Man doesn't know he's a Father..

[Phoebe]

Ok Folks...

Lets have a deep and meaningful here...

Woman I know not in Australia fell pregnant to a man she was having a short term affair with (he was married and still is). she wanted him had to have him, and stopped taking the pill (told him she was on it ) had sex with him knowing she was going to fall pregnant, the moment she knew she was pregnant she broke it off told him she no longer wanted to be a part of the affair etc etc.

This man doesn't know he is a father of a child, nor will he ever know as she can support herself and said child in every respect in life without child support, or his support at all.

Does he have a right to know? what are peoples thoughts?

 

[Vineta Sexting]

It's a tricky question. However, ethically, the man has a right to know he is a father, as it impacts his rights and responsibilities. However, the woman's choice to keep this information private complicates the moral implications.

 

[WildBrumby]

I've contemplated having a vasectomy though I practice safe sex just to be sure at least one of us is truthful about birth control.

 

[John Smithl]

Ok Folks...

Lets have a deep and meaningful here...

Woman I know not in Australia fell pregnant to a man she was having a short term affair with (he was married and still is). she wanted him had to have him, and stopped taking the pill (told him she was on it ) had sex with him knowing she was going to fall pregnant, the moment she knew she was pregnant she broke it off told him she no longer wanted to be a part of the affair etc etc.

This man doesn't know he is a father of a child, nor will he ever know as she can support herself and said child in every respect in life without child support, or his support at all.

Does he have a right to know? what are peoples thoughts?

The child and future society will bear the consequences

 

[mrys]

Ok Folks...

Lets have a deep and meaningful here...

Woman I know not in Australia fell pregnant to a man she was having a short term affair with (he was married and still is). she wanted him had to have him, and stopped taking the pill (told him she was on it ) had sex with him knowing she was going to fall pregnant, the moment she knew she was pregnant she broke it off told him she no longer wanted to be a part of the affair etc etc.

This man doesn't know he is a father of a child, nor will he ever know as she can support herself and said child in every respect in life without child support, or his support at all.

Does he have a right to know? what are peoples thoughts?

I think she has a moral duty to inform him. He can then decide what part if any he would like to play in the child's life. How is she going to handle the inevitable questions the child will ask about who is my father. Keeping his identity secret for both father and child is not in either's best interest IMO.

 

[LongHair]

Ok Folks...

Lets have a deep and meaningful here...

Woman I know not in Australia fell pregnant to a man she was having a short term affair with (he was married and still is). she wanted him had to have him, and stopped taking the pill (told him she was on it ) had sex with him knowing she was going to fall pregnant, the moment she knew she was pregnant she broke it off told him she no longer wanted to be a part of the affair etc etc.

This man doesn't know he is a father of a child, nor will he ever know as she can support herself and said child in every respect in life without child support, or his support at all.

Does he have a right to know? what are peoples thoughts?

This is a very sad situation for the guy, I agree with mrys, morally he has the right to know, however what of his current wife, does she also have the right to know as well?

 

[Shazaam]

Ok Folks...

Lets have a deep and meaningful here...

Woman I know not in Australia fell pregnant to a man she was having a short term affair with (he was married and still is). she wanted him had to have him, and stopped taking the pill (told him she was on it ) had sex with him knowing she was going to fall pregnant, the moment she knew she was pregnant she broke it off told him she no longer wanted to be a part of the affair etc etc.

This man doesn't know he is a father of a child, nor will he ever know as she can support herself and said child in every respect in life without child support, or his support at all.

Does he have a right to know? what are peoples thoughts?

Does he have a technical legal right to know? Don't think so.

 

[Goodstuff36 Bon truc in french]

Ok Folks...

Lets have a deep and meaningful here...

Woman I know not in Australia fell pregnant to a man she was having a short term affair with (he was married and still is). she wanted him had to have him, and stopped taking the pill (told him she was on it ) had sex with him knowing she was going to fall pregnant, the moment she knew she was pregnant she broke it off told him she no longer wanted to be a part of the affair etc etc.

This man doesn't know he is a father of a child, nor will he ever know as she can support herself and said child in every respect in life without child support, or his support at all.

Does he have a right to know? what are peoples thoughts?

This is not about Anthony Albanese dad is it ???

 

[mrys]

This is not about Anthony Albanese dad is it ???

I suspect not I'm not sure politicians have parents. I think they are born to agenda's. Agenda's are gender fluid and are intuitive to voter sentiment. They also have deep pockets and are inclined to promise the world......so long as your taxes pay for it

 

[Anna]

Ok Folks...

Lets have a deep and meaningful here...

Woman I know not in Australia fell pregnant to a man she was having a short term affair with (he was married and still is). she wanted him had to have him, and stopped taking the pill (told him she was on it ) had sex with him knowing she was going to fall pregnant, the moment she knew she was pregnant she broke it off told him she no longer wanted to be a part of the affair etc etc.

This man doesn't know he is a father of a child, nor will he ever know as she can support herself and said child in every respect in life without child support, or his support at all.

Does he have a right to know? what are peoples thoughts?

My answer would be "no".
1. It was mutually agreed that she would take pills and the affair was an affair-no-strings attached, probably so telling him now might put him in a dilemma.
2. If the girl wants to keep the child as his all-time memory, that should be respected, provided she later does not come up with some filthy idea of blackmailing him into things he never knew

 

[Smythie]

What about the child? The child might start asking questions about the father? Or might have a medical issue and need a donor? Which the father fits the criteria.

 

[Anna]

What about the child? The child might start asking questions about the father? Or might have a medical issue and need a donor? Which the father fits the criteria.

for the first question i think situation wise the mom decides. The last one I am unsure too!

 

[LongHair]

for the first question i think situation wise the mom decides. The last one I am unsure too!

With respect I totally disagree, the child has every right to know who its parents are and at the end of the day it is their decsion alone as to whether they choose to pursue a relationship with them.

 

[Amanda O]

Sadly the child will likely end up finding out through some form of DNA testing and resent the fact that the mother wasn't honest from the beginning, have seen this before and it did not end well for any parties.

 

[johnmatilda]

My answer would be "no".
1. It was mutually agreed that she would take pills and the affair was an affair-no-strings attached, probably so telling him now might put him in a dilemma.
2. If the girl wants to keep the child as his all-time memory, that should be respected, provided she later does not come up with some filthy idea of blackmailing him into things he never knew

One of the only sensible answers and explanations.

Due to the mother's misdeeds, she should bear the curse of whatever goes down without dragging the father down with her, including explaining to the child her conniving actions.

 

[johnmatilda]

she can support herself and said child in every respect in life without child support, or his support at all

She can but will she? She can still file for child support back pay after 18 years. She did what she did for a reason and obviously thought it well through.