Hey abc,
Well I watched your video and found it very amusing. However, I think that it was oversimplifying the situation (it may well be that I overcomplicate everything) and not everything can be boiled down to pithy little stereotypes.
Truthfully speaking, if we talk about instant sexual attraction only (guy on the street, complete stranger, no conversation) I am predominantly attracted to my own racial grouping, however even that is not quite that simple. If you start breaking it down, there is a massive package situation that determines sexual attraction for me.
First, height and size. I am quite tall and outside my healthy weight range, therefore first would be a guy that doesn't make me feel like a behemoth standing next to him. He doesn't have to be basketball height, but a man who can hold his own.
Secondly, hair colour is not important (i have even been attracted to the occasional red head), even whether they have hair or not, not such a bit deal, but whatever their hair is like it shouldn't be too try hard, and it should look like it suits them.
Next, skin. This one is kind of important. Acne and acne scarring is a bit of a turn off for me. Pretty much a deal breaker, but I am prepared to be proven wrong on this one.
Teeth. This one is a deal breaker for me personally. eg: A couple of months back up at Club XS there was a new single guy sitting at the bar. I felt a bit bad for him because sometimes the single guys are really overwhelmed and confronted because they're there alone and feel a bit isolated. I decided to go up and say hello. As I approached, I thought, mm, he's kinda cute. He wasn't Vin Diesel or anything, but he was cute enough. I introduced myself and he smiled and began to speak and he became instantly unattractive to me. Don't get me wrong, totally nice guy, even nice personality, but he had the crookedest, very pronounced buck teeth, which even resulted in a lisp kind of thing, and I couldn't for a minute begin to imagine myself kissing him, or anything else. If that makes me shallow, so be it, just can't go there.
Eyes are important too, but this is where it get's almost indefinable. See it's not about eye colour, or shape or size, it's about connection and how much of a person's authentic soul you can see reflected in their eyes. Intensity of personality is attractive to me too and this is often reflected in the eyes.
Body shape is kind of important too. I don't like body built guys who are seriously cut and their muscles are over built up. That is to say someone who works out and has that lovely V shape going on, nicely defined arms and big strong shoulders but has remained in propotion to the rest of their body would be my preference. The little dimple in between their shoulder and chest, just below the outer edge of the collar bone - that spot drives me wild. Must have a neck. Not into the rugby player look where they are so muscly it looks like their head is sitting straight on their shoulders. Flat bottoms are not fabulous and overly big thighs don't really work for me either. I'm not generally attracted to overweight guys, but there have definitely been exceptions to that rule.
Now, when you read through this, it truly sounds like every man is being broken down and graded on every tiny little detail about them. Not true. I am talking purely about instant sexual attraction. But the best looking hottest put together guy can ruin the entire thing when he opens his mouth. If he is stupid, acts like a dickhead, is rude, talks down about women or drives a Ford (joke) then he becomes instantly unattractive. Conversely a man you are initially unattracted to can become attractive after you have begun talking to him.
And of course there's always the X factor. Something that you can't describe that pulls you into someone. I've always had a thing for the slightly scruffy, bad boy, rock star kind of thing.
So the attraction is not based on racial grounds, that is to say I don't look at a man and say, oh no he's asian, not my type. But I haven't seen an asian man that has been the package deal that makes me go woah. The guy in the video was very good looking, but I wasn't sexually attracted to him.
There have been a number of studies by various universities regarding the choosing of sexual partners and attraction (can't quote them right now, please google) but there has been quite a preponderence of evidence suggesting that people do choose sexual/breeding partners that physically resemble themselves. The anthropology of the human race would suggest that racial groups did seek each other out and develop through the similarity of physical characteristics. Perhaps you get stronger offspring by having similar genetic traits, thereby strengthening the survival of the fittest.
Very big question ABC, sorry to have pondered so long.
Love
swingingstories
