sbrick
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I'll start with a little about me and where I'm at.
When I was younger and single, I was quite lucky with women. I'm tall and tan easily. I always planned to travel, so it was a good excuse for not settling down with the amazing women I met. Honesty worked surprisingly well!
At 30, I had a regular partner I'd been with for over five years (excluding a 14-month stint in South America). We decided to try for a baby. All our friends were struggling with IVF, and we'd been living together for two years, so I felt ready to settle down. It was odd; I didn't feel in love, but I trusted her more than anyone. We were also best friends. We conceived immediately. Funnily enough, the day she gave birth to our son, I fell in love with her.
She stopped working, I bought us a house, and I worked overtime. Our pre-baby plans vanished. We hadn't really made any concrete ones. Things weren't terrible, but it was more like zombie-TV-watching, housework piling up, and silent treatment when I offered to help.
After three years of silent treatment escalating to yelling, I said we needed to separate; we were both unhappy. We did, and we get along perfectly seven years later. I'm incredibly happy and lucky about that.
I'd had my share of relationships before, so I wasn't bothered about finding someone new after the split. I focused on spending time with my son, having him as much or as little as possible.
Seven years on, I went to Thailand for a friend's wedding and, yes, I broke my "never pay for sex" streak. It wasn't as weird as I thought. It also reminded me how much I enjoy sex. I've tried dating apps, but with no luck. I hate photos and texting. I talk to everyone I meet; most of my time is spent with my son, but the rest is at gigs, festivals, and tours—I'm always doing something. I enjoyed a speed dating event and am trying to find another.
I'm at a crossroads. Dating apps feel like a waste of time. I have faith in meeting people organically, but that's unpredictable. I have this itch again, so I'm considering paid companionship occasionally.
That's why I'm here—to figure out my best options. Cheers!
When I was younger and single, I was quite lucky with women. I'm tall and tan easily. I always planned to travel, so it was a good excuse for not settling down with the amazing women I met. Honesty worked surprisingly well!
At 30, I had a regular partner I'd been with for over five years (excluding a 14-month stint in South America). We decided to try for a baby. All our friends were struggling with IVF, and we'd been living together for two years, so I felt ready to settle down. It was odd; I didn't feel in love, but I trusted her more than anyone. We were also best friends. We conceived immediately. Funnily enough, the day she gave birth to our son, I fell in love with her.
She stopped working, I bought us a house, and I worked overtime. Our pre-baby plans vanished. We hadn't really made any concrete ones. Things weren't terrible, but it was more like zombie-TV-watching, housework piling up, and silent treatment when I offered to help.
After three years of silent treatment escalating to yelling, I said we needed to separate; we were both unhappy. We did, and we get along perfectly seven years later. I'm incredibly happy and lucky about that.
I'd had my share of relationships before, so I wasn't bothered about finding someone new after the split. I focused on spending time with my son, having him as much or as little as possible.
Seven years on, I went to Thailand for a friend's wedding and, yes, I broke my "never pay for sex" streak. It wasn't as weird as I thought. It also reminded me how much I enjoy sex. I've tried dating apps, but with no luck. I hate photos and texting. I talk to everyone I meet; most of my time is spent with my son, but the rest is at gigs, festivals, and tours—I'm always doing something. I enjoyed a speed dating event and am trying to find another.
I'm at a crossroads. Dating apps feel like a waste of time. I have faith in meeting people organically, but that's unpredictable. I have this itch again, so I'm considering paid companionship occasionally.
That's why I'm here—to figure out my best options. Cheers!
