Is this sexual abuse?

[Jimmy long]

So, I made it clear I just wanted a massage, at a well established and good quality shop, and the girl keeps prodding, teasing and grabbing, wanting me to get erect and paying for more service. If the positions where reversed, male masseur and female client, that would be sexual abuse, right? So why not the other way around?

 

[bitme62]

Good point!! But less support coz 99.99...% of guys like that.

 

[ozwarlock67]

Wait what!! Were you expecting legitimate massage?
Most of us would love to be in your place.

 

[Fat boy]

If this establishment offers extras, then you can't blame her, she is just trying to earn more. Also, is she Asian? Because she may not have understood your instruction.

 

[baal6007]

Was it a legit massage shop?

 

[Jimmy long]

Legit shop in a shopping centre, was in a private room but I could hear conversations outside, so not much privacy, yes Asian lady, but I did not expect this

 

[Tania Admin]

Legit shop in a shopping centre, was in a private room but I could hear conversations outside, so not much privacy, yes Asian lady, but I did not expect this

Tell her your gay from get go and you should be fine.

I do think it's just as bad for a woman to sexually harass a man as it is a man to harass a woman.

 

[sircurious]

If it's a legit massage shop located in a shopping centre - they also employ male masseurs, so he could have other problems if he said he's gay!!!

Tell her your gay from get go and you should be fine.

I do think it's just as bad for a woman to sexually harass a man as it is a man to harass a woman.

 

[Jimmy long]

gay or not isn't the point, its about "no is no" no matter what your proclivity is

 

[Miss Monique]

It doesn't sound like it was appropriate. Did you tell her to stop or that's not what you wanted?

 

[English Rose]

Slightly different but still the same.
On my advertisement it says I do a relaxing massage plus hand relief in the nude. I also have it written guys can touch me gently but nothing invasive below the waist but even when I say NO they still push their finger's inside me and it upsets me big time. I have had to write more to my advert because they are still pushing past my boundaries. Just a note not all guys, just some.
To the guys that think it's okay to do what you like, believe me, it might be fun and games to you but it's bordering on abuse to me.

 

[Jimmy long]

It doesn't sound like it was appropriate. Did you tell her to stop or that's not what you wanted?

Yes, said "no", and all I wanted was the massage. Im not precious, so brushing past and touching is one thing, grabbing and direct attention to get an erection is another.

 

[Jimmy long]

Slightly different but still the same.
On my advertisement it says I do a relaxing massage plus hand relief in the nude. I also have it written guys can touch me gently but nothing invasive below the waist but even when I say NO they still push their finger's inside me and it upsets me big time. I have had to write more to my advert because they are still pushing past my boundaries. Just a note not all guys, just some.
To the guys that think it's okay to do what you like, believe me, it might be fun and games to you but it's bordering on abuse to me.

Agree totally, work within the limits given, never push past the boundaries. If its not clear, just ask "is it ok to touch ...?

 

[sabredog]

Agree totally, work within the limits given, never push past the boundaries. If its not clear, just ask "is it ok to touch ...?

exactly so.

Respect it seems, is a word not in some peoples vocabulary.

 

[MikeB]

It doesn't sound like it was appropriate. Did you tell her to stop or that's not what you wanted?

in the face of the law It not whether you say stop or not, it’s whether you consent.

 

[English Rose]

Agree totally, work within the limits given, never push past the boundaries. If its not clear, just ask "is it ok to touch ...?

Well Jimmy Long, I am fully qualified Massage Therapist so if you're ever in Baldivis and you want a massage with no hand relief feel free to contact me and I can also do it fully clothed for you.

 

[Jimmy long]

Well Jimmy Long, I am fully qualified Massage Therapist so if you're ever in Baldivis and you want a massage with no hand relief feel free to contact me and I can also do it fully clothed for you.

Funny thing is, I like both, depends on what the feeling is for the day

 

[Phoebe]

Oh stop, please oh stop, I can't I'm married, oh please stop, oh please stop, yes please hmmmmm yep that's how it goes, you're married what her name, who? oh oh oh but can she do this....

 

[dan60]

So, I made it clear I just wanted a massage, at a well established and good quality shop, and the girl keeps prodding, teasing and grabbing, wanting me to get erect and paying for more service. If the positions where reversed, male masseur and female client, that would be sexual abuse, right? So why not the other way around?

what the flying fuck do you expect.
can the the ladies read your mind?
what do you you really expect if you frequent these premises?
even if you are not in the market for some extras, can you blame the lady for trying?

 

[baal6007]

what the flying f**k do you expect.
can the the ladies read your mind?
what do you you really expect if you frequent these premises?
even if you are not in the market for some extras, can you blame the lady for trying?

Did you even read the thread? The guy was visiting a legit massage place in a shopping centre.

 

[dan60]

Did you even read the thread? The guy was visiting a legit massage place in a shopping centre.

of course i read the thread.
what industry do you think we are dealing with.
FFS sometimes i really really don't get it

 

[Seeking]

Oh stop, please oh stop, I can't I'm married, oh please stop, oh please stop, yes please hmmmmm yep that's how it goes, you're married what her name, who? oh oh oh but can she do this....

 

[Farm Boy 2]

gay or not isn't the point, its about "no is no" no matter what your proclivity is

And how did you say No?


Was it NO or more like nooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooo........................................................................................................

 

[Jimmy long]

I guess this has become an esoteric discussion, and suggest those that actually like to be harassed go off and enjoy all the other titillating material on this site, I've made my point, and will leave it at this point. Cheers everyone