Severe problem with Penis ?

[newbie1984]

Hi

1) I am 27 year old married person from last 3 Months , since my marriage not even once i am able to have sex , Though i try many times , but every time i face issues like I got erection but that remains for few seconds, due to which i am unable to do sex . I am very worried , and even some times i think is it really a problem or its my mind set which is creating problems.

2) If I take Viagra, will it be ok? Or Viagra will cause me any future problem? may cause our child to be abnormal?

Please suggest.

 

[cougar]

honey go to the dr,
friend had a similar problem, after many tests there were no medical reasons for it happening. it was his "mind set".
though another had problems due to medical reasons.
yours could be for medical reasons or "mindset"
though im sure stressing about it wont be helping the problem.
just relax. (i know easier said than done)

 

[Drak331]

It could be an emotional/mental thing. Are you feeling any stress lately?

 

[kitty's desires]

I tend to agree it is most likely your mindset...but you really should go to the doctor to dismiss a medical reason.

 

[Mijak]

Definitely go to your Doctor as soon as possible.

 

[viper]

Mental or physiological thats the 2 possible issues see your doctor asap and find out what the problem may be.

 

[gr8stuff]

Great advice given above,
please use it.

You share your problem with us,
now share it with you doctor.
no need to feel ashamed!

 

[svengali]

Hi Newbie.

Well, it takes real balls to admit to a problem like that so hats off to you.

In all probability, if you use Viagra you will get a lasting erection and your kids won't be born blue but that will not get to the cause of the problem. At your age you should not need it anyway. As others have already stated there are only two possibilities: physical and mental issues.

A checkup by a Doctor, followed up, if necessary, by a visit to a urologist will take care of the physical side. It may be something as simple as improving your general health by such measures as diet, exercise, giving up the grog (if you drink) and getting enough sleep.

If that is o.k., you are left with the mental side and that is probably harder to deal with and definitely a competent psychologist is called for.

Alternatively, have you and your lady tried "letting go" of sex? This means not making sex the all-important goal but just sharing quiet time together, showering or bathing together, going to bed early and just talking and being affectionate but not trying to take it any further. The idea is to get used to being together and enjoying each other without the pressure to "perform". Performance anxiety is a real killer and putting sex on the back burner for a while may just be all you need to get rid of it.

Good luck.

 

[Mrs Langtrees]

Moving the post to the sex health board.

 

[davis.qu]

Men concerned with enlarging their penises have resorted to all sorts of measures to help them achieve their desired goals. Sexual dysfunction in the male is a prevalent problem in all societies, and seriously affects the male's self-confidence and ability to sexually perform

 

[Laura Myer]

Hi Newbie,

I'm just curious..... have you had sex with other women/escorts in this time just to test the waters and see if the problem is solved outside of your 'primary' relationship?

I have had men see me who were married, who could not function with their wives, yet were fine when they paid me a visit. Nothing was wrong with them.

I wish the medical system recognised sexual surrogacy but a gentle caring escort could help things.

We'd be curious as to how you get on with this.

Laura

lauramyer.com

 

[Fireblade58]

Hello Newbie,

Viagra is not dangerous, it will stimulate the blood flow to your penis causing longer lasting, harder erections.

It (viagra) may be useful to jump start things and get the ball rolling just to get your confidence back. I have had similar problems, usually with a new partner which can cause stage fright.

Put away negative thoughts and take the pressure off yourself. Its not a total disaster if you don't succeed with penetration everytime. I find viagra is a good confidence booster then once things are up and away you can ween yourself off it. Having said that it does give you a superior hard on to play with lol.

Take the plunge and don't be embarrassed going to see your doctor. Its more common than you may think.

 

[Gazbo52]

Try to relax go slow and try not to think just enjoy and it will come up. Viagra is ok and so are cock rings but many times its the other head that is the problem.