years, has used some minimal sex talk which I initially found 'insincere' (thought it a bit of a joke) but have since taken her sex talk (she doesn't say a lot) more on board and more positively as I realised she was using it also to assist me (as I recovered from an operation) in our sexual passion. And when I understood this and got into the mood she was creating for me, I could really get into what she was saying, thus memorable sessions. Although we chat a lot, I'm still hesitant to try the sexy talk myself with her in case I make a fool of myself. Maybe I should ask her what she likes to hear, though that sounds a bit premeditated or contrived. Still, if I don't ask or give it a go........

 

[Kylie Middleton]

I'm sure a lot of people will disagree but I feel it probably has something to do with the type of porn people watch. My partner really enjoys hearing me talk dirty and I never really understood it until I saw what he was watching and then I realized he almost just associated sex with talking like that. My advice if you want to learn to talk dirty is to watch porn. You won't sound any sillier than them

 

[XTREME]

i watch alil bit of short clip porn online and there is alot of moaning and they say..
i want to...
i want you to....
come and... (do this, do that..)
ur (private part) is so... (big, nice, sweet, smooth, wet etc)

 

[Ginger Spice]

I like dirty talking but it is very difficult if it is just sprung on me. Like if a client just goes "talk dirty in my ear for me" I freak out sometimes because I don't know how dirty he/she/they want me to talk. Its easier when it's just a one on one thing as well. It's one of those things that three is definitely a crowd with me, rather one person think I'm weird then two

 

[kencan]

I have only had one who loved and I mean loved to talk dirty as we had sex. She loved it back. I have to say that it was very exciting for me.
I know it is different but I used to use the fone fuck services when they were the in thing. Not the same as real sex , but did the job . I guess that phone sex is a thing of the past ,maybe the internet and sex sites have killed it.

 

[Dallas]

I love dirty talk and it can really push the right buttons in me and my partner especially when she asks for it, but it has to be the right words with the right partner at the right time and I usually let her initiate it because it's definitely not something I'd do unless she was really into it.

 

[Dallas]

I have only had one who loved and I mean loved to talk dirty as we had sex. She loved it back. I have to say that it was very exciting for me.
I know it is different but I used to use the fone f**k services when they were the in thing. Not the same as real sex , but did the job . I guess that phone sex is a thing of the past ,maybe the internet and sex sites have killed it.

I think phone sex ended because people were worried about getting hearing aids

 

[kencan]

I think phone sex ended because people were worried about getting hearing aids

So that is what caused my deafness.I thought it wa supposed to make you go blind.

 

[Dallas]

So that is what caused my deafness.I thought it wa supposed to make you go blind.

Hehe oh maybe it does both!

 

[happytimes]

Phone sex to me i have never done, with good reason.. Talking dirty in sex depends so much on the Lady your with, i have found that Ladies who like to scream and moan do like to hear dirty talk and nearly always ask you to fuc them harder etc,To the point fuc fuc fuc me harder and when you do the more they talk dirty to you, Guess it comes back to experience with Ladies that like that, i do like to hear it and talk dirty back to them, like you love being fuced etc etc, then on the other hand a Lady that shows very little emotion doesn't get me off at all and i can say that hasn't happened hardly ever with the amount of women i have been with and you definately know when someone fakes it,... A great example of diry talk was with one very popular lady that i never had seen but met her at a certain place and long story short we got together after the W...., it was an hr booking which turned into probably a 5 hr booking as she thru the alarm clock of the beside table when it went off and told me to keep fucing her, which went from the bed to the floor to the table and so on and all that time she was just telling me to fuc her so much with alot of other dirty talk from both of us, she was an awesome lady and by that stage she was working by herself with 1 other lady in EAST PERTH.. I don't really think it has anything to do with porn movies, more the fact that 2 people get right in to each other and just let all emotions go, just what u need when a 1hr visit turns into 5 for the price of the 1hr, so i guess that says something in it self, only seen her 1 more time with a mate for a 3some, wasn't long after she left the industry, moved on with her guy and so on.. Hope all is well if you still read the forum.. (i'm sure u do xx)

 

[Lacie4U]

I love dirty talk and it can really push the right buttons in me and my partner especially when she asks for it, but it has to be the right words with the right partner at the right time and I usually let her initiate it because it's definitely not something I'd do unless she was really into it.

I agree completely Dallas...it just has to be right on many levels but when it works its quite PERFECT