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What Is True & What Is Not
There are some people that have concerns about the use of vibrators for sexual pleasure. However, most of those concerns are not founded on any factual evidence.
With so many myths floating around about them, we decided to explore them and provide information to help you discern for yourself what is real and what is not.
A Brief History Of The Vibrator
Vibrators were still classified as a medical device during the 1900's. The vibrators that were designed for sexual stimulation were first invented by Kellina Wilkinson in the 1880s to treat what was then called "congestion of the genitalia" and "female hysteria".
Physicians treated women for such illnesses by manually stimulating them with their fingers. Because their hands would become tired, the vibrator was introduced. Doctors began using them to have a woman reach orgasm much more quickly. As women began to learn of these methods, women began to sexually stimulate themselves.
Hamilton Beach was the first company to patent the electric vibrator in 1902 and made it available to the general public. It was not uncommon to see advertisements for vibrators in many magazines that marketed to women.
In the 1920s, the vibrator ads began to show up in pornographic magazines. This made them seem taboo to mainstream society and therefore, there was a shift of perception about them from something that was for health purposes to something that was shameful due to its association with sexual pleasure.
Fifty years later, a new breed of sex toys began to emerge and in the 1980's there was a new movement that opened the doors to more mainstream sex toy shops, including some that were marketed toward women. Just within the last ten years there has been a movement to not just make more upscale sex toys but to make them with non-toxic materials with an array of beautiful designs and colours from which to choose.
Benefits Of Vibrators Beyond The Pleasure
In addition to providing pleasure, increased ease in stimulation and a way to de-stress, vibrators have also been shown to greatly assist those with sexual dysfunction as well as disabled people. Those with sexual dysfunction and disabilities have found that that vibrators are an essential part of their sex life and provide increased blood flow to the genitals. This in turn allows for the increase in sexual response and even orgasms. It can also help a man to ejaculate which may not only provide pleasure but also allow him to father a child in situations where he was not able to. Vibrators also allow one to sexually stimulate themselves in cases when they were not able to without their assistance due to a disability.
A national study found that women who used vibrators had better sex life and overall sexual functioning. Vibrators have been shown to provide women with higher levels of arousal, easier to achieve orgasms, increased amounts of orgasms and overall increased sex drive.
Vibrators were also found to be used by over 60% of couples and are not just for solo masturbation. Women and their partners have shown in studies that it allows them both a more satisfying sex life and increased intimacy when used together.
Below Are Common Myths About Vibrators
A Vibrator Will Cause My Genitals To Become Permanently Numb
When someone scratches your back, the initial sensation can feel amazing. It can even give you goosebumps all over your body. However, if someone kept scratching your back, even lightly, that initial thrill that you got from the sensation would fade and it may not seem as stimulating. If someone continued to scratch your back, you may even find it irritating after a long period of time. This is true of any stimulation including from the use of a vibrator. Our nerve endings are not designed to take on continued stimulation and therefore prolonged use of a vibrator may cause TEMPORARY numbness, however it should not be permanent.
Vibrators Can Cause Lasting Nerve Damage
The clitoris and the head of a penis are rich in nerve endings and work wonderfully with a vibrator to provide heightened sexual stimulation. If a vibrator is used for an extended amount of time then the nerve endings may become temporarily desensitized to it, however, simply not using a vibrator for a while will allow the sensation to return. An average vibrating sex toy used properly should not cause nerve damage.
Vibrators Can Cause Permanent Muscle Twitching
While vibrators can cause temporary twitching from time to time in women, it is no different than an eye lid twitch. It is called fasciculation and is a small, involuntary muscle contraction. It often happens after tensing the muscles. While it is not as common vaginally, it can happen from any type of sexual stimulation whether you use a vibrator or not and is most likely nothing to be worried about. It is very similar to getting a muscle twitch in your eye when you read a great deal and have strained the muscles. The twitching usually subsides in a few days. Finding ways to relax the muscle such as a warm bath and holding off on sexual activity for a bit is a good way to treat it. Think of it like this, you would not be worried to read or work on your computer again if your eye would have a twitching episode. Most likely, this is the same type of situation.
A Vibrator Will Take The Place Of A Partner
If you have been contemplating getting a sex toy for your lover, but you are hesitant that they will like it more than you... then you can rest assured that you are among many who worry about the same thing. While some sex toys allow someone to experience increased physical intensity, they are never able to replace the sheer excitement of having a lover be intimate with them!
Many couples admit when asked in private that the ultimate fear about this issue is that they will not be as "good" as the toy. After using them, most couples realize that not only are they a lot of fun, but that the sex toy could never compete with the real thing. Most couples feel that sex toys only enhance their sex lives rather than create distance. This fear is quite normal for men and women, especially because we all have tender egos that need to feel important to our lover, and we all want to feel that we provide them with the most sexual pleasure they have ever had.
A vibrator stimulates us sexually more efficiently than any human could only because of the speed of stimulation, but the feeling of human contact can be far more exciting for a few reasons. Not only does skin to skin contact provide amazing stimulation in a way that no sex toy can, but the desire in the mind toward another person is far more powerful and exciting than any sexual gadget.
The bottom line is that toys only enhance variety and pleasure if you and your lover already have a good sexual connection. Even if you separate out physical sensation with emotional and mental sexual turn on... the physical sensation of another person and you getting off with each other is hotter than anything else. Simply being a giving lover in bed with a willingness to be vulnerable, creative and caring is what truly makes a great lover and no sex toy can replace you because of that.
A Vibrator Can Be Addictive
A Vibrator does not cause you to become addicted to it. If someone uses a vibrator to masturbate and does it excessively, it is not because they are addicted to the vibrator, it is because they may have a compulsive tendency to masturbate. Read more about normal vs. unhealthy masturbation.
If you like wearing a certain shirt because it looks good and is soft on your skin and you wear it often does that mean you are addicted to it? No, it means you enjoy it and using a vibrator is the simply using something that you enjoy.
If You Have A Partner You Don't Need A Vibrator
Using a sex toy with your lover can actually strengthen your relationship. You need to have a certain amount of closeness to share this intimate new experience together. Using a sex toy can be a good affirmation of that closeness. If you want to use a sex toy, but your lover doesn't think you need a sex toy to brighten up your sex life, assure him or her that you don't need a sex toy either, you'd just like to try one as a way to have creativity and a positive sexual adventure that you can share together.
Vibrators Are For Masturbation Only
While vibrators are great when it comes to masturbation, they are also wonderful products for couples to enhance their connection with one another. When a couples is open to explore creativity with one another it can create a new level of flirtation, pleasure and intimacy. There are some that say if you need sex toys, then you must be not doing wrong. That is simply not true. While no one need sex toys... we do not need a lot of things in life that we enjoy... dessert, music, movies, etc. However, these things are enjoyable as are sex toys and they are no different than finding new ways to entertain and please one another in the bedroom.
Buying Vibrators Has To Be Embarrassing
We certainly agree that most people do find it embarrassing and that is why buying them discreetly from the comfort of your own home is the best way to avoid this. That is why we ensure that our company will not send your order in anything but discreet packaging. We will not contact you in regard to anything but your order, and we will never sell your information. You don't have to worry about racy catalogues coming to your house or any other such potential embarrassment. We really care about your feelings and do all we can to protect them.
Vibrators Are Morally Wrong
Normal, healthy people use sex toys all the time. If it helps break any misconceptions we have sex toy orders from every type of person imaginable. From accountants, doctors, celebrities, professional athletes, to house wives and college students. Using a sex toy doesn't make you "weird," it helps provide pleasure, creativity and adventure to your sex life. There is nothing that says a vibrator is immoral other than someone's personal opinion and determining if one is right for you is something that you have to ask yourself... not someone else.
Vibration Is Low Frequency Heat
Vibration is not heat, it is motion which can create friction and in turn create heat. However, vibration itself is not heat. If you put something warm on your genitals, it will help relax you and increase blood flow to the area, however, it does not provide anywhere near the stimulation that the motion of a vibration provides.
Vibrators Unnaturally Force Orgasms
Orgasms are created in the body naturally every time you have one. Your body is what creates an orgasm not the vibrator. The vibrator simply acts as the stimulus and can provide the ideal environment for an orgasm. However, it cannot force you to have an orgasm and using motion to stimulate the genitals to achieve a sexual release is not unnatural. In fact, taking one's finger and stimulating the clitoris through rubbing is the same concept as a vibrator, it is just that a vibrator can move faster.
Vibrators Can Cause Pelvic Floor Weakness
Vibrators do not cause pelvic floor weakness. In fact, they actually help to strengthen the pelvic floor by encouraging Kegel contractions which in turn make those muscles stronger.
Vibrators Can Cause Incontinence
Vibrators do not cause incontinence. Because vibrators help to strengthen the pelvic floor muscles, this in turn actually helps to prevent urinary incontinence.
My Doctor Will Be Able To Tell I Am Using A Vibrator
A doctor will not know you have been using a vibrator unless you tell them. There is nothing that a vibrator will change about your anatomy when you use it properly.
Using Sex Toys Can Be Dangerous
Sex toys are not dangerous when they are used properly. The truth is that there have been documented health benefits from increased blood flow and libido to reduction of improving sexual function. Prostate massage can help to reduce the chances of prostate cancer, while Kegel exercises help women to maintain vaginal tone and prevent urinary incontinence. Using sex toys is no different than using work out equipment in that you must use it as intended and in turn you can then see positive results.
The Same Vibrator Will Work For Everyone
There is no one "sure thing" vibrator. Sex toys are a very personal thing and finding what is right for you may take some exploration. Just some considerations to keep in mind are-
Intensity
How powerful do you want your vibrator to be? Power can make all the difference in the world. It affects the intensity of stimulation and can mean the difference between reaching orgasm and not.
Noise
Is noise a concern? Do you want it to be quiet? Trying to relax and get into the mood can be quickly hampered when you have a noisy vibrator that alerts family or roommates as to what you are doing. If that is of concern, finding a vibrator that is quiet will be an important factor.
Size
How big do you want your vibrator? Using a vibrator that is large has the advantage of allowing more area to be stimulated and can be more comfortable to handle. A long handle allows for a comfortable grip and allows for some alternatives in how it can be used. A smaller vibrator can be more easily hidden and can be used in some cases more easily during sexual activity in ways that a larger vibrator cannot be. Determining how you want to use your vibrator and how powerful you want it to be can influence how large it should be.
Variations Of Vibration
Do you want a vibrator that offers multiple levels of stimulation from low to high vibration to pulsations and surges? Do you want it to run programs or do you want a simple vibrator that will keep a steady vibration?
Power
Do you prefer something that requires batteries, is rechargeable or plugs in? There are pros and cons to each-
Battery Pros & Cons
A sex toy that requires batteries affords the user to operate without cords and provides a larger variety of sex toys to choose from as most require batteries. These can be costly if not using rechargeable batteries by having to keep replacing them. These can be bad for recycling purposes if you use non-recyclable batteries and therefore bad for the environment. We recommend getting rechargeable batteries to counter the cons if you get a battery operated sex toy.
Rechargeable Pros & Cons
Rechargeable sex toys do not require batteries and are therefore, better for the environment and less expensive to maintain. Depending on the quality of the toy, they may not hold the charge for long. These may also require long charging periods and may not work unless fully charged; making it important to plan on having it charged before your next use. Some rechargeable may not allow you to use it while it is charging.
Plug In Pros & Cons
Electric sex toys are often some of the most powerful vibrators and offer a deep vibration that others cannot compare to. You do not have to worry about costly batteries, the effect of batteries on the environment or planning to make sure your toy is charged. These can limit how far you can move around (we recommend getting an extension cord). The cord may get tangled or get in the way during wild sexual adventures. These also cannot ever get wet as they may create the risk of electrical shock. We recommend wiping down with a moist wash cloth when it is unplugged that has been sprayed with sex toy cleaner
Stimulation
What part of your body do you want to stimulate and do you want to stimulate more than one part at a time. There are single, dual and triple action vibrators that allow you to stimulate up to three different erogenous zones as a time. One of the most popular among women is the dual action vibrator that stimulates both the g-spot and clitoris at the same time.
Vibrator Overview
There are all kinds of reasons why one vibrator may not be as effective as another for someone. That is why we encourage customers to contact us if they have questions before they purchase from us so that we can help them find the right one for them. After all, you would not say that one pair of shoes is going to be the best pair of shoes for everyone right? People need different styles, functions and sizes and no pair of shoes nor a sex toy will meet everyone's needs.
There are some people that have concerns about the use of vibrators for sexual pleasure. However, most of those concerns are not founded on any factual evidence.
With so many myths floating around about them, we decided to explore them and provide information to help you discern for yourself what is real and what is not.
A Brief History Of The Vibrator
Vibrators were still classified as a medical device during the 1900's. The vibrators that were designed for sexual stimulation were first invented by Kellina Wilkinson in the 1880s to treat what was then called "congestion of the genitalia" and "female hysteria".
Physicians treated women for such illnesses by manually stimulating them with their fingers. Because their hands would become tired, the vibrator was introduced. Doctors began using them to have a woman reach orgasm much more quickly. As women began to learn of these methods, women began to sexually stimulate themselves.
Hamilton Beach was the first company to patent the electric vibrator in 1902 and made it available to the general public. It was not uncommon to see advertisements for vibrators in many magazines that marketed to women.
In the 1920s, the vibrator ads began to show up in pornographic magazines. This made them seem taboo to mainstream society and therefore, there was a shift of perception about them from something that was for health purposes to something that was shameful due to its association with sexual pleasure.
Fifty years later, a new breed of sex toys began to emerge and in the 1980's there was a new movement that opened the doors to more mainstream sex toy shops, including some that were marketed toward women. Just within the last ten years there has been a movement to not just make more upscale sex toys but to make them with non-toxic materials with an array of beautiful designs and colours from which to choose.
Benefits Of Vibrators Beyond The Pleasure
In addition to providing pleasure, increased ease in stimulation and a way to de-stress, vibrators have also been shown to greatly assist those with sexual dysfunction as well as disabled people. Those with sexual dysfunction and disabilities have found that that vibrators are an essential part of their sex life and provide increased blood flow to the genitals. This in turn allows for the increase in sexual response and even orgasms. It can also help a man to ejaculate which may not only provide pleasure but also allow him to father a child in situations where he was not able to. Vibrators also allow one to sexually stimulate themselves in cases when they were not able to without their assistance due to a disability.
A national study found that women who used vibrators had better sex life and overall sexual functioning. Vibrators have been shown to provide women with higher levels of arousal, easier to achieve orgasms, increased amounts of orgasms and overall increased sex drive.
Vibrators were also found to be used by over 60% of couples and are not just for solo masturbation. Women and their partners have shown in studies that it allows them both a more satisfying sex life and increased intimacy when used together.
Below Are Common Myths About Vibrators
A Vibrator Will Cause My Genitals To Become Permanently Numb
When someone scratches your back, the initial sensation can feel amazing. It can even give you goosebumps all over your body. However, if someone kept scratching your back, even lightly, that initial thrill that you got from the sensation would fade and it may not seem as stimulating. If someone continued to scratch your back, you may even find it irritating after a long period of time. This is true of any stimulation including from the use of a vibrator. Our nerve endings are not designed to take on continued stimulation and therefore prolonged use of a vibrator may cause TEMPORARY numbness, however it should not be permanent.
Vibrators Can Cause Lasting Nerve Damage
The clitoris and the head of a penis are rich in nerve endings and work wonderfully with a vibrator to provide heightened sexual stimulation. If a vibrator is used for an extended amount of time then the nerve endings may become temporarily desensitized to it, however, simply not using a vibrator for a while will allow the sensation to return. An average vibrating sex toy used properly should not cause nerve damage.
Vibrators Can Cause Permanent Muscle Twitching
While vibrators can cause temporary twitching from time to time in women, it is no different than an eye lid twitch. It is called fasciculation and is a small, involuntary muscle contraction. It often happens after tensing the muscles. While it is not as common vaginally, it can happen from any type of sexual stimulation whether you use a vibrator or not and is most likely nothing to be worried about. It is very similar to getting a muscle twitch in your eye when you read a great deal and have strained the muscles. The twitching usually subsides in a few days. Finding ways to relax the muscle such as a warm bath and holding off on sexual activity for a bit is a good way to treat it. Think of it like this, you would not be worried to read or work on your computer again if your eye would have a twitching episode. Most likely, this is the same type of situation.
A Vibrator Will Take The Place Of A Partner
If you have been contemplating getting a sex toy for your lover, but you are hesitant that they will like it more than you... then you can rest assured that you are among many who worry about the same thing. While some sex toys allow someone to experience increased physical intensity, they are never able to replace the sheer excitement of having a lover be intimate with them!
Many couples admit when asked in private that the ultimate fear about this issue is that they will not be as "good" as the toy. After using them, most couples realize that not only are they a lot of fun, but that the sex toy could never compete with the real thing. Most couples feel that sex toys only enhance their sex lives rather than create distance. This fear is quite normal for men and women, especially because we all have tender egos that need to feel important to our lover, and we all want to feel that we provide them with the most sexual pleasure they have ever had.
A vibrator stimulates us sexually more efficiently than any human could only because of the speed of stimulation, but the feeling of human contact can be far more exciting for a few reasons. Not only does skin to skin contact provide amazing stimulation in a way that no sex toy can, but the desire in the mind toward another person is far more powerful and exciting than any sexual gadget.
The bottom line is that toys only enhance variety and pleasure if you and your lover already have a good sexual connection. Even if you separate out physical sensation with emotional and mental sexual turn on... the physical sensation of another person and you getting off with each other is hotter than anything else. Simply being a giving lover in bed with a willingness to be vulnerable, creative and caring is what truly makes a great lover and no sex toy can replace you because of that.
A Vibrator Can Be Addictive
A Vibrator does not cause you to become addicted to it. If someone uses a vibrator to masturbate and does it excessively, it is not because they are addicted to the vibrator, it is because they may have a compulsive tendency to masturbate. Read more about normal vs. unhealthy masturbation.
If you like wearing a certain shirt because it looks good and is soft on your skin and you wear it often does that mean you are addicted to it? No, it means you enjoy it and using a vibrator is the simply using something that you enjoy.
If You Have A Partner You Don't Need A Vibrator
Using a sex toy with your lover can actually strengthen your relationship. You need to have a certain amount of closeness to share this intimate new experience together. Using a sex toy can be a good affirmation of that closeness. If you want to use a sex toy, but your lover doesn't think you need a sex toy to brighten up your sex life, assure him or her that you don't need a sex toy either, you'd just like to try one as a way to have creativity and a positive sexual adventure that you can share together.
Vibrators Are For Masturbation Only
While vibrators are great when it comes to masturbation, they are also wonderful products for couples to enhance their connection with one another. When a couples is open to explore creativity with one another it can create a new level of flirtation, pleasure and intimacy. There are some that say if you need sex toys, then you must be not doing wrong. That is simply not true. While no one need sex toys... we do not need a lot of things in life that we enjoy... dessert, music, movies, etc. However, these things are enjoyable as are sex toys and they are no different than finding new ways to entertain and please one another in the bedroom.
Buying Vibrators Has To Be Embarrassing
We certainly agree that most people do find it embarrassing and that is why buying them discreetly from the comfort of your own home is the best way to avoid this. That is why we ensure that our company will not send your order in anything but discreet packaging. We will not contact you in regard to anything but your order, and we will never sell your information. You don't have to worry about racy catalogues coming to your house or any other such potential embarrassment. We really care about your feelings and do all we can to protect them.
Vibrators Are Morally Wrong
Normal, healthy people use sex toys all the time. If it helps break any misconceptions we have sex toy orders from every type of person imaginable. From accountants, doctors, celebrities, professional athletes, to house wives and college students. Using a sex toy doesn't make you "weird," it helps provide pleasure, creativity and adventure to your sex life. There is nothing that says a vibrator is immoral other than someone's personal opinion and determining if one is right for you is something that you have to ask yourself... not someone else.
Vibration Is Low Frequency Heat
Vibration is not heat, it is motion which can create friction and in turn create heat. However, vibration itself is not heat. If you put something warm on your genitals, it will help relax you and increase blood flow to the area, however, it does not provide anywhere near the stimulation that the motion of a vibration provides.
Vibrators Unnaturally Force Orgasms
Orgasms are created in the body naturally every time you have one. Your body is what creates an orgasm not the vibrator. The vibrator simply acts as the stimulus and can provide the ideal environment for an orgasm. However, it cannot force you to have an orgasm and using motion to stimulate the genitals to achieve a sexual release is not unnatural. In fact, taking one's finger and stimulating the clitoris through rubbing is the same concept as a vibrator, it is just that a vibrator can move faster.
Vibrators Can Cause Pelvic Floor Weakness
Vibrators do not cause pelvic floor weakness. In fact, they actually help to strengthen the pelvic floor by encouraging Kegel contractions which in turn make those muscles stronger.
Vibrators Can Cause Incontinence
Vibrators do not cause incontinence. Because vibrators help to strengthen the pelvic floor muscles, this in turn actually helps to prevent urinary incontinence.
My Doctor Will Be Able To Tell I Am Using A Vibrator
A doctor will not know you have been using a vibrator unless you tell them. There is nothing that a vibrator will change about your anatomy when you use it properly.
Using Sex Toys Can Be Dangerous
Sex toys are not dangerous when they are used properly. The truth is that there have been documented health benefits from increased blood flow and libido to reduction of improving sexual function. Prostate massage can help to reduce the chances of prostate cancer, while Kegel exercises help women to maintain vaginal tone and prevent urinary incontinence. Using sex toys is no different than using work out equipment in that you must use it as intended and in turn you can then see positive results.
The Same Vibrator Will Work For Everyone
There is no one "sure thing" vibrator. Sex toys are a very personal thing and finding what is right for you may take some exploration. Just some considerations to keep in mind are-
Intensity
How powerful do you want your vibrator to be? Power can make all the difference in the world. It affects the intensity of stimulation and can mean the difference between reaching orgasm and not.
Noise
Is noise a concern? Do you want it to be quiet? Trying to relax and get into the mood can be quickly hampered when you have a noisy vibrator that alerts family or roommates as to what you are doing. If that is of concern, finding a vibrator that is quiet will be an important factor.
Size
How big do you want your vibrator? Using a vibrator that is large has the advantage of allowing more area to be stimulated and can be more comfortable to handle. A long handle allows for a comfortable grip and allows for some alternatives in how it can be used. A smaller vibrator can be more easily hidden and can be used in some cases more easily during sexual activity in ways that a larger vibrator cannot be. Determining how you want to use your vibrator and how powerful you want it to be can influence how large it should be.
Variations Of Vibration
Do you want a vibrator that offers multiple levels of stimulation from low to high vibration to pulsations and surges? Do you want it to run programs or do you want a simple vibrator that will keep a steady vibration?
Power
Do you prefer something that requires batteries, is rechargeable or plugs in? There are pros and cons to each-
Battery Pros & Cons
A sex toy that requires batteries affords the user to operate without cords and provides a larger variety of sex toys to choose from as most require batteries. These can be costly if not using rechargeable batteries by having to keep replacing them. These can be bad for recycling purposes if you use non-recyclable batteries and therefore bad for the environment. We recommend getting rechargeable batteries to counter the cons if you get a battery operated sex toy.
Rechargeable Pros & Cons
Rechargeable sex toys do not require batteries and are therefore, better for the environment and less expensive to maintain. Depending on the quality of the toy, they may not hold the charge for long. These may also require long charging periods and may not work unless fully charged; making it important to plan on having it charged before your next use. Some rechargeable may not allow you to use it while it is charging.
Plug In Pros & Cons
Electric sex toys are often some of the most powerful vibrators and offer a deep vibration that others cannot compare to. You do not have to worry about costly batteries, the effect of batteries on the environment or planning to make sure your toy is charged. These can limit how far you can move around (we recommend getting an extension cord). The cord may get tangled or get in the way during wild sexual adventures. These also cannot ever get wet as they may create the risk of electrical shock. We recommend wiping down with a moist wash cloth when it is unplugged that has been sprayed with sex toy cleaner
Stimulation
What part of your body do you want to stimulate and do you want to stimulate more than one part at a time. There are single, dual and triple action vibrators that allow you to stimulate up to three different erogenous zones as a time. One of the most popular among women is the dual action vibrator that stimulates both the g-spot and clitoris at the same time.
Vibrator Overview
There are all kinds of reasons why one vibrator may not be as effective as another for someone. That is why we encourage customers to contact us if they have questions before they purchase from us so that we can help them find the right one for them. After all, you would not say that one pair of shoes is going to be the best pair of shoes for everyone right? People need different styles, functions and sizes and no pair of shoes nor a sex toy will meet everyone's needs.
