she says it hurts when i pull back the flap

[qwerty]

yeah so my girls a first timer and i havent had much experience either. i kno where the clit is but when i pull back the 'flap' or that piece of skin covering the clit, to expose it, she says it stings.

now is this the same as when a girl pulls back the foreskin of a penis, where the exposed head is very sensitive the first time?

if so, what shud i do in order to make her feel better? i was trying to stimulate her clit but she says it stings a little. any advice? im still very new with all this

cheers

 

[SubNymphet]

Hi qwerty,

as a girl with a very sensitive clit, it is best something left for her to experiment with alone, its taken me a long time to be able to handle someone else touching my clit!

not sure what you mean as the pulling the skin back, not something i would do, especially not if it is stinging when you do.

if she wants you to touch her clit, use a lot of lube!!!

even now i still have to often ask a guy to stop touching my clit because it hurts a little!

good luck with learning about each other and have fun doing so!!

remember it is all about having fun!!!

 

[qwerty]

what if she doesn like to touch herself? she says she has never touched herself before and she doesn kno how to.

i guess we shud just take it slowly and learn more about each others body then? its all about the journey and not the destination rite?

 

[SubNymphet]

i think a lot of girls are hesitant to start touching themselves... its something she needs to learn on her own, no amount of convincing her will get her wanting to!

if in the meantime she still finds it uncomfortable when you directly touch her clit, simple answer, just dont do it. find indirect ways of stimulating it, through clothes, grinding while having sex, etc.

you can maybe try introducing toys into your play together, show her theres nothing to be embarassed about... look at online stores together at toys and see which ones she likes that way... if her clit is very sensitive maybe stay away from bullet vibes and the like as they may be too much for her to handle, i would think maybe starting with a soft waterproof vibe that she can use in the shower/bath... and that you can use together so she gets used to it

 

[Sweet Nightingale]

How about doing the best thing and use your tongue more than you are using your finger...!!

The tongue is much softer than a finger and already moist on its own, thus lubricating the clit and surrounding area without having to resort to lubes etc. Even the experienced flickering movement of a tongue is a million times more sensational than a probing finger.

Go for it qwerty - She'll love you for it



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[svengali]

Nightingale has hit the jackpot with that suggestion.

No less a person than the legendary Ron Jeremy once said there are only three things you need to learn to be a good sex partner:

1) Learn to eat pussy really well.

2) Learn to eat pussy really well.

3) Learn to eat pussy really well.

And Ron, although about as far physically from the image of a porn stud as you could get, became a legend with the most beautiful women in porn falling over each other to work with him.

 

[qwerty]

thanks guys! i guess it all comes down to practice. to be honest, the other day i was fingering her and i felt this tiny bump inside her and the moment i pressed on it, she went nuts. did i hit the g spot ? she started to claw at things and hyperventilate.