Question for the married guys

[desires00]

Hi! I have a question to all the married guys on here. Why do you find the need to seek sex outside the relationship? Is your wife not giving you enough at home? Do the other girls make you feel more wanted?

Im not here to judge by any means, I was just plain curious thats all

 

[Curious1]

I made comments on a similar thread not long ago...wont be doing that again! LOL

I dont know why guys do it...i have done it in the past for reasons that basically came down to lonliness.
And i guess it could just be for something different....something new and exciting?

 

[Curious1]

Maybe also ask, why do women cheat?
Its not only guys.

 

[desires00]

Yes definately male or female. I just thought there was more males on here than females but could be wrong! My opinion and from personal experience people cheat because they don't feel wanted and valued in the relationship. Do sex workers provide this when people visit them? Or when a sex worker is visited it is just to get your jollies off and thats it?

 

[Curious1]

Sex workers are differnet again in my opinion.

Do you go to a sex worker becasue:
A: Its a usre thing
b: Your paying to get exactly what you want...which you may not be able to have at home?

 

[Bluegrass9]

The reason I go to other sex workers is the same reason you have a different meal each night and do not wear the same style of clothes. Variety!

If you are able to separate Love from Sex there is no problem. Easy for me to say as most are not able to.

No matter how good the sex is it is not love. Love is not easy to find but sex is everywhere.

So should one feel guilty when they masturbate alone? I enjoy this past time but it will never be as good as making love with my wife.

Making love with the one you love is something nothing can match.

Some go and degrade sex workers and try to bring them down to their pathetic life.
Also a sex worker is a human being and they too have different views and reasons why they are a sex worker.

In conclusion if you feel guilty and bad about having sex with someone other than your partner- DO NOT DO IT!

But please stop preaching to those who have no problem with it. We do not expect you to understand but you should let us lead the lives we wish too.

It is similar to owning a tattoo. Some will never understand why anyone would want to ink their body. BTW I have a full back job.

Sorry, and yes end of sermon.
:walk:

 

[bluecosy]

HI,

Bluegrass9, You spot on I think our body likes to react with different Variety!

 

[makurpuswet]

Variety variety variety :love76: oh and as per bluegrass :-X

 

[frendoto]

The reason I go to other sex workers is the same reason you have a different meal each night and do not wear the same style of clothes. Variety!

If you are able to separate Love from Sex there is no problem. Easy for me to say as most are not able to.

No matter how good the sex is it is not love. Love is not easy to find but sex is everywhere.

So should one feel guilty when they masturbate alone? I enjoy this past time but it will never be as good as making love with my wife.

Making love with the one you love is something nothing can match.

Some go and degrade sex workers and try to bring them down to their pathetic life.
Also a sex worker is a human being and they too have different views and reasons why they are a sex worker.

In conclusion if you feel guilty and bad about having sex with someone other than your partner- DO NOT DO IT!

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Great post, Bluegrass. I've never cheated on anyone but of course I'd love variety. I know my previous girlfriends have had lusty crushes on other guys just as I have had with other women.

Looking bad, I should've encouraged them to pursue those crushes because I knew, even at the time, those crushes were no threat to our relationship. My only fear was that my girlfriend at the time couldn't handled it when I played away from home. I wished I'd talked to my last two girlfriends about it. A more sexually liberated relationship would've been explosive.

It also opens up other possibilities - 3somes, group sex, swinger clubs etc.

Oh well. Next time.

 

[Reeba]

Cheating needs to be put into perspecitve...

What and who are you betraying" This in my opinion is the question. What does the value or definition of marriage mean? OF COURSE ITS A MATTER OF OPINION AND SELF KNOWLEDGE AND ACCEPTANCE. One can be in love and commit their emotions to someone and have sex with mulitple partners whilst still remaining true to the cause and commitement. (hence the consent of swinging) and be perfectly ok with that. OR not have sex or physical contact with her husband at all (extreme but at the same time socially acceptable for over 600 years - NUNS marry God (which I find completley hypocrital being brought up as a catholic that biligamy is a sin (even though god has a million sex deprived wives!)
Betrayal and acceptance is respective.