Is This Really Possible?

[SheDevil7]

I've been friends with this guy for about 10 years and three days ago we ended up making out and he proceeded to finger me and give oral sex. He stopped before I climaxed, and then just sat there on the couch with me for a while afterwards, acting like nothing happened. He didn't try to get anything in return, and I was too shocked to offer. We haven't spoken about it since. Is it possible for a guy to simply offer oral sex to a girl because he wants to, and not want anything in return? What do guys get out of oral sex if they don't get something from the woman?? (I've NEVER experienced this attitude in a man in the past). I'm worried he was frustrated with my body or the fact that I didn't orgasm while he was playin' around.

 

[Petronius]

Yes, it's entirely possible. I do it all the time. Quite often I'm in the mood to give pleasure but not in the mood to have sex, so out come the fingers, tongue and toys and she has a great time. (NB: I wouldn't have stopped before you came...)

 

[stevea905]

Definately possible, I get as much pleasure from giving pleasure to others as I do from recieving.

 

[Althalus]

I absolutely love to give oral to a woman, although we generally have sex afterwards I would be fine some days with stopping after I've pleasured her.

 

[Sir Stefan]

Sometimes it is just nice to 'eat pussy'.... every pussy is in some way different and each has a different scent.... some inviting, some repulsing.... whilst some are dryer...others wetter... and each has it's own unique nectar and viscosity/lubricity.... and from a male perspective it is nice to explore and compare...

I once went down on a petite Escort Girl..... who had an absolutely delightful taste.... the following day she sent me an SMS saying..."thank you for last night"..... I replied with "The memory of your sweet nectar lingers on my tongue".... to which she responded... "plenty more where that came from".... and there was as she became my lover and I dined on her pussy almost nightly for the next 2 years.... even had my initial tatooed on it!

 

[TheConsultant]

I've been friends with this guy for about 10 years and three days ago we ended up making out and he proceeded to finger me and give oral sex. He stopped before I climaxed, and then just sat there on the couch with me for a while afterwards, acting like nothing happened. He didn't try to get anything in return, and I was too shocked to offer. We haven't spoken about it since. Is it possible for a guy to simply offer oral sex to a girl because he wants to, and not want anything in return? What do guys get out of oral sex if they don't get something from the woman?? (I've NEVER experienced this attitude in a man in the past). I'm worried he was frustrated with my body or the fact that I didn't orgasm while he was playin' around.

Hello SheDevil7,

It could be possible that he didn't want to pressure you into sex as he may have thought that was what he was doing. Because you had been friends for so long then he may have been unsure if taking things to a sexual level was "the right idea". I don't know what brought about the making out but maybe he had second thoughts and thats why he didn't want to have penetrative sex?
Could it have been a set of actions brought about by a mixture of alcohol and sexual frustration?
Has there been any sexual attraction in the past?


The acting normal afterwards could mean that he wanted to keep things on a normal level so that your making out seems like a natural everyday thing to do. I take it that you're thinking that it's something special and after 10 years as friends I think that it is too!
Do you think that you can talk to him about it?
Are you close enough friends to talk about personal things like that or have you known him for 10 years but are more casual friends than close friends?

It is possible for men to get off on giving oral sex to women (or men). I have come from being so turned on by the orgasm that the woman I was eating was most obviously having. The moans/screams/tight thighs around the face/ hands cluching my hair/ bucking body from an orgasm can be very satisfying Many men love to give. Maybe he stopped because he came?

There's plenty of other things for you to think about so don't automatically think that it's all your fault, there were two people on that couch

My advice would be to talk to him about it if you think that you can talk without destroying the friendship. Who knows, it could be the start of a beautiful relationship

TheConsultant.

 

[Carmen Stirling]

I've been friends with this guy for about 10 years and three days ago we ended up making out and he proceeded to finger me and give oral sex. He stopped before I climaxed, and then just sat there on the couch with me for a while afterwards, acting like nothing happened. He didn't try to get anything in return, and I was too shocked to offer. We haven't spoken about it since. Is it possible for a guy to simply offer oral sex to a girl because he wants to, and not want anything in return? What do guys get out of oral sex if they don't get something from the woman?? (I've NEVER experienced this attitude in a man in the past). I'm worried he was frustrated with my body or the fact that I didn't orgasm while he was playin' around.

I think this is possible for sure. I tell you that which happened only 6 months ago. So I was here in Perth a stranger and without many things and not knowing some peoples I can be trusting so much and many men try to take advantage of me by offering to assist but then always they are asking me for do them some favour in return and this i don't like to do.

Then I meet one special man and he helps me so much but never does he look for any reward. I would like to give him some reward but only what I have to offer is my body and I do not like maybe to be offend him.

He invites me to go with him to dinner at restaurant on river and asks me to wear some sexy clothes, so this I do for him, sure because in this way I can be able to return some kindness to

On the way to the restaurant, which is 20 minutes from his apartment I sit beside him and hitch my very short skirt so high that my pussy is peeping from the bottom and I open the front of my top so that my breasts are exposed.

He reaches across and is begin to stroke my thigh. Then I take his hand and place it to my breast.

After a few moments I move his hand to the top of my thigh and his fingers start to explore my wet pussy.

I putting one of my foot up to top of the dash and my other foot over his shoulder and I place his fingers into my pussy and he is driving still watching the road but is moving so deep his fingers into my pussy and I am really hot and so bad do I want him to fuck me, but never do I tell him this.

He parks the car at the restaurant and says.... ok we must go in now or we will be late for dinner!

He then takes me home to his apartment and shows me to the guest room.

I really wanted to fuck him for reward for his kindness but I am not sure as he does not make any trouble to have sex with me and this I can't understand.

The next morning he makes breakfast and when we are sitting he talks about last night and he says Carmen I really enjoyed to be exploring your body last night and I find you very appealing and I was tempted to fuck you but during dinner I am thinking about this and I am decide no, I will not do that.

I am puzzled so I am ask to him why not?

And he tells me he is enjoy the special friendship we have and he is not did wanting to be compromise this by having sex with me as he did not wanting for me to think that his past kindness to me was only as a means for him to be have sex with me.

So, in this case, this man has think to placed HIS value on friendship of me above his wanting to have sex with me and now we are still friends and still he helps me.

So I think yes, it is to be possible for this man who for so long you are knowing to put same values on frienship maybe?

 

[svengali]

My answer to She Devil would be in line with most of the above.

Yes, it is very possible for a man to simply offer pleasure without seeking sex and/or to back off from sex. We are often painted as being mere vehicles for a penis but that is far from the truth. We have the same complex emotional needs and feelings as women but just don't wear them on our sleeves.

Your situation (10 year non-sexual relationship) means that this is a platonic friendship and the sexual behaviour is a new element which has probably thrown him off balance and he has had a flash of "Crikey, what am I doing? this is She-Devil") A bit like having the guilts about seducing your best mate's sister.

I guess the next step is you have to talk about this or act on it. Like it or not the dynamic of the relationship has now changed and both of you need to adjust to this.

 

[johnlou]

Carmen well said as i 2 prefer to put friendship befor my personal needs ( and alass that maybe y i never been hitched )

 

[stormline]

hi she devil7,well i think its kind of strange that if he had you nearly at orgasm then stopped that part i dont understand,but yes as a guy who luvs nothing more than to make a lady cum with my tounge i can understand that but to me thats it he stoped.there use to be 2 w/ls that i always got off by d.a.t.y,one inhouse one escort.the lady inhouse always liked to see me as she used to really get off on that and actualy spurt as well and that is heaven,so sometimes we would do this just for the hour,but i have to admit most times we had a 2hour booking and she wanted me to fuc her for sure,so yes sometims i did but still never cum but she knew i was very happy and content as i gave her a goodtime.its not all about us guys as most women think most times i rather give pleasure as that gives me pleasure in return even i we dont fuc or if we do i dont cum..i have had alot of girls think i didnt get off because they didnt make me cum,but that was not so.some beleived me some thought i was just being nice.in all honesty it does not bother me if i dont cum as long as i have a goodtime..yes sometimes it does take along time b4 i get off but i still really enjoy geting a lady off why because of d.a.t.y..if a w/l doesnt offer that in her service i wont see her again or uses one of those plastic things,like yeah i luv licking plastic..yes i know its the law.so i for one can relate to it but dont understand why he didnt make you cum unless he thought you did.the other is very much along the lines of S.S experience with the escort lady even down to the text mmmm.so thats just my point of view,though it can also be a huge turn off if the lady isnt clean.....

 

[Haste69]

Hi all, I have learnt a lot today! I love giving oral to a girl - getting them noisy and throbbing makes for lasting memories. Using the tongue to go around her pussy lips and suck her clit seems great foreplay. I have known some girls who are very nervous about you eating pussy whereas others love it. I think I just like giving!!

 

[some1.uknow]

I have often given and not received occasinally you get strange responses when they realise I am not particulary after anything in return.

 

[invarius]

A lot more guys than you might think too are just natural "givers"- they prefer to be the giving one in the relationship in all things, sex included. For myself, I love feeling a woman twitch and moan underneath me like that, but I also recognize it's about balance. I've had girlfriends who would go down on me and not ask for anything in return, I like to make sure she knows that I'll do the same for her.

 

[kmbo71]

Yes this is possible. I too love going down and love being appreciated for it. I can get more out of the pleasing sometimes than being pleased. If you enjoyed it, don't worry and just enjoy yourself.

 

[TemptMe]

In that act of being so "giving" there is a great deal of receiving also. The pleasure that your partner/husband/wife is feeling gives back so much to the giver.. Go with it and know that all parties are enjoying as when you do this you end up "giving" too.

 

[shamberg]

after 10 years maybe he was mixing it up a bit? or...maybe he was seeing how you would respond to his actions. i know i love teasing girls to the point were they lose the plot. next time have sum fun with him.

 

[mickeyfinnski]

Strange, but possible.

 

[valgard22]

perhaps it's possible

 

[Granite]

You just have to talk to him.
Maybe he wasn't sure you were enjoying it.
Maybe he was hoping you'd be so turned on you'd pounce on him.
Only he knows.

 

[jllyjnny]

Defenitely possible, shame that he stopped before you orgasmed, i like to complete a job

 

[funstroker]

I like nothing better than seeing my partner climax from oral sex.... turns me on big time - I usually want some action myself though, but not always!

 

[leica]

giving is awesome, solely giving, not expecting anything in return. But I would only do it to someone I cared about - not a random encounter with a friend. Maybe his feelings run deeper.

 

[travb81]

i met my g/f in a similar way, somehow had a few drinks together, i got adventerous and went down on her, she orgasmed and we left it at that for the night - the next day she wanted more

 

[orgazman68]

Strange he may of ending up feeling awkward after the initial lusting passed, did you response in anyway to indicate too keep going, maybe it was your reaction that made him think twice about what he was doing. Cant believe he stopped before you climaxed, i know i would be able to stop until the job was done.