She's Has Asked Me Out...

mountainbikingateve

mountainbikingateve

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A while ago one of the ladies I semi- regularly see texted me after a particularly enjoyable session. She suggested that we might like to meet up on a weekend, grab a drink, go for a walk, something like that.
I politely declined, for a lot of reasons.
It's now 8 months since she first asked and asked again this week. It happened while I was face down on the table and she is massaging my back "I'd still really like to meet you on a weekend and you could give me a massage, and we could go back to your place and we've have no time limits".

I'm in two minds, any thoughts from the members on which way to go here
 
It's a tough question to answer as it really depends on your personal circumstances. I've been in a long term relationship with a SW and it had its high's and lows. If you start getting the feels for her you will have very conflicted emotions. Dealing with those emotions can be very tricky for both of you. Proceed with caution.
 
mrys said:
It's a tough question to answer as it really depends on your personal circumstances. I've been in a long term relationship with a SW and it had its high's and lows. If you start getting the feels for her you will have very conflicted emotions. Dealing with those emotions can be very tricky for both of you. Proceed with caution.
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Nothing wrong with having friends with benifits a short fling or naughty weekend perhaps a dinner and nice hotel if you still want remain anonymous.
 
As said by others it’s a bit hard to provide an informed opinion without knowing your own circumstances. If you are happily married or in a relationship you want to maintain I’d question why you are even thinking about doing something like she is suggesting as it almost certainly won’t come without some risks attached.

If you are aware that the lady is herself in a relationship I’d just keep enjoying the massages without taking it any further. I used to see a lady who was married but talked a lot about how unhappy she was and thinking of ending her marriage. Alarm bells started ringing, as she knew I was separated from my wife and indicated she would leave hubby if she had someone to look after her if she did leave.

If you are single and no ties to worry about, and you have an attraction to the lady, why wouldn’t you at least take up the offer and see how things play out.
 
An unwritten rule in the industry is do not get personally involved with your service provider or develop feelings

I've broken that rule three times and each time, it did not end well

She might be genuine, but chances are she's got an angle.
 
Can see how it goes but tread very lightly. I have been in both situations. One where it's turned into a pretty good friendship that's still strong after 3+ years with no strings attached. Another that I thought was a great friendship but was just a money drain. Disappointing how quickly that friendship turned sour when I asked for the return of borrowed money.

Just take it for what it is and enjoy it but be sceptical if money is brought up.
 
Interesting. She is either falling in love with you or wanting to see you privately and is suggesting a walk to build up to that. If you are interested in getting to know her better, establish first, exactly which, she is after. If you want her to remain your service provider, leave it as it is. xx
 
SallyK said:
Interesting. She is either falling in love with you or wanting to see you privately and is suggesting a walk to build up to that. If you are interested in getting to know her better, establish first, exactly which, she is after. If you want her to remain your service provider, leave it as it is. xx
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Thanks SallyK, good advice. Communication is always key.
 
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