Annabella
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I like to think of what I do as creative sexual problem solving. My clients come to me with issues like orgasmic difficulties and mismatched sex drives. They want to learn how to communicate about sex, how to feel more sexually confident, and how to rescue their floundering sex lives. I keep my antennae tuned into the particular challenges of their situations, then use a combination of accurate information, personalized exercises and good ol’ fashioned advice to help them start creating the sex lives of their dreams.
BE PLAYFUL PEOPLE!
People take sex so damned seriously.
Most of us feel like there are certain roles we’re “supposed” to play during sex -- wanton vixen, innocent girl-next-door, submissive female. It makes us feel inauthentic, it’s deadening, and it’s not a lot of fun. One of the questions I ask my clients is, “When was the last time you had fun during sex?” In response, I usually get a look that translates to, “I didn’t even realize that was an option.”
Make pleasure your focus, always.
We can all get so wrapped up in pressure, expectation, anxiety, and embarrassment that we forget that one of the best reasons to have sex is simply because it feels good.
Prioritizing pleasure is one of the simplest but most powerful lessons I teach my clients. One woman shared with me, “Once it finally clicked for me that my only goal is to feel pleasure, it was like an entirely new world opened up.” When my clients feel doubtful or wary of the importance of pleasure, I share with them this list of the ways that pleasure can vastly improve your life:
It helps take the pressure off of orgasm when you direct your attention to pleasure instead of the end goal. Dozens of my female clients had their first orgasms after being able to make this shift.....Getting specific about what feels good helps you figure out what you want.
Think about it this way: How can you tell your boyfriend, “Pizza sounds great for dinner tonight” if you aren’t acutely aware of just how delicious pizza is? Gently directing your attention to the pleasure your body feels during sex can alleviate body consciousness. It’s hard to feel worried about the cellulite in your legs when you’re fully tuned in to the sensations of someone's tongue on your thighs.....Tuning into pleasure instantly helps you be more present in the moment. Because sex is no fun when you’re distracted by the pile of unfolded laundry on the floor.
Trying to find the pleasure in even the most mundane aspects of your daily routines quite simply makes life more enjoyable! Ever appreciate the feel of warm, sudsy water when you’re washing the dishes? Do you actually enjoy the fresh air and birds chirping when you’re walking the dog?
Have a beginner’s mind. ( Me) -haha
If there’s one thing that will keep the fires burning until you’re puttering around in a walker, it’s novelty. Our brains light up like Christmas trees when exposed to new things.
The fantastic news is that there are an endless number of ways to experiment with sex. Sex is something that you will never be able to fully master. There’s no black belt or foot-tall trophy in sex (although come to think of it, now I really want one). Approach sex like there’s always something new to learn and try, because it’s true!
Try out a sex position that requires a four-step process to get into. Maintain curiosity about what your partner likes, and ask him or her for input regularly. Try masturbating with an entirely new method. Play the “Would You Ever” game with your partner. Purchase a sex toy that seems perplexing yet oddly intriguing.
I always thought I wouldn't be doing this kind of work....BUT I would always watch porn and have my " moments" haha. so doesn't get any better then the real thing does it.? I believe sex is better depending on the connection so, I like to take a little time to know the customer...so then we can have great sex....not just Boom boom Bang. haha. hope everyone like's this book I have wrote
Kisses& Hugs,
Anabella .xox
BE PLAYFUL PEOPLE!
People take sex so damned seriously.
Most of us feel like there are certain roles we’re “supposed” to play during sex -- wanton vixen, innocent girl-next-door, submissive female. It makes us feel inauthentic, it’s deadening, and it’s not a lot of fun. One of the questions I ask my clients is, “When was the last time you had fun during sex?” In response, I usually get a look that translates to, “I didn’t even realize that was an option.”
Make pleasure your focus, always.
We can all get so wrapped up in pressure, expectation, anxiety, and embarrassment that we forget that one of the best reasons to have sex is simply because it feels good.
Prioritizing pleasure is one of the simplest but most powerful lessons I teach my clients. One woman shared with me, “Once it finally clicked for me that my only goal is to feel pleasure, it was like an entirely new world opened up.” When my clients feel doubtful or wary of the importance of pleasure, I share with them this list of the ways that pleasure can vastly improve your life:
It helps take the pressure off of orgasm when you direct your attention to pleasure instead of the end goal. Dozens of my female clients had their first orgasms after being able to make this shift.....Getting specific about what feels good helps you figure out what you want.
Think about it this way: How can you tell your boyfriend, “Pizza sounds great for dinner tonight” if you aren’t acutely aware of just how delicious pizza is? Gently directing your attention to the pleasure your body feels during sex can alleviate body consciousness. It’s hard to feel worried about the cellulite in your legs when you’re fully tuned in to the sensations of someone's tongue on your thighs.....Tuning into pleasure instantly helps you be more present in the moment. Because sex is no fun when you’re distracted by the pile of unfolded laundry on the floor.
Trying to find the pleasure in even the most mundane aspects of your daily routines quite simply makes life more enjoyable! Ever appreciate the feel of warm, sudsy water when you’re washing the dishes? Do you actually enjoy the fresh air and birds chirping when you’re walking the dog?
Have a beginner’s mind. ( Me) -haha
If there’s one thing that will keep the fires burning until you’re puttering around in a walker, it’s novelty. Our brains light up like Christmas trees when exposed to new things.
The fantastic news is that there are an endless number of ways to experiment with sex. Sex is something that you will never be able to fully master. There’s no black belt or foot-tall trophy in sex (although come to think of it, now I really want one). Approach sex like there’s always something new to learn and try, because it’s true!
Try out a sex position that requires a four-step process to get into. Maintain curiosity about what your partner likes, and ask him or her for input regularly. Try masturbating with an entirely new method. Play the “Would You Ever” game with your partner. Purchase a sex toy that seems perplexing yet oddly intriguing.
I always thought I wouldn't be doing this kind of work....BUT I would always watch porn and have my " moments" haha. so doesn't get any better then the real thing does it.? I believe sex is better depending on the connection so, I like to take a little time to know the customer...so then we can have great sex....not just Boom boom Bang. haha. hope everyone like's this book I have wrote
Kisses& Hugs,
Anabella .xox
