Seeking revenge

[billybones]

Had the sad news today that a friends partner who I have never met has been abusing her with his hands for about 6 months and she has been covering up for him for some silly reason but today was the last straw.
I`ve mentioned before I have no time for women bashers...

The question is this, I looked him up on facebook and saw he has an open profile and over 200 friends. Should I send each one a PM to inform them they are friends with a women basher or should I just leave things alone?
My facebook is set to private so no one can see my info unless I invite them so even if someone told him I was sending the news he would have no idea who I am.

Should I??

 

[Dez]

I'd be worried about the repercussions for her if she hasn't made an exit from the relationship. Is she looking for a way out or for support to help her?

 

[billybones]

I'd be worried about the repercussions for her if she hasn't made an exit from the relationship. Is she looking for a way out or for support to help her?

She`s not orginally from perth and is thinkng of going back home and leaving this mess behind her.

 

[Tamara]

She`s not orginally from perth and is thinkng of going back home and leaving this mess behind her.

I'd wait until she is clear of him and he is not able to get his hands on her again. Also consult her first as they may have joint friends and she may not want everyone in her life to know what she has been through her safety and the start of the healing process is more important that revenge.

 

[Buk]

Billybones, I tend to agree with suggestions made by Tania Desire and Tamara in Darwin. To play it safe and thinking of her, maybe follow through with your Facebook idea ONCE she is clear and safe from this idiot. These type of characters are gutless dickheads!

 

[Happy2]

Billybones, I tend to agree with suggestions made by Tania Desire and Tamara in Darwin. To play it safe and thinking of her, maybe follow through with your Facebook idea ONCE she is clear and safe from this idiot. These type of characters are gutless dickheads!

Buk and others are right Your friend must be out of harms way first
Worst thing is knowing once your friend is out of harms way He is already out looking for a new victim

Then I can see a name and shame thing But you really have to 100% sure about this man before you out him to No mistaken identities no mistakes have been made in the whole sad saga

 

[Kylie Middleton]

Honestly I think it's just asking for trouble. If she wants to take things further she needs to go to the police, but going around messaging his friends is just asking for drama and actually I think that could count as deformation as her claims are only alleged and you could end up in legal trouble. Good on you for wanting to help your friend, I just think the best way to do that is to help her get away from him and settled into a new life.

 

[Dallas]

I wouldn't be messaging his friends, as it could have far more negative repocussions that positive ones. Her safety has to come first, so I'd be communicating with her and supporting her in any way she needs. My sister was in the exact same situation a few years ago, and it took her a long time before she would allow my brother and I to intervene but we did it with her consent.

 

[Phoebe]

A mate of my mine put his nose into something like this once, he ended up with a broken jaw, nose, nearly loosing his lower lip due to the massive hit he copped from the broken jaw, black eyes and well the dude nearly killed him, he called the police about the assault on himself and said why it happened the Police said you should of called us in the 1st place, or the lady in question should of before all this, The dude that did it was arrested and jailed for this, but then you always looking over your shoulder, the thing about revenge it never ends...

 

[Strawman]

I've learnt that there is always at least 2 sides to any arguments. No matter how well you know someone there is always the potential for that person to lie or distort stories even to friends because they might have a hidden agenda that they need fulfilled despite the potential of losing friends over it.
So unless you can get both parties together in one room and have a calm discussion (WHICH YOU WON'T BE ABLE TO DO) with them then leave it alone and just advise her to go to the cops / professionals to handle it.

 

[TopGun]

Like you billybones I detest men that think they can harm females. In all honesty I think females are superior to males anyway.

My advice would be to get her to report it to the authorities and seek a restraining order.

You mentioned partner? Are they married? Kids involved?