Well, here goes my thoughts.
To be quite honest with you in the most truthful of all accounts; as you would have witnessed so much ordeal derived from the threads I written; and that the effect still lingers to this day:
absolutely. Without a second pulse needed for me to say that. If anyone really wishes to discuss further, I'm open to continue this as a (physical) meeting conversation as an one-one debate/ invitation over a cup of tea / coffee....and maybe with a piece of paper.
I am less than 30 years old, neither fat or bald, works out four days a week intensively in the gym
(even though I appear to everyone only as someone who "subtly" works out) adopt a wholegrain diet & fitness lifestyle close to five years as I'm writing this, and as of last year; been sticking on a financial budget yet still have time and courtesy to buy groceries for the homeless - rejections do occur to anyone, no matter EVEN the most respectful of all mannerism. Believe it or not, I even get rejected by Asian W/Ls.
Rejections are not easy to describe. You could refer to the word rejection as though it is a predicament only at a "surface" level; that it is assumably something that can be "improved" upon by simply leaving things on the victim's end and "let it be". Well, nothing is further away from the truth.
Now, to make my response easier to digest I'm going to write this as accordingly to four sections:
1. Extra food for thought / reference - SAAFE.INFO
2. My thoughts on racial selection/s
3. "Direct" case (mine) of racial rejection
4. Conclusion / where to take from here
Another thread / forum food for thought - SAAFE.INFO
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There is a thread; that I also would like to share (time and time again) - from another forum that is not entirely based on customers/punters market/perspective, but based entirely from workers and for workers only perspective - SAAFE.INFO. The thread which discusses upon rationalities of this subject has attracted well to 3 pages worth of reading material. Custer, this will be a GOOD EXTRA worth of information.
That link is here:
http://www.saafe.info/main/index.php?PHPSESSID=015a5b70b13cc611ed5d213e5dac89a2&topic=4790.0
My thoughts on racial selection/s
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Racial selection is not a crime.
Everyone has a choice, a right, an undoubtedly inner-law to protect their own sense of values & belief systems. If you look at what I do outside of worklife (that includes
something for the ladies) you will immediately realise that I am defiant and protective of what I do. And the same goes for everybody; whether it be their way of passion, or an acquired sense or list of personal properties they wish to protect.
Yet, they rarely admit it.
Any W/Ls by all means - are of course free to state that they are protective, & defiant of their preferences as so too driven by their own sense of values & belief systems - but the most important question is - how do you admit this openly & "nicely"? Racial preferences coming from W/Ls, as far as I consider it so long as it's within a respectful INDIRECT environment - is not a crime. Note the word "indirect" here.
In this life, we all have rejected as well has been rejected, or refused no matter in what form or in what context or paradigms in society. Some have been refused more than what they reject, and/or vice versa. What really important is that everybody needs to know HOW in the correct, respectful and humane way of saying "NO" as it's given to the victim / recipient; in this case - the client.
Again, the word
"INDIRECT" here to me; is slightly more tolerable to hear and to feel, than if it is
"DIRECTLY" at me.To cut straight to the chase -
it would be more painful for me to receive those response DIRECTLY at ME; as in in front of me, in front of my eyes, at my ears, behind my ears, meeting me, and then telling me straight up front without me knowing before hand.
Now for any W/Ls; no matter if she is a striking clone of
Laura Lee, Destiny Dixon, Samantha Shane, Charity Hodghes, Amanda Rae, etc - if she respectfully and humbly write a line of her profile somewhere that she apologises (lowering herself first) to not see certain ethnicities, then that is a discreet, polite, and respectfully INDIRECT way of saying NO. And that; while sure is still painful enough for anyone, including myself to witness in text form, but still more bearable than me seeing her reaction to my eyes, and ears in the flesh.
"Direct" case (mine) of racial rejection
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I still would not ever forget one night on the March 2013, upon checking in an establishment I never been before (Club 316), and; despite in that moment that I have encountered a beautiful German blonde, and when the time comes for a social act of handshake came in (as in any sort of FIRST HAND OF CLIENT>W/L interaction), she jerked my hand off away. Her eyes squinted away with disgust.
So much so, I made a full step away; and so did she.
The receptionist was there, in close vicinity. I left the place in bitter spirits. That night as disastrous as it was; ended fairly and amicably at Casey's when I decided to make a booking through with Tahlia. Although the experience I felt was somewhat anxious and wasn't 100% met
- as soon as I told her what happened. She truly was shocked. Hand on her mouth kind of shocked.
Now that; my friends (ladies, if at all
) - is one such example of a DIRECT rejection.
The worst of all cases, was happened most recently. December 31st. Everyone supposedly on holiday mood. But when I stepped to Casey's. I get palm faced by being rejected by four ladies all at once over something that I didn't even intend to hurt in the first place. Even wrote a full length letter to the upper management and still to this day; without reply.
Imagine that; an establishment who had taken care of me consistently in the past without predjudice, now slammed me away without remorse. My gift of chocolates; which were meant to be given to them as an end of year gift of thanks - are still with me. Neatly wrapped.
Conclusion / where to go from here
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Here in Australia, what are some of the most common subtle cues in any multi-cultural social environment; especially within the any workplace that is deemed "social" or "sociable"? Ladies & the men flirt, joke, swears with an F word in every third sentence, brushes each other's shoulders, you name it.
I've been through three creative agencies as a hardworking, full time employee and I've observed this over and thinking well ok, as long as I can be as polite as well as casual I could I should be fine right? After all, I've been living in oz (first arrived in Canberra) then in Perth for 15 years, surely there's something that everyone can relate to me better if I can introduce myself openly just as others would be used to? right?
Well, unfortunately and sadly, not the case here. There are times where I am being treated coldly in plain sight. Even a time (I still remembered) - May/June 2013 Langtrees. As I said hello to one group of ladies to another, an elusive yet attractive brunette lady in her white dress turns her back at me as I casually approached a "hello" to her. I was being ignored, in plain sight to everyone else's. Even for a few seconds, you can feel the awkwardness within those moment as you stick out like a dickhead.
So let us recap - it's important that all W/Ls LOWER themselves in humility first by apologising through INDIRECT means of communication; should they wish to state their ethnicity preferences.
Otherwise, you made someone who's all vividly bright happy and confident gentleman (before) and then (now) suddenly for the next booking he sheepishly ask you this question; all of a sudden in a somewhat unassuming expression:
"I understand that you abide by your own rules, but do you accept asian clients?" Now imagine if you only saw him from afar before, but now; all of a sudden - he asks this question.
