Sex and Substances

[Houndog]

Hi all

I know this might be a touchy subject, just wanted to get peoples thoughts on this...I work away for 2 weeks, come back absolutely primed for sex, what happens on the weekends is my gf and I both use ummmm, crystal, watch alot of porn together, for about 2 hours and then fuck like absolute pornstars for about 2-3 hours. It's absolutely mind blowing sex, it's just we hardly have sex normally anymore.

I love her very much and we have a very good relationship, I'm just worried that in the long run it will do us more harm than good. So....anyone with similiar experiences give us your thoughts on this matter, I will most possibly elaborate more as people post. I know people will say drugs are bad mmmkay but honestly thats not the issue here, I know other people out there would do this and I just want your thoughts on this matter.

Thanks for listening

 

[SwingingM&K]

I think with any thing like that that you regularly use as part of what becomes normal sex can be difficult to break out of. The same sort of thing can happen when you use fantasies all the time and then just having a regular fuck with out the porn/substance/fantasies can become a problem. I would definitely try to mix it up and avoid always doing it that way. Maybe have a quicky before you get on it next time

 

[WAcowgirl]

From a nurse's perspective, and i am being completely non judgemental, of all the drugs you could possibly choose crystal would have to be the worst. Everyone knows the side effects and the bad things so im not going to harp on that. but what it does to your system will eventually wreck your sex life anyway. it actually changes your brain function and the circulation of blood from your limbs (including your penis) to your brain and lungs. I have been the victim (at my place of work) of someone in a psyhcotic episode because of crystal (first time they ever used it as well)and I dont like it or any drug very much but if I can encourage you to change your behaviour enough to maybe think about changing that habit and work on a sex life that is based on the love for each other and doesnt include drugs it would be a good day for me.
however at the end of the day thats my opinion and i dont know you or your situation but physically the drugs will kill the sex life before your relationship fails...sorry if i have harped on a little...

 

[svengali]

From a nurse's perspective, and i am being completely non judgemental, of all the drugs you could possibly choose crystal would have to be the worst............................ physically the drugs will kill the sex life before your relationship fails...sorry if i have harped on a little...

I couldn't have put it better myself.

There is a very good reason why this crap is illegal and I hope you and your girlfriend wake up to yourselves before you discover it personally. Just ask that nice Mr Cousins what a few hits of crystal can do for you. At the risk of sounding judgemental I think anyone using it is an IDIOT:angry1:

 

[westozzywaguy]

yer mate you are a fool if you only have sex on that shit. i know me and my ex use to have the best sex life then we started using druges to give it that so called boost. well the boost works for a whyll then all of a sudden it dosent .and you will find your girl will end up fucking enny guy that will feed her enny drug she can get when your not there as her craving for it will still be there but she wont no what reality is .its that hazzy a fect all drugs have on every boddy.or you will start having epesodes where life will get you down nomatter what you do and yes your sex life will never be the same agan. if you keep your girlfrend long anough. mate sex is the best drug of all and if you boath realy like sex you dont need that shit. and it sounds like your girlfrend will only have sex with you when she is out of it and that goes to show that you have bigger isues and may need to get big help befor its to late. put it this way my x was a nimpho and now she only likes girls and the guy she was with after me is now lost the plot on cristal and thay boath are brain dead. mate grow up and get with realaty befor you end up like all the others that deny thay have a drug problem no little how much you have .i you cant go with out then you need rehab if you cant have sex with out then you both have a real problem. and mate think about when your a way the cat might play???????

 

[bettyboo]

Svengali what does Ben Cousins have to do with this post?
Im sick and tired of everyone always bringing his name into everything.
Get a life

 

[svengali]

Svengali what does Ben Cousins have to do with this post?
Im sick and tired of everyone always bringing his name into everything.
Get a life

Hi Betty,

Ben, bless his footy-kicking little heart, is a primo example of what drugs can do for someone. A gifted athlete, good looking guy with a great career in front of him and a lovely girlfriend. He damn near lost the lot over his liking for white powder and, even now, is continuing rehab in a bid to put it back together. Good luck, Ben, you are going to need it.

I agree footy players are over-hyped and I, too, get sick of having them all over the media but I couldn't think of a better example in this case.

 

[viking32]

...hi to who started this tread..and also a hi to the replyies..
i am a anti drugs kind off person,,and i find it so sad to see around us all the people who ..stuffes them selfs up..we have a body and that is a gift ..its a very fine piece off work,,
and it needs to be looked after,,good food good sleep.regular work out,and some loving,,i have know a girl for some time ..who has used a lot off drugs..at the time i did not know too much about that stuff,,weed dont like the smell off it,she is now 43 ..a paranoid jealoux person with anger problems..no job,,,well part time w.l to gett money for her..fix...
mind you for some time she has also been on the meth..
she stinks off it,,and because i dont take any things i notice it so much more ..and as it has been said people on drugs go to people who take drugs,,they hang out have sessions..its hard to care for people like that as they dont care about them self,,and yes she had meth..one night before she came around,,i did not know much at that time,,but sex was crap..it was hurry along do this do that,,had no pations..at all....so i stopped said i cant be bothered ..she got pissed off..
sex all natural,,is the way for me .best drug,,ever,,who need any thing else..i know its hard when you are singel,,i am speaking for my self too now,,...young people life for today,,who cares tomorow..i am a bit wiser now ...middel age,,,
and just want to find a nice understanding loving lady,,one day..and the day will come no rush,,our lifes are kind off mapped out ...lol....to the person who started this tread...use your imagination ..in the bed room,,all natural..hone your skills,,pleanty off fore play,,...hope it works out for you my friend ,,,and to the cow girl miss nurce input,,,love it,,,gives us anothere side to it..by the way nurces are angels,,
and sven gali,,,i understood the footy point ....from viking

 

[bettyboo]

Svengali,
As far as this thread goes, it has nothing to do with football, please keep to the subject. I believe the original question was about sex and drugs not drugs and footballers.

 

[WAcowgirl]

betty i think sven was just using ben as an example of what can happen...he is pretty high profile...i think houndog would have like none of us to een mention the drug use...just give some advice about the sex, but none of us listened...anyway i think houndog might be wishing he said nothing!! and so might sven at this rate!!

 

[viking32]

betty ..boo...
betty boo...do you have any experience with drugs and sex,,
please share,,,we need people to say what they feel ..and yes your point is valid,,granted...do you like sex when you are drunk ??
do you like sex when you are stoned??
do you like sex when you are taking othere stuff??or do you like it all natural?? from viking..

 

[corneus]

Amazing..

Houndog, Not quite sure if you mean you are more worried about your sex life not being "normal" anymore (who defines normal anyway?) or whether your relationship will be harmed by it? Or if you are worried about the drugs harming you?
Whatever it is, mate, you are right! This shit will do major damage to just about every organ in your body, it will ruin your reltionships,and will probably kill you..you've got a lot more to worry about than whether your sex life is normal!
I find it absolutely staggering that anybdy would even contemplate putting this crap in their body.

STUPID, STUPID, STUPID!

check this info out.. Link is broken,so has been taken down

 

[21yrstevo]

Iv also had a fair bit of sex on crystal meth and yeh the sex was good but the comedowns dont really help the relationship, i used to have a big night on the gear and go home have good sex with my ex but the next day id be all grumpy and coming down and i wouldnt want anythin 2 do with her, iv been off the gear mostly for the last 8 months (still do it occasionally) and i feel for u man cause i know it can be hard to get off and sometimes u dont realise how much it controlled ur life till ur off it.

Cause u work away u get a bit more of a break and 2 recover but it can get 2 u like u bust ur ass working then get on the gear then recover and thats all ur life becomes.

Good luck mate hope things work out for u, uv got a lot of advice from people who obviously havnt experienced the drug and wouldnt know the effects, i did it just bout every weekend for 3 years and i kept control of it but im 1 of the lucky ones not everyone is that lucky. I have mates that have lost the plot or lost jobs, relationships or whos family have no trust in them anymore.

 

[viking32]

thank you stevo for your honesty....and very good to hear you are that strong to be abel to keep it in control...i feel i have just lost a friend i have known for over 11 years due to that stuff,,,like you said trust ..and stuff ..longer story,,,might open than can off worms up one day...lol...from viking

 

[westozzywaguy]

yer but stevo you stall are andictid to it as i see you say you still take it occasionlly to me that would say you are still on it . much like when you quit smoking sigs but when you go out you still smoke. that meens you are still a user. and it has oviosly made you brain start to think its ok. i know you say you have it under control but the only way to be realy in control is to be of it comlpeatly thats never have it..... and yes viking32 i had a frend experement with it 6to 7 years ago we all tryed it (i dont do enny drugs enny more been of every thing for 4 years dont ever smoke sigs ennymore).and life is the best no with out enny drugs. the best drug of all is life itself....use it dont abuse it(life that is). well he lost the plot big time had every thing and now has nothing ,gets agro at nothing beats up his girlfrend .she has now left him and he now has a criminal record for asalting a female. enny way all you guys that have it and think you are invinsable and nothing will happen to you because you are the best. well look at ben cosins he is a that brain dead he is the number one losser. (and im sorry to all you people that dont like people say bad things about little benny `boy'. ) but realy here is a prime example to a person that thort thay were invinsable......... but he is like every other drugy and needs real help. and has to stop pretending that he is ok..... well ive had my bitch on this agan and i supose i will have people bitching back to me for picking on people.:headbang::headbang:

 

[viking32]

every body has a say..and thats what this is all about,,,appriciate your feed back,,westy....as long as we dont start to degrade our friends here,,,happy to hear you are doing realy well...
....life is a treat,,life is not to be wasted away,,,,
.....................thank you for your imput,,,matey

 

[Mary Anne PA]

everyone is entitled to their own opinions and thoughts love, so feel free to write and not expect being bitched about.

 

[bettyboo]

Yes, but i really wish people would learn how to spell first!!

 

[westozzywaguy]

bettyboo. love there are more important things in live then spelling mistakes. well if you can only go on about spelling may be you should be on a webstite about spelling. get over it .lol.lol
ps. and im sorry about the spelling . the school teacher bettboo is marking the test papers. and looks like i dident pass. hahaha
.lol,lol,lol. well gess i better not repy to this as we have some goody two shoes that winge about spelling .get a f****ng life...............

 

[Houndog]

Thanks to everyone for their replies...I dont know what to say really, I know that using meth is pretty bad, sometimes I try to justify it by working away for 2 weeks and being off the shit. It's something I think about all the time, I'm not just blindly falling down a deep dark hole.

Working in the mining industry nowadays I cant smoke a lil pot like I used to, alot of workers turn to amphetamines cause they are not going to be picked up in a drug test like marijuana is...I suppose thats just another false justification but hey its a valid point.

My use goes hand in hand with the sex...for anyone who knows what I'm talking about you know what I mean! It is fkn unbeliavable, but once again thankyou for all your comments and honesty, I knew this would open up a can of worms but hey its a problem across society and theres no point not discussing it, thats what an open forum is for.

Lucky I'm a Dockers supporter so I'm not too perturbed about Benny's situation...though as a WA football fan it is sad, he was an absolute champion on the field.

 

[Mary Anne PA]

Betty Boo, I have one thing to say: Do not judge other people till you judge yourself.

Not everyone has the same skills as each other and have certain skills in different areas that they may excel at.
So saying this, you may be good at spelling and westozzy may be good at manually building houses to which you probably cant, so yes there are many people out there who may not have gotten the chance to be a great speller, to which on this forum, its not that a big deal, as I certainly understand what he is saying as does probably everybody else. And the important thing is that this forum is for everybodies use regardles of what walk of life they come from, and we DO NOT judge if they aren't doing anything wrong, and do not presume to be better than anybody else unless they are disturbing the peace of the forums.

I don't normally go in to this much details but you have provoked me by twice now touching on the spelling right after someone posted that had some spelling mistakes.

Please look at yourself and ask yourself if you truly think you are better because you can spell, because to me the better person is the one who accepts everyone for what they are and not judge them.

I hope this makes sense and is taken in the light it is given as I hate it when people are judged for such minor things.

If its something personal you dont like about someone, then keep it personal to yourself, and not dig at people.
thanks
Moderator/Admin pulling rank this time.

 

[bettyboo]

Oh Serena but its ok for him to talk to people like he does?
Havent you read any of his pathetic posts?

 

[Mary Anne PA]

Hound Dog you are dead right, and opening up a can of worms is great, and I love seeing a hearty debate going on.

In saying that to me smoking pot is a little like drinking alcohol if you keep it in moderation. Too much and you get brain fucked just like drugs anyway and alcohol.

Other drugs, once you try them your body doesn't want to let you let it go and of course will make you feel fckn great. Why not?? You dont have to deal with the real world and real emotions etc.

If something can chemically alter your brain and character then why would you want to use it unless your not happy with just yourself.

It may be fcn great now, but guess what, later on in life when your liver or kidney fails and you then go on sickness benefits or have no-one to care for youd, will you say its fcn great then.

Seriously, think about it, is it that great that you may not be able to look after yourself when its most important that you have all your faculties, or do you want to be one of those people in a home that has no-one and have to put up with anything.

We seriously do not think ahead in our lives until it is too late.

Be in control of yourself now, so that you can be when your older. Dont be a statistic so to speak. lol

 

[westozzywaguy]

gee bettyboo all you can do is have a dig at people you must have somting better to do.also if my posts are so pathetic then when you see my name come up .its simple just dont read the posts ok
and also thank you to serena for highlighting the fact that all people are different. as for myself i left school age 15 worked very hard in the mining construction. and now beeing 36 i no longer work and have retied and on permanant holidays. so bettyboo when you wake up every day and do what ever it is you do just remember its us guys that cant spell that work hard with the tools where given and sum of us are very happy with what we have .so when i go for a swim of the back of my boat ,or down to my holiday home or have a week or to up in broome whenever i like i wont be thinking i wish i could spell every word right. thats what happens when your dislexic ...lololol...and life is to short to wast it just enjo it .
so just chill out girl.lolololololololololol.::

 

[WAcowgirl]

I tend to agree with you serena with the becoming a statistic comments. i work in the health industry as a nurse and i have seen ppl do things whilst on drugs (not just meth, but speed, pot, heroin etc) that not only have harmed them but has made them harm others. drug rages are horrible to deal with and having been punched in the face by a patient who presented with a large cut on his leg, i was cleaning it up and asking routine questions, asked the question whether he had taken any drugs or alcohol that night and he got extremely agitited very quickly and punched me in the face. it turns out he had been doing meth all day. in court he said that he had never been like that before, so you can NEVER predict how you are going to react whilst on drugs. I will NEVER trust anyone who take drugs ever again, this includes my own friends who socially used to take E's at partys etc. i never did them as i dont feel the need to escape from my life, and im mad enough with a few drinks, let alone mind altering substances like those drugs (the alcohol alters my mind more than enough!!)

so please remember you can never be in control if you are taking drugs regardless of what you think! this includes alcohol as well. and think about the ppl you are affecting if you do drugs and happen to require medical assistance, its nurses like myself that cop the brunt of drug use and i dont get paid enough to be punched in the face..lol

as for the sex (which i think this thread was originally about) sex without drugs can be just as good i reckon, and i havent had any complaints!! haha

 

[svengali]

O.K., here is my final message to Houndog on this subject.

It seems to me that you are a young man who is in exactly the right place at the right time to set himself up for life. You can do that or you can blow it all on drugs and fast cars and end up with severe health and mental problems just like Benny boy.

Please don't kid yourself. By taking this stuff you are risking your own health and probably jeopardising the safety of your workmates to boot.

If you can't kick it alone, GET HELP.

 

[Houndog]

Thanks Svengali...I'm due back the 31st October and I think the best thing to do is to chill down at my girlfriends house in Mandurah and play golf all day on my week off. Have to separate myself from bad influences ie friends, and yes I've already wasted too much money on it this year. Thanks to everyone for their comments and support, much appreciated

 

[viking32]

great stuff ,,,,matey...we wish you all the best,,,and just stay strong matey,,,if you say no to the drugs and she does not like it,,might be a good move to lett her know to find some one else,,
hope you will stay together and be happy ,,,,thanks for letting us in on your thoughts ...from viking

 

[21yrstevo]

your right westozzy guy its still a slight problem, i can go 2 months or whatever without it and i can hang out with mates while there on it and watch em smoke it or snort it and not crave it in the slightest but then on the odd occasion il say can i have a line or can i have a smoke and then just from having a little bit il want more. But then il come down and realise how stupid it was 2 have it and what a waste of money it was and itl make my week not as good cause il have less energy and wont be able to workout as hard at the gym as i want 2 so then i wont touch it again for ages. I really am over it now though and the whole drug scene (i havnt had a good night on drugs in ages) i have a lot better night just having a few drinks and then u wake up in the morning with more cash and feel a whole lot better

 

[viking32]

..look what happend,,a fellow started a tread,,,and he got a honest reply from the people here..as it has been said many times ..now its up to the individual.to make the change,,
no doubt its some sad crazy shit the ice..meth..
i am just so happy my kids have not touch any stuff,
right now i have to say good bye ..to a person i have known for a long time .as i cant see she will be abel to gett of it,,and thanks for your guys honesty about how it makes your guys feel..
i just know the i will never have that conection with that person as i dont do any drugs,,,sad sad,,its about finding a person with same interest and values...
and i say we are lucky we have a place like this where we can share our thoughts..and feelings and idears..so thank you to the moderators and owner off this place..from viking