size does matter

[jst4fun]

:sign4:


I'm with a new partner and thought all my sexual dreams had come true when i saw how huge (length) he is :love10:

But OMG no, pain, excruciating pain. So off to the Dr who said all was well with me. He hit the net to see what advice was to be had (sweetie) and he is very gentle and concerned.The advice we have found says i am anxious and not aroused enough (well bracing for pain will do that) and try other positions. Ok we will work on the arousal and relaxation part.

My question to you all is. Does anyone have any suggestions about positions that will help with this problem. It would be lovely to be intimate without the fear of pain.

Greatly appreciated in advance.
J4f

 

[Bluegrass9]

I suggest he stands back ten paces.

Seriously some positions do not allow the penis to go as deep. Buy a sex manual and enjoy the adventure.
:walk:

 

[crystalbelle]

may i ask how big he is??? maybe lots of lube would help, other than that i have no idea!!!

 

[DeeAnn D]

:sign4:


I'm with a new partner and thought all my sexual dreams had come true when i saw how huge (length) he is :love10:

But OMG no, pain, excruciating pain. So off to the Dr who said all was well with me. He hit the net to see what advice was to be had (sweetie) and he is very gentle and concerned.The advice we have found says i am anxious and not aroused enough (well bracing for pain will do that) and try other positions. Ok we will work on the arousal and relaxation part.

My question to you all is. Does anyone have any suggestions about positions that will help with this problem. It would be lovely to be intimate without the fear of pain.

Greatly appreciated in advance.
J4f

You didn't say what position you guys were in when it happened you would be anxious about it just thinking about it and bracing for it would tighten the muscles up more as well. So relaxation pays a big part more lube helps and more foreplay too. There is a fine line between pain and pleasure just relax and the pleasure will kicks in. I would say missionary mite be the way go for the time being.

 

[jst4fun]

Thanks everyone, embarrasingly enough he read this and thinks it's all great advice.

A manual sounds like a solution and could be a lot of fun, might end up hanging fro the ceiling, might also push some of those comfort boundaries too.

How big is he?? I've no idea and he won't say. OUCH inches???? I will work this out tomorrow. Yes lots of water based lube is called for i think.

Um, what position weren't we in when it first happened. It continues to happen though, and i think bracing is a big part of the problem. So lots of pampering, relaxing and foreplay is on the cards, yeah!
j4f

 

[DeeAnn D]

Thanks everyone, embarrasingly enough he read this and thinks it's all great advice.

A manual sounds like a solution and could be a lot of fun, might end up hanging fro the ceiling, might also push some of those comfort boundaries too.

How big is he?? I've no idea and he won't say. OUCH inches???? I will work this out tomorrow. Yes lots of water based lube is called for i think.

Um, what position weren't we in when it first happened. It continues to happen though, and i think bracing is a big part of the problem. So lots of pampering, relaxing and foreplay is on the cards, yeah!
j4f

OHHH yerrrr and get the measuring tape LOL LOL

 

[DeeAnn D]

Or go to a bar and ask him how many 50c pieces he can cover on there on the slack LOL LOL ohh dear now i being naughty LOL

 

[jst4fun]

Oh Sexypuss, he's reading this from another computer and being a pet. "i don't understand" he exclaims innocently. Despite my screams of both pleasure and pain can you believe he STILL needs reassurance.

 

[girl99]

hey j4f i've had the same 'problem' with a partner of what was 'extreem' size and found the best position to be cowgirl on a couch. in that position (both sitting up) you can control the depth of penitration

 

[jst4fun]

Hi girl99, thank you. it is one of my favourite positions, hopefully it will work in combination with relaxing my fears. One more question which may seem obvious. If i'm controlling penetration (depth) isn't that going to lessen the amount of pleasure he's experiencing.

 

[TemptMe]

Hi girl99, thank you. it is one of my favourite positions, hopefully it will work in combination with relaxing my fears. One more question which may seem obvious. If i'm controlling penetration (depth) isn't that going to lessen the amount of pleasure he's experiencing.

Let's compare to the average length guy getting a head job..There are likely to be many men that have never been deep throated yet can still cum from a head job even though their penis isn't sucked to the base...so theoretically speaking he should still be pleasured... Simply ask him if he is receiving enough pleasure!!

 

[jst4fun]

Hi TemptMe, thank you for explaining it that way, it makes sense. Of course I should communicate with him a lot more. In fact he told me weeks ago to "relax and just talk to me". Perhaps i should hold his hand and take his advice as well :love4:

 

[girl99]

i totally understand what you are going through. i had my own fears when i started out with the well endowed partner i mentioned before. trouble then was the only advise i got was from another guy and all he said was 'pussys are made for cocks'.

i found with a little patience and practice, after a while i came to crave the deep penitration only he could give.

sex is about mutual pleasure and he should understand that he is big and any girl he ever gets with may need time to become acustomed to his size.

 

[jst4fun]

Hmmmm, yes i've certainly come across that attitude before, I think it sets us up a bit to "put up and shut up".

Thankfully the man i'm with now is a sweetheart, very patient and gentle.

Interesting how the initial pain turns to pleasure. I am begining to love the sensation of how deeply inside me he can be, it is still a fine line between pleasure and pain. Like you say more patience and practice and i wont be able to leave him alone!