Besides the sexual moment....the "intro-course" (if there is ever such a thing) to me just as important.
Her initiatives to "recognise" and complement at the introduction phase can be just as convincing enough to be a deal breaker. To this day, as much I prepare and groom myself at my best everytime for that next experience (after the gym's); hardly anybody these days actually give any compliment on one's strenuous effort of overall grooming & physical well-being / presence.
The very best introductory initiatives; as I clearly remembered it - was Chilli at City West massage (wrote a review of her as well), approx 7:45PM, saturday June. She peeked a little from that corner wall, gave me the widest smile I've seen, walked up slowly to me, brushed her shoulders next to mine, held and kept my hand the whole time as she quietly spoke her name to me: "I'm Chilli".
There was simply no way that a simple blink of an eye and a reasonable handshake is convincing enough for me anymore.
Call me old fashioned, but to me; as an ISFJ (Introverted Sensing, Feeling, Judgment) every little thing that highlights my values & belief systems get recalled to their roots of all detail. I can recall the various, subtle ways that the lovely Anastacia @ Langtrees kept her hands on mine each time we met and talk on rare instances last year.
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But anyway, if I were to give my opinion onto the actual moment - well as long as she could just let herself "be", then that truly makes me happy. Variable definitions. Difficult to describe, but intuitively apparent once she truly 'gets' how you want to be with / feel her. Obviously the actual moment is highly personal and nothing is deemed universal to everybody.
Perhaps more importantly, at the end of it all - a carefree, lighthearted, open-ended amicable laughs from every little things she and I talk about; which makes all the difference in the world within just one short hour of life.