Ladies and Oral sex.

[azazel87]

Okay, so here's the story. I've been with a couple of different partners since I first started out at 17 (late bloomer lol) but as yet, I have yet to receive any stimulation of an oral persuasion... I've happily given oral (As I quite enjoy the knowledge that I'm pleasuring the woman I'm with) but I've never had the favour returned.

Just wandering if this is a common theme with women, or have I just lucked out in finding the girl to satisfy my curiosities?

 

[TemptMe]

I am hoping you have just been unfortunate......I love to provide my man with oral pleasure almost as much as he loves to receive it.

 

[Isabella11]

I've always been happy to reciprocate - but if there's a hygiene issue (think dick cheese) then NO THANK YOU!!! I'm always surprised by the number of men who don't know how to wash their cocks properly - and have taught many how to (mainly cos I wanna suck them but not before it's nice and clean).

 

[azazel87]

Haha, I knew that that topic would crop up eventually. It's a valid point, but not really applicable in my situation. I take pride in my cleanliness and appearance.

For me cleanliness is next to godliness, and not just in the Irish dictionary. (sorry Irish folk, little joke at your expense, nothing malicious)

Ohh and I certainly hope it's just been bad luck to this point...

 

[Spunkymunky]

I do know a fair few girls who just wont do it - obviously most of the women on this site are not going to be of that inclination! But i found it really surprising that a lot of girls HATE IT. One of my friends wont do it - at all. So dont take it to personally.

 

[sexiness]

There are also plenty of guys who treat a women very disrespectfully when she performs oral and this is enough to put a women off it, like all of us, what others do in the community effects everyone and it only takes a few arseholes.

Like Spunkymunky mentioned
your likely to find women on here who are more than happy to oblige than out and about at clubs :love10:

and cleanliness is essential for both genders :la:

 

[Spunkymunky]

Mmmm i love doing it and even i lost interest after a not to pleasant experience. Damn porn giving guys the wrong idea!

 

[CathyDomme]

Sadly there are way too many women out there that have had bad experiences with over "enthusiastic" guys. Tip for the day guys, ears are not handles!

Your profile says that you are only 21, so I wouldn't start worrying just yet that you are never going to experience the wonders of oral sex. Is it that the girls you have been with haven't done it, or won't do it? There is a big difference.

I know a lot of women that don't just go down on a guy even if they do like doing it. They like to have the man in charge. They like to do what he wants them to.

Maybe you just have to ask... BUT if they say no, you HAVE to respect that.

FYI age plays a big part for some women. I didn't like performing oral sex on either guys or girls when I was in my late teens, but I have always had a thing about power through sex and I saw oral as a submissive thing to do. I am NOT a submissive person. Since then I have learned that there is a lot of power in giving someone oral and I love doing it now, just not in a traditional sense. :evil1:

 

[Spunkymunky]

In my late teens i saw oral sex as a powerful thing - cos you can tease and torment a person (be they male or female). I think that has a lot to with our extremely unorthodox sex ed at high school.

The school i went to had very high rates of teen sex, pregnancy and STDs so when we got to year ten and got split into boy/girl groups for the sex ed course our teacher was a 50yr old, lesbian with one leg (she was a complete nutter as well). The two lessons she taught us that i will never forget were:

1) don't give a guy a blowjob after you have eaten cornchips cos they leave little cuts in your mouth and you are much more likely to get an std......and......
2) If a guy is pressuring you to have sex and you dont want to BUT you dont want to upset him - give him a blowjob as a distraction.

It was fairly effective as well. Probably not the best thing to teach to the majority of 15yr olds but most of us were already at the drunken, random sex stage so at least it gave us a backup plan. I managed to use the oral sex thing and hold onto my virginity until i was ready to lose it!

Perhaps it jsut depends on earlier experiences girls have had - and i second the fact ears are not handles! Also - making a chick gag is NOT a turn on for us

 

[CathyDomme]

The school i went to had very high rates of teen sex, pregnancy and STDs so when we got to year ten and got split into boy/girl groups for the sex ed course our teacher was a 50yr old, lesbian with one leg (she was a complete nutter as well). The two lessons she taught us that i will never forget were:

You were lucky! Our sex ed teacher was a lot like Mr Mackey from South Park, "Sex is bad. Mmm'kay?"

It was the 80's though and before the big AIDS scare hit, so I guess it just wasn't a priority.

1) don't give a guy a blowjob after you have eaten cornchips cos they leave little cuts in your mouth and you are much more likely to get an std......and......
2) If a guy is pressuring you to have sex and you dont want to BUT you dont want to upset him - give him a blowjob as a distraction.

Well there you go. I never thought about the whole corn chips thing. I am going to have to remember not to order nachos when I got out on a date! Speaking of nachos, eating a full jalapeño just before giving a guy oral gives them a very unique experience.... Don't try this if you are going to have oral with a girl though... major ouchie!!

Blowjob as a distraction? Never been a fan of that myself. If they are putting that much pressure on me then they ain't the type of guy for me, and I am sure that they can take care of things for themselves a little later.

 

[TemptMe]

1) don't give a guy a blowjob after you have eaten cornchips cos they leave little cuts in your mouth and you are much more likely to get an std......and......

Include brushing and flossing in that category toooo.. The line of thought is to ensure a good two hours has passed before participating in fluid exchange to limit the chances of STI's. Food for tought..

 

[azazel87]

Lol, this topic has taken on a life of it's own. Yeah, I'm 21 and I'm not really that fussed about not having experienced oral to be honest, it was more of a curiosity thing.

The girls I have been with just weren't interested in giving oral, no idea why to be honest. and I agree about oral being a power exchange in sex. I love oral for the fact that I directly control exactly what's happening, very nice that knowledge

 

[Isabella11]

Good point about the age thing. I've just been reminded that my mouth was a cock-free zone when I was in my late teens, but once I hit my mid-20s...................:icon_blow

 

[TemptMe]

I have to say I never truly enjoyed it until I joined forces with my current partner and now theres no stopping me....

 

[Minxxy]

i prefer to give head rather than get it...

Youre just lucking out...

 

[Mary Anne PA]

Personally I love giving MUCH more than receiving ;-p

I know quite a few girls who refuse, mainly due to guys trying to choke them (how can men even think thats hot?)

 

[corneus]

lucky man!

I guess i have been extremely fortunate. I don't recall anyone i have slept with having an issue with oral sex, in fact i don't even recall any of them making an issue about swallowing or not. and yes, i have slept with a few... !
Even more fortunate, my beautiful lady has absolutely no gag reflex and just loves giving me head, morning, noon and night. (almost as mush as I love doing the southern liplock with her! hehe) I am indeed blessed! :wav:

 

[dude69]

mmm... never had any problems getting head, I'm always very clean. Ive never been with a woman who would let me cum in her mouth though. I love going down on a woman and I tell them so when we are getting together for the first time. I know a woman who is 40+ and never gave a blowjob to anyone before we started seeing each other a couple of years ago. She used to say it was yuk... hygene was not high on her ex-husbands agenda. The first time we had sex together she was playing with my dick and surprised me by leaning down and sucking my cock. She said it was clean and smelt nice.
Yay for cleanliness...