Sex Addicts

[saint]

does anyone on here feel like they might be a sex addict?
or know anyone who is?
i wonder if there are support groups for sex addicts in perth?

 

[royal]

Agreed. I think I definitely am. Any suggestions on where to go would be appreciated.

 

[corneus]

A handy guide

A Useful Tool for Self-Assessment

Answer these twelve questions to assess whether you may have a problem with sexual addiction.

1. Do you keep secrets about your sexual or romantic activities from those important to you? Do you lead a double life?
2. Have your needs driven you to have sex in places or situations or with people you would not normally choose?
3. Do you find yourself looking for sexually arousing articles or scenes in newspapers, magazines, or other media?
4. Do you find that romantic or sexual fantasies interfere with your relationships or are preventing you from facing problems?
5. Do you frequently want to get away from a sex partner after having sex? Do you frequently feel remorse, shame, or guilt after a sexual encounter?
6. Do you feel shame about your body or your sexuality, such that you avoid touching your body or engaging in sexual relationships? Do you fear that you have no sexual feelings, that you are asexual?
7. Does each new relationship continue to have the same destructive patterns which prompted you to leave the last relationship?
8. Is it taking more variety and frequency of sexual and romantic activities than previously to bring the same levels of excitement and relief?
9. Have you ever been arrested or are you in danger of being arrested because of your practices of voyeurism, exhibitionism, prostitution, sex with minors, indecent phone calls, etc.?
10. Does your pursuit of sex or romantic relationships interfere with your spiritual beliefs or development?
11. Do your sexual activities include the risk, threat, or reality of disease, pregnancy, coercion, or violence?
12. Has your sexual or romantic behavior ever left you feeling hopeless, alienated from others, or suicidal?

If you answered yes to more than one of these questions, we would encourage you to seek out additional literature as a resource or to attend a Sex Addicts Anonymous meeting to further assess your needs.

The quiz above came from SAA-recovery.org, which lists a local WA contact on the link below.

Link is broken,so has been taken down

 

[royal]

Thanks that's awesome. Unfortunately replied yes to a lot of them =(

 

[royal]

Thanks that's awesome. Unfortunately replied yes to a lot of them =(

 

[lonnewulf]

Dun worry, you're not alone ^_^

 

[saint]

me too

 

[sexiness]

Years and years ago a friend tried to get me to go to a sex addict help group, so they exist...maybe google it :tongue3:

 

[sexiness]

Here's a link - slaa

Clearly WA doesn't have any addicts as according to their meetings list, they don't have any for WA

 

[Hot_Bi_BBW]

As far as I'm concerned, there is no such thing. An addiction has been created by a drought which results in an excessive desire to have something which is not that easily obtainable. If we were all able to freely express our sexuality as CONSENTING ADULTS (media and xians - take note) and if it wasn't demonised and tied up by elitist married types, then it would be a much easier activity to partake in, without guilt and shame. I say we need to reclaim our right as SEXUAL HUMAN BEINGS!! Bring on the decriminalisation of Prostitution, educate children appropriately about sex instead of making out to them that it doesn't exist until they turn 16. This would also alleviate a lot of crimes against women (and children). There would be far less violence/alcohol and drug abuse in society if consenting adult sex was a bit more accesible. Can anyone explain why it is ok to watch someone get murdered on tv/movies but not ok to watch someone have sexual pleasure? It's all twisted! It ain't rocket science!.... PS Love this forum xxx

 

[sexiness]

There is plenty, and I mean plenty of acessible sex as a consenting adult in my relationship and I still want more :3some:

so I'm not sure I agree.

In saying this I'm not saying having an addiction means having a disease, it means having an insatiable desire that needs support, in order to learn how to cope with it through my life.

I'm not looking for a cure since I don't have a problem, I'm simply looking for a way of managing my sex drive

 

[Hot_Bi_BBW]

Fair enough, the sexual urge of a human being is huge, but when you look at it in society, we are all very repressed sexually. Sex is basically frowned upon if it's not within the accepted realm of a loving, pure, consummated relationship. Oh what a hard gig to aspire to in 2008. I'm probably just having a dig at the government, the media and religion, in that we are adults, who have CHOICE in our sexual relations and how we manage our sex lives.

There is too much focus on sex being a dirty act, look at the politicians who have been caught up in sex scandals, their careers are ruined. Why? Because they don't have the balls to be honest enough to acknowledge their sex drive, they go behind their wives backs, preach integrity, virtue rara and in their dilemma, end up on the front cover of a newspaper being named and shamed. Sex is not a dirty act. Having to lie to your wife, your family and your consituents is. But this is what these guys have to resort to in order (to try) to get anywhere in life.

I don't feel we have adequately stood up for ourselves as adults and our right to have sex with other consenting adults without big brother peering over us. I think any addiction is a result of the object being seen to be dangerous and thereby creating an urge to want more. You want what you can't have right? Why should you have to curtail something that is natural, beautiful, healthy for you both spiritually, mentally and physically. Society has got it all wrong! I acknowledge that there is a time and a place, but if you look at the opportunities in life whereby sex is your number 1 thought, there is plenty of scope to include it.

I myself have an open relationship, I allow my partner to have sex with whomever he wants because I know his needs as a male. Ironically, we've been together for nearly a year and he says because I am so liberal with my outlook, he no longer feels the need/can't be bothered chasing. Isn't it ironic? Sorry for ranting, but I am very passionate about this subject. I also think there should be no stigma attached to prostitution, that too has been demonised. In 4000bc to 300bc, there were temples that housed 'sacred whores (the priestess)' who was worshipped as the goddess with love and respect and as the giver of life and joy. Women whether they want to acknowledge it or use it have something that heterosexual men need,love and want end of story. I would love to get other's opinions on SEX and SOCIETY in 2008, please feel free to make your comments or PM me.

Cheers

xxxx