Opening our marriage.

[Jason Todd]

So a few years ago my wife & I were talking about seeking other people to join us in the bedroom. It was a lot of talk & flirting with people but on Saturday we finally proceeded further than just talk.

We met a couple from Canberra who we were talking to online & after dinner & a movie we went back to their place. Things got very naughty but afterwards we felt so happy, we really enjoyed it. We want to continue more, maybe swingers clubs even talking about seeing a few of the amazing WL's.

The only issue we have is that we haven't heard from the couple since, it feels like they've kind of ghosted us. We don't want to overreact because this was our first time but do any of you know if that's normal for couples to just drop off the map for a bit after a couple swap scenario?

 

[No idea what to do]

We don't want to overreact because this was our first time

I would not be worried about that.
Seems to be how some people are, take what they want and leave you wondering WTF.
Eventually you will meet a couple that wanna share multiple Experiences with you and your wife.

Be careful that somebody doesn't get to attached and go outside the square coz it's a possibility. Also trust your judgement.
Enjoy and have fun, I'm sure that was the initial intention.

Advice from The Frenchman
Not always good because it's my opinion
+ I'm up to Wifey No 4​

The Frenchman

 

[Jason Todd]

We don't want to overreact because this was our first time

I would not be worried about that.
Seems to be how some people are, take what they want and leave you wondering WTF.
Eventually you will meet a couple that wanna share multiple Experiences with you and your wife.

Be careful that somebody doesn't get to attached and go outside the square coz it's a possibility. Also trust your judgement.
Enjoy and have fun, I'm sure that was the initial intention.

Advice from The Frenchman
Not always good because it's my opinion
+ I'm up to Wifey No 4​

The Frenchman

Thanks Frenchman,

It kind of feels like we were used for sex & cast aside, I mean we had fun so if that's the case, no problem, we'd just like to know where we stand. Gotta say though, I've never been used for sex before so that's a new experience.

We're definitely keeping the lines of communication open between the two of us, we just have to remember that this is meant to be a bit of fun.

 

[No idea what to do]

Don't let it fuck with you mind.
Being used for SEX is OK., as long as everyone agrees to be involved.

The best advice I could give
also

Keep it up you Guy's
Share and Share Alike​

The Frenchman Free Love is a Beautiful Thing

 

[MikeB]

Thanks Frenchman,

It kind of feels like we were used for sex & cast aside, I mean we had fun so if that's the case, no problem, we'd just like to know where we stand. Gotta say though, I've never been used for sex before so that's a new experience.

We're definitely keeping the lines of communication open between the two of us, we just have to remember that this is meant to be a bit of fun.

Have been involved in the Perth swinging scene for quite a few years and there is no 'one size fits all' rules. Each encounter is unique.

Biggest mistake I have seen that lead to problems, is to apply the rule or expectations you have developed in a lifetime of monogamy to a swinging setting. The swinging setting is so different to the norms and value systems we are all conditioned with from childhood.

Swinging is essentially about carnal, erotic pleasure and arousal, not about developing relationship (although "friendships" can evolve, but if you swing with a partner, even friendships can morph into the green eyed devil of jealousy unexpectedly!)

Enjoy the moment of shared mutual pleasure and arousal for what it is - a moment of respectful, consensual no strings carnal erotic enjoyment

If you enjoyed it and you are satisfied that the other party did too, just be happy with that but don't overthink or try to manipulate to recapture that "moment" again. If "round 2 (+)" is meant to be, leave it to fate to get planets aligned again.

Enjoy ur journey on the swing

 

[Ogtbird]

Enjoy sounds exciting

 

[Craig]

Have been involved in the Perth swinging scene for quite a few years and there is no 'one size fits all' rules. Each encounter is unique.

Biggest mistake I have seen that lead to problems, is to apply the rule or expectations you have developed in a lifetime of monogamy to a swinging setting. The swinging setting is so different to the norms and value systems we are all conditioned with from childhood.

Swinging is essentially about carnal, erotic pleasure and arousal, not about developing relationship (although "friendships" can evolve, but if you swing with a partner, even friendships can morph into the green eyed devil of jealousy unexpectedly!)

Enjoy the moment of shared mutual pleasure and arousal for what it is - a moment of respectful, consensual no strings carnal erotic enjoyment

If you enjoyed it and you are satisfied that the other party did too, just be happy with that but don't overthink or try to manipulate to recapture that "moment" again. If "round 2 (+)" is meant to be, leave it to fate to get planets aligned again.

Enjoy ur journey on the swing

Have been involved in the Perth swinging scene for quite a few years and there is no 'one size fits all' rules. Each encounter is unique.

Biggest mistake I have seen that lead to problems, is to apply the rule or expectations you have developed in a lifetime of monogamy to a swinging setting. The swinging setting is so different to the norms and value systems we are all conditioned with from childhood.

Swinging is essentially about carnal, erotic pleasure and arousal, not about developing relationship (although "friendships" can evolve, but if you swing with a partner, even friendships can morph into the green eyed devil of jealousy unexpectedly!)

Enjoy the moment of shared mutual pleasure and arousal for what it is - a moment of respectful, consensual no strings carnal erotic enjoyment

If you enjoyed it and you are satisfied that the other party did too, just be happy with that but don't overthink or try to manipulate to recapture that "moment" again. If "round 2 (+)" is meant to be, leave it to fate to get planets aligned again.

Enjoy ur journey on the swing

hi MikeB. I am in Perth and would like to find a nice swinger club or place to go regularly. Couldn’t you point me in the right direction? Thanks CraigG

 

[Craig]

I am from Perth and very open to swinging so if anyone could kindly guide me to some nice establishment. Willing to take anything on. Kind regards CraigG.