Money/Lifestyle among friends?

[Dez]

What is the climate of money between you and your friends/family?
Are you at similar life stages to your friends or very different? Obviously not all the same situations for each friendship, but how does money make for conversation? Are you better off then some or worse off?

Do you think that females are more hyper aware of their $ status with their friendships than males? How does "keeping up with the Jones'" affect your friendships?

If you have a friend with significantly more opportunities and "wealth" (for lack of a better word) do you feel pinched and resentful if they talk about something up and coming happening for them that is beyond your reach...

Alternatively- If your that other friend do you feel like you have to censor your excitement so as to not offend. Do you feel judged/ unentitled to complain about a hard financial hit you may have taken? Is a hard week for you a normal week for your friend?

Thoughts from the wise people please?

 

[Anastacia]

My friends in very -very different social and financial status. Since I deal with properties for many years many of those people still my friends and ask for advice. I have friends who owns fortune and poor students who lives with parents because they can't pay they own rent. Friendship for me based on 1 criteria. I cant stand negative and boring people. Fair enough if someone bitch to me occasionally, but if it becomes repetitive cycle, than I find excuse not to see and contact them. It's might be not right, but, this is the way I live.
And I have seen people ( especially after CFC) from multi -million fortunes going broke and those who made it from nothing to top managerial positions with salary higher than 800 000.

 

[HappyPirate]

Ahoy;- strictly working class city folk, who struggle to pay the bills. We are over worked and under payed but luv life and have a little fun when we can.
Cheers and pass the Rum

 

[Happy2]

Ahoy;- strictly working class city folk, who struggle to pay the bills. We are over worked and under payed but luv life and have a little fun when we can.
Cheers and pass the Rum

Screw you to City Boy
Thought we got on all right HP ? But it seems you were just slumming it with a country boy eh?
I will now just crawl back into the bush and not annoy you City folk any more

 

[HappyPirate]

Ahoy nothing wrong with poor-old-country folk, to get away from the city I become a sailor, then I went to Pirate school, now I am soooo poor I have no-ship, Ohhhh well I need to steel a new ship LOL

Screw you to City Boy
Thought we got on all right HP ? But it seems you were just slumming it with a country boy eh?
I will now just crawl back into the bush and not annoy you City folk any more

 

[Happy2]

Ahoy nothing wrong with poor-old-country folk, to get away from the city I become a sailor, then I went to Pirate school, now I am soooo poor I have no-ship, Ohhhh well I need to steel a new ship LOL

Your not getting out that easy Mr Pirate
Strictly working class city folk ! I emphasise Strictly
I will forgive you one day But which one ? And how far in the future will it be ? Thats the poser
Caio City boy Hmmpf
Dont forget your seasick pills next time you sail the mighty Torrens in you Tinnie

 

[HappyPirate]

Ahoy sealing a Tinny;- good idea. You got to Luv those country Folk

 

[Happy2]

You just keep suck holing Mr Pirate I will let you know when we are good

 

[Raye@Langtrees]

Me and my friends...we never seem to see each other as often as we would like cause we always
WORKING .. None of us are well off financially, but we have acquired possessions of value
along the way. We still have to keep working for that elusive $ . Me and friends dream of
Winning lotto like everyone else out there. None of friends complain about financial position
we just get on with it. We don't judge when one of us has more than the other cause really
No one gives a shit....

 

[Happy2]

Me and my friends...we never seem to see each other as often as we would like cause we always
WORKING .. None of us are well off financially, but we have acquired possessions of value
along the way. We still have to keep working for that elusive $ . Me and friends dream of
Winning lotto like everyone else out there. None of friends complain about financial position
we just get on with it. We don't judge when one of us has more than the other cause really
No one gives a shit....

That's because you and your friends have a genuine bond
True, and often hard earned friendship

 

[SAO26.2]

It's easy to say money doesn't make a difference, but the truth is it does. People can certainly be friends with others from different income tax brackets, especially when they know each other through a common context like work, a sport, or an activity.

It can get awkward when trying to socialise outside the common context, because one person can afford things the other can't. So you get different ideas on everything from vacation choices to clothing choices to private vs public schools for kids.

It's not that they don't get along or don't like each other or anything sinister like that. It's just that they don't have basic things in common, so it's hard to sustain a close long term friendship. They become more distant friends.

 

[HappyPirate]

Ahoy ;- You know what is better than been a "Poor City Dweller", been an "Good Old Country Folks", they got it all:------ fresh air, fresh eggs, fresh chickens
and We all know who sits at the bottom of the heep;- Yeah those ;"Old Pirates" all they got is the Ocean and Rum barrels

 

[Happy2]

Ahoy ;- You know what is better than been a "Poor City Dweller", been an "Good Old Country Folks", they got it all:------ fresh air, fresh eggs, fresh chickens

Your getting there Mr Pirate We will be back to fairly good acquaintances soon

 

[Miss Chloe]

I find I am hiding things constantly and feel bad when I see friends or family struggling and knowing I cannot do anything to help without encountering some very awkward and probing questions I feel selfish but I think it would hurt them more knowing what I do with myself at night.

In reverse when I see people doing well it makes me feel good for them and I feel more comfortable about my own situation.

 

[Dez]

I guess its just becoming more noticeable among my friends circles as we approach the 30's. We're all products of the choices we've been making throughout our late teens and 20's. Some in better financial situations than others, some reaching far into where they want to be, some with a little more developing to go. I've got great friends, but my situation is not identical to any of them, kids are different ages, most are not working mums or are working- but not mums.

The more my situation changes, the more alienated I feel for reaching goals and making life adjustments or improvements. Its the subtle comments about lifestyle choices, schooling choices for my kids, or just following up a positive aspect to my life with some sort of cynicism.

And it probably sounds like I'm stuck up or something- or not sympathetic to the hardships of my mates, but it's just something I've noticed since I did start working, and how differently I get regarded in some aspects. The majority of the income I contribute to my house goes on important stuffs...it's not like I have a slosh fund.

SO yeah, money has become a sour sore topic amongst me and some friends.

 

[DDxoxo]

I guess its just becoming more noticeable among my friends circles as we approach the 30's. We're all products of the choices we've been making throughout our late teens and 20's. Some in better financial situations than others, some reaching far into where they want to be, some with a little more developing to go. I've got great friends, but my situation is not identical to any of them, kids are different ages, most are not working mums or are working- but not mums.

The more my situation changes, the more alienated I feel for reaching goals and making life adjustments or improvements. Its the subtle comments about lifestyle choices, schooling choices for my kids, or just following up a positive aspect to my life with some sort of cynicism.

And it probably sounds like I'm stuck up or something- or not sympathetic to the hardships of my mates, but it's just something I've noticed since I did start working, and how differently I get regarded in some aspects. The majority of the income I contribute to my house goes on important stuffs...it's not like I have a slosh fund.

SO yeah, money has become a sour sore topic amongst me and some friends.

Yes I understand what you are saying Tania.... we always have some friends who have more or earn more
& we have others who have less and/or earn less..
Still as we struggle to get our bills paid and work towards reaching a day when bills won't be a problem, we enjoy each others company and live and let live......

Personally I would love never to have to go out & do anything just pay bills & be with my family, but even friends get offended if that happens..... just be cruisy and hope you give enough of your time to keep the friends you have!

 

[DDxoxo]

I have seen the real person once they had money

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[DDxoxo]

This is what everyone loves saying - But I am telling you that money does make a difference in a person's life..... It is important because having it will give one a life style that will allow one to be a better person to others less fortunate...

 

[Morgan Sapphire]

 

[Darklord]

What is the climate of money between you and your friends/family?
Are you at similar life stages to your friends or very different? Obviously not all the same situations for each friendship, but how does money make for conversation? Are you better off then some or worse off?

Do you think that females are more hyper aware of their $ status with their friendships than males? How does "keeping up with the Jones'" affect your friendships?

If you have a friend with significantly more opportunities and "wealth" (for lack of a better word) do you feel pinched and resentful if they talk about something up and coming happening for them that is beyond your reach...

Alternatively- If your that other friend do you feel like you have to censor your excitement so as to not offend. Do you feel judged/ unentitled to complain about a hard financial hit you may have taken? Is a hard week for you a normal week for your friend?

Thoughts from the wise people please?

If your friends annoy you just give them 9 rings of power, keep the real ring of power for yourself and kill them all

 

[Lucy Lake]

have only a few good friends who have known me during ups and downs. just trying to live a happy simple life.

 

[Master Yoda]

The only things money really does buy are choices. .......

A lack of money limits one in choices that can be made.


With the wisdom to make good choices. ...money can and will lead to peace and happiness.

Without this wisdom. . . ..money will amplify any unhappiness experienced before the money was there.

 

[Raye@Langtrees]

It's easy to say money doesn't make a difference, but the truth is it does. People can certainly be friends with others from different income tax brackets, especially when they know each other through a common context like work, a sport, or an activity.

It can get awkward when trying to socialise outside the common context, because one person can afford things the other can't. So you get different ideas on everything from vacation choices to clothing choices to private vs public schools for kids.

It's not that they don't get along or don't like each other or anything sinister like that. It's just that they don't have basic things in common, so it's hard to sustain a close long term friendship. They become more distant friends.

I agree with you SAO26.2
Choices you make are everything...to better your life, and making differences for a more comfortable lifestyle. This can piss friends/family off. You do become distant it's not like you're deliberately alienating yourself, your friends/family choose to stay
in the time warp of yesterday. Friends become people you once new, but unfortunately family doesn't change only the aerial distance.

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[Raye@Langtrees]

I guess its just becoming more noticeable among my friends circles as we approach the 30's. We're all products of the choices we've been making throughout our late teens and 20's. Some in better financial situations than others, some reaching far into where they want to be, some with a little more developing to go. I've got great friends, but my situation is not identical to any of them, kids are different ages, most are not working mums or are working- but not mums.

The more my situation changes, the more alienated I feel for reaching goals and making life adjustments or improvements. Its the subtle comments about lifestyle choices, schooling choices for my kids, or just following up a positive aspect to my life with some sort of cynicism.

And it probably sounds like I'm stuck up or something- or not sympathetic to the hardships of my mates, but it's just something I've noticed since I did start working, and how differently I get regarded in some aspects. The majority of the income I contribute to my house goes on important stuffs...it's not like I have a slosh fund.

SO yeah, money has become a sour sore topic amongst me and some friends.

Tania.....when it comes to making changes to your family's situation, this can sometimes bring new anxieties. Your dreams of improvements and adjustments should be admired by friends/family now that you are in a different financial arena. Having an income, now helps you to execute some of your goals and you should feel very proud of yourself.
Don't allow the envious to deter you from achieving. You feel alienated, because you're on your way and others don't like change....you're far from stuck up girl....you have dreadlocks for Christ sake....Lol..Everyone is in charge of their own destiny, onwards n upwards my late husband use to say.
Isn't it amazing how when we earn a quid or two, others who don't, think we loaded. They make you feel guilty as if they should be entitled to some of you're hard earn bucks. Stay positive Tania..
Maybe you socialising to much honey hehehe.....

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[Raye@Langtrees]

I believe money is everything.....it would be like water, for most of us....if you don't have it you can't survive. Love use to make the world go round, but not any more. Times have changed...money makes the world go round. Love went out the window....humans became greedy, no more caring for thy neighbour ...if no money no honey...that's right, u ain't got shit without it.

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Keeping up with the Jones, yeah well there is no hope or future for the once thriving n competitive middle class, most of them r dependent on prescription drugs to escape the pathetic existence that became their lives.
No more showing off your fancy car...no more bragging about your house or TV...hustling the streets to make a quick dollar just to keep up with the Jones.
They never want to leave the cradle of their misled intoxicated youth...extremely ill prepared for unwanted responsibility...now they stay sedated just to cope with their neglected children willingly systematically keeping up with the Jones.
Manic generation with lortabs methadone and totem poles....hillbilly heroine...chewing on morphine patches. On the outside they live in filth ....no self esteem or ambition left....just keeping up with the Jones.
It is time for the great intervention before it's too late.....education is essential in a world of misinformation....you must have the respect to be honest with yourself.....stop lying and making excuses to justify keeping up with the Jones.
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