In love but still buys sex
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sex and love are 2 different things,,,the fact you are seeing w/l's shows that you are seperating the 2 and shows wisdom in my eyes
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Saige
Dr Phil defines cheating as anything you would not do in front of your partner!!!
HOWEVER...a client summed it up perfectly to me once, I love my wife, life and would not change anything except, he desires more from his sex life..rather than being frustrated at his wife/annoying and it therefore causing problems in there relationship. he could venture out (his choosen way of release or discovery) was to visit a private w/l, one who he knew was lean, there was no emotional ties, like that an affair could possibly form, afterwards relaxed he could go home to his wife happy..kiss and cuddle her (with no morning unwanted poking in the back).
BUT... Nothing is better than being on a sexual journey and similar sexual wants and needs..to share these rather than hide (though is that some peoples turn on??) from your partner is amazing. I had a partner that we would visit working ladies together, another who I being bi helped discover and honour his bi side...very exciting and relationship deepening.
ALSO ... There was an interesting thread series on here...the member posted "If you started dating a lady and 6 mths into the relationship she confessed she was in fact a prostitute...would you end the relationship, what would you do?" People jumped on the she is a liar and deceiving this poor man. The next thread asked "If your wife suspected and asked if you had been seeing someone would you admit to seeing aa prostitute"...lets just say there were a few married members with egg on there face... GOLDEN!!!
HOWEVER...a client summed it up perfectly to me once, I love my wife, life and would not change anything except, he desires more from his sex life..rather than being frustrated at his wife/annoying and it therefore causing problems in there relationship. he could venture out (his choosen way of release or discovery) was to visit a private w/l, one who he knew was lean, there was no emotional ties, like that an affair could possibly form, afterwards relaxed he could go home to his wife happy..kiss and cuddle her (with no morning unwanted poking in the back).
BUT... Nothing is better than being on a sexual journey and similar sexual wants and needs..to share these rather than hide (though is that some peoples turn on??) from your partner is amazing. I had a partner that we would visit working ladies together, another who I being bi helped discover and honour his bi side...very exciting and relationship deepening.
ALSO ... There was an interesting thread series on here...the member posted "If you started dating a lady and 6 mths into the relationship she confessed she was in fact a prostitute...would you end the relationship, what would you do?" People jumped on the she is a liar and deceiving this poor man. The next thread asked "If your wife suspected and asked if you had been seeing someone would you admit to seeing aa prostitute"...lets just say there were a few married members with egg on there face... GOLDEN!!!
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Trans_Iya23
Its just another service like u go to salons as long as you do it safely!
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colbb123
I'm in the same boat. Not much guilt here, although yeah, it's there. It's not like I'm going to stop, so what's the point in rationalizing it?
It sounds like you have rationalised it, weighed things up and come to a decision you're comfortable with. If I wasn't going bald I would take my hat off to you McLuvin, full 10 point to you for this and I hope to have the same clarity one day
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sex and love are 2 different things,,,the fact you are seeing w/l's shows that you are seperating the 2 and shows wisdom in my eyes
agree........sex has nothing to do with love.
It is virtually impossible for one person to fulfill all one needs and wants.
'Cheating' is a man-made concept.
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The One
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I'm in this same boat..devoted to wife and family AND sex is satisfactory. I just can't seem to get enough of the female form and kinky sex. I still masturbate several times a week and look at porn whenever i can. I think if my wife got kinky on me tomorrow i would still visit WL's because of the variety.
I don't feel guilty as i know this is me.. maybe i need therapy...
I don't feel guilty as i know this is me.. maybe i need therapy...
Mrpleasure
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I'm in the same boat my friend. It's just male nature, can't deny humanness!
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CocoKalgoorlie
I'm in the same boat; Happily married, but still need kinky sex etc....wouldn't mind turning a few tricks even.....
McLuvin
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It sounds like you have rationalised it, weighed things up and come to a decision you're comfortable with. If I wasn't going bald I would take my hat off to you McLuvin, full 10 point to you for this and I hope to have the same clarity one day
No worries. *tips hat back* I guess I meant I didn't need to rationalize it publicly and get into some kind of debate about it (I suppose on this forum, that debate probably won't happen so I'll share). ;-) I suppose never having been caught plays a factor. If I ever was 'caught in the act,' my feelings could change. Otherwise it's mostly positives across the board. It's great exercise, it's an awful lot of fun, and perhaps most importantly it gives me a top of the food chain type feeling that IMO keeps me competitive in other aspects of my life (especially work and sports).
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colbb123
Agree McLuvin, I probably didn't word my previous post very well sorry.....hope no offense was taken - thanks for your input