If I quit the industry, is it sensible to move from Perth if I wanted to one day have a partner?

[Leisha]

Ive been hooking since I was 18...now nearly 23...and I have thoughts of one day growing into the monogomous lifestyle, as im trying to currently look for another career....
(I was always told the saddest thing in life is a wasted talent..and sexual interaction isnt all I can do well hehe =) !!)

But then I wondered to myself....with the kind of guy I would like to end up with be most likely australian and local....as so to have similar interests etc....then would I have to make myself a new local in another town or state...because really..

Can you imagine if there was to be a wedding day...when I look at my guests sat in the pews and I realise:

" Holy shit. I think iv shagged my partners uncle/cousin/best friend before. "

Is it nessacary to move do you think?

 

[Phoebe]

Ive been hooking since I was 18...now nearly 23...and I have thoughts of one day growing into the monogomous lifestyle, as im trying to currently look for another career....
(I was always told the saddest thing in life is a wasted talent..and sexual interaction isnt all I can do well hehe =) !!)

But then I wondered to myself....with the kind of guy I would like to end up with be most likely australian and local....as so to have similar interests etc....then would I have to make myself a new local in another town or state...because really..

Can you imagine if there was to be a wedding day...when I look at my guests sat in the pews and I realise:

" Holy shit. I think iv shagged my partners uncle/cousin/best friend before. "

Is it nessacary to move do you think?

Interesting post, if you move then it narrows down the likely hood to run into any previous clients, but then again its getting a small world that we live in, you could always say it wasn't me you have got that wrong, you can do that if you have no tatts to identify yourself, you could say "I get that all the time " I must have a look a like, and if those guys that potentially have shagged you are with a GF themselves will they open their mouths? I think not, I would say the only thing you may have issues with is, the fact can one man satisfy your sexual desires and ways, you would have a very sexual mind by now, and some normal males may not like that, so you would have to be up front too that you were once a hooker and take it from there... some men would walk there and then as they would say " Once a hooker always a hooker" if love is there then love will shine through... anyways IMO 23 is too young to get married keep on enjoying life and your feminine sexuality either being a hooker or a normal average woman. I hope that helps. XXX

 

[Lacie Tomson]

Ive been hooking since I was 18...now nearly 23...and I have thoughts of one day growing into the monogomous lifestyle, as im trying to currently look for another career....
(I was always told the saddest thing in life is a wasted talent..and sexual interaction isnt all I can do well hehe =) !!)

But then I wondered to myself....with the kind of guy I would like to end up with be most likely australian and local....as so to have similar interests etc....then would I have to make myself a new local in another town or state...because really..

Can you imagine if there was to be a wedding day...when I look at my guests sat in the pews and I realise:

" Holy shit. I think iv shagged my partners uncle/cousin/best friend before. "

Is it nessacary to move do you think?

This is a really important and difficult conversation to add merit to. As I am a tad older, I am going to ponder and reply later..
Great thread, but I would like there to be some substance in my thoughts first. x

 

[aussie_single34]

Do you stumble across your clients regularly in your day to day life ?

I rarely come across any of my exes day to day

I'd say moving wouldn't be out of the question... but is it really necessary

 

[Phoebe]

Do you stumble across your clients regularly in your day to day life ?

I rarely come across any of my exes day to day

I'd say moving wouldn't be out of the question... but is it really necessary

sitting in a cell normally makes that occur LOL jokes....

 

[AxeMan]

Ok so Perth is a city of 2,000,000 people. 1,000,000 men. Maybe 500,000 are of punting age. Let's say you've seen 500 different guys in 5 years (no idea about that estimate!). That's 0.1% of punting age guys in Perth. In a crown of 1,000 people, the odds are there will be one person who has seen you.

Nah I think you can stay put

 

[Phoebe]

Ok so Perth is a city of 2,000,000 people. 1,000,000 men. Maybe 500,000 are of punting age. Let's say you've seen 500 different guys in 5 years (no idea about that estimate!). That's 0.1% of punting age guys in Perth. In a crown of 1,000 people, the odds are there will be one person who has seen you.

Nah I think you can stay put

The odds are, if you are married have an affair go out with the affair to say the casino where your wife never goes nor any of her friends, but that time when you are out with the affair playing blackjack {just minding your own business } your wives best friend walks past with a group of girls from her work on a team bonding exercise, she stops and says I see you have 21 but I got you by the balls right about now... if things can go wrong they normally do..

 

[Smoggy]

No I don't think you will have to leave. The guys will be sweating think "I've shagged that girl but I hope she doesn't tell my wife/partner". At some point your partner will know and if he's cool with it I wouldn't worry.

 

[sunyun]

Perhaps the answer may be to start off your second life, find a partner and see if any of his mates look familiar.

You cannot account for long lost cousins or uncles, but you should soon know most of his mates. Ask to see his pics of friends, etc. Then, of course, you can check out most of his mates on Facebook without even meeting them.

Remember you don't have to worry about half of all your acquaintance group, as they are your side and you will have checked them out before they came to you as clients.

There are never going to be guarantees . Even if you moved to Kathmandu, you will probably find some Aussie passing through who looks oddly familiar !

I was working in Guangzhou (the old Canton) and walked into a expat bar, and was whacked on the back by an ex colleague from about 20 years ago. "Long time no see !" (I said, "Its OK, I still speak Aussie English!"). It really is a small world, and so you need to prepare for it, and don't be too surprised if/when it happens.

How do you prepare ? Now that is another question, but generally, I'm with Phoebe : 'if love is there then love will shine through'.

Good luck.

 

[Dallas]

This is just my thoughts on it so not saying im right but I think you should leave, not because of the chances of meeting a former client in future but to give yourself a new start in a fresh environment that has no connection to your current career. But that doesn't have to mean leaving the west, maybe just out of town a little. I also wouldn't tell your future partner about your hookering, from personal experience I'd keep that you yourself. the reason being is that even if he's cool with it, you will always wonder if he looks at you or treats you differently because of what he knows and that will affect your relationship. Good luck with your new career when you eventually decide.

 

[Kylie Middleton]

This is just my thoughts on it so not saying im right but I think you should leave, not because of the chances of meeting a former client in future but to give yourself a new start in a fresh environment that has no connection to your current career. But that doesn't have to mean leaving the west, maybe just out of town a little. I also wouldn't tell your future partner about your hookering, from personal experience I'd keep that you yourself. the reason being is that even if he's cool with it, you will always wonder if he looks at you or treats you differently because of what he knows and that will affect your relationship. Good luck with your new career when you eventually decide.

I know a lot of girls keep this part of their lives a secret from partners but it's obviously a big part of your life, so wouldn't it be better to be able to talk to someone about it, especially if you're looking to spend your life with them? I'm engaged and started in this industry well after I met my partner. The only difference in the way he treats me is that now he lets me pay for dates because he knows I can afford it!

 

[homer]

God forbids if you've done your future FIL...

 

[Giselle Gold]

I would think Perth is big enough not to worry about that.

 

[Dallas]

I know a lot of girls keep this part of their lives a secret from partners but it's obviously a big part of your life, so wouldn't it be better to be able to talk to someone about it, especially if you're looking to spend your life with them? I'm engaged and started in this industry well after I met my partner. The only difference in the way he treats me is that now he lets me pay for dates because he knows I can afford it!

I would agree that being able to talk about it with someone close to you, whether your a lady or a client is a great thing for sure especially as you say, if your looking to spend your life with them. Probably the main difference in your case is that you were in a relationship before you decided to start in the industry so I'm guessing you discussed it with your partner before you started. The risky aspect for most ladies is deciding to share it with a partner after they've established a relationship.

 

[ProfD]

Deep relationship come from trusting and valuing all of who your partner is. I would find it limiting if my partner was silent and secretive about a major aspect of their past or current life.

I can respect that they have confidences to keep (if a therapist etc or in the sex industry) but would want to know about things that could affect me.

There are broad-minded, evolved men in the world who wouldn't judge you any more than if you were polyamorous or bi- .... or a lawyer ;-) In fact, I would think you might have some very interesting and rare insights into what makes people tick.

If you want to change careers, perhaps engage a make-over person to help you change your wardrobe/ hair / etc and also your mindset to take on your new life with a fresh view.

People won't necessarily recognise you in new surroundings, (I couldn't recognise the guy who makes my lunch daily when he wasn't behind a counter).

If someone does suspect, you can keep them guessing by never acknowledging their question. "Do you usually ask highly personal questions of people you've just met?" was something my partner sometimes used.

If your partner knows and doesn't care, there is no embarrassment or leverage value in the information, and the other person asking would reveal themselves as a client. Most would not want that out in public.

No-one should have to move and leave friends behind because of personal interactions.

Good luck if you move, more luck if you stay.

 

[MikeB]

What about the recent case of the Fifi guy that got delayed. Rather than go home & return next day got placed into accomodation near the airport with his supervisor and mate.

Testosterone to the fore organised escorts for all, one who turned up for the supervisor ( high $ classy) was this guy's missus! Was reported in the media, relationship problems no doubt, but he tried to get money back from agency for false advertising because of how his missus was described lol!

Can be a slippery slope - for both client and W/L

 

[pjmc]

What about the recent case of the Fifi guy that got delayed. Rather than go home & return next day got placed into accomodation near the airport with his supervisor and mate.

Testosterone to the fore organised escorts for all, one who turned up for the supervisor ( high $ classy) was this guy's missus! Was reported in the media, relationship problems no doubt, but he tried to get money back from agency for false advertising because of how his missus was described lol!

Can be a slippery slope - for both client and W/L

Oh im certainly sure that was a joke article thats done the rounds a few times!

 

[MikeB]

Oh im certainly sure that was a joke article thats done the rounds a few times!

You questioning the Betoota Advocate

http://www.betootaadvocate.com/unca...ng-escort-services-in-the-worst-way-possible/

 

[htb57]

True love means letting your partner know everything about yourself.
No matter where you go, you cannot change the past so if you truely love him, you will tell him honestly what you have done in your past, as he should tell you what he has done.
There should be no secrets, otherwise there will be a lot of hurt when he finds out.

 

[Pleasureismine THR]

No one should judge you for what you have chosen to do for a career or short term to sort stuff out. You have made the right choices for you at the time.

Take a walk in that person's shoes before you can pass comment for judgment vause you just dont know what the why really is.

 

[Stacey J]

Ive been hooking since I was 18...now nearly 23...and I have thoughts of one day growing into the monogomous lifestyle, as im trying to currently look for another career....
(I was always told the saddest thing in life is a wasted talent..and sexual interaction isnt all I can do well hehe =) !!)

But then I wondered to myself....with the kind of guy I would like to end up with be most likely australian and local....as so to have similar interests etc....then would I have to make myself a new local in another town or state...because really..

Can you imagine if there was to be a wedding day...when I look at my guests sat in the pews and I realise:

" Holy shit. I think iv shagged my partners uncle/cousin/best friend before. "

Is it nessacary to move do you think?

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Ive been hooking since I was 18...now nearly 23...and I have thoughts of one day growing into the monogomous lifestyle, as im trying to currently look for another career....
(I was always told the saddest thing in life is a wasted talent..and sexual interaction isnt all I can do well hehe =) !!)

But then I wondered to myself....with the kind of guy I would like to end up with be most likely australian and local....as so to have similar interests etc....then would I have to make myself a new local in another town or state...because really..

Can you imagine if there was to be a wedding day...when I look at my guests sat in the pews and I realise:

" Holy shit. I think iv shagged my partners uncle/cousin/best friend before. "

Is it nessacary to move do you think?

Personally I would move. Certainly I would move to a different area. Depends if you keep a low profile or not. Also somewhere a bit hippy like Fremantle people won't judge you.

 

[Stacey J]

True love means letting your partner know everything about yourself.
No matter where you go, you cannot change the past so if you truely love him, you will tell him honestly what you have done in your past, as he should tell you what he has done.
There should be no secrets, otherwise there will be a lot of hurt when he finds out.

If you get caught say "it was something that I tried and it wasn't for me".
if you want to make a confession go see a priest.

 

[jackcoates]

I would move I don't want people gossiping forever Absolutely a fresh start Nothing better than being in a new town and not getting a knowing look from ex customer at Coles etc

 

[ozwarlock67]

The OP hasn't logged in since making this thread in 2015.
I wonder if she got married anyway.

 

[sunyun]

Wow, this is an old thread !

 

[Farm Boy 2]

Ive been hooking since I was 18...now nearly 23...and I have thoughts of one day growing into the monogomous lifestyle, as im trying to currently look for another career....
(I was always told the saddest thing in life is a wasted talent..and sexual interaction isnt all I can do well hehe =) !!)

But then I wondered to myself....with the kind of guy I would like to end up with be most likely australian and local....as so to have similar interests etc....then would I have to make myself a new local in another town or state...because really..

Can you imagine if there was to be a wedding day...when I look at my guests sat in the pews and I realise:

" Holy shit. I think iv shagged my partners uncle/cousin/best friend before. "

Is it nessacary to move do you think?

I wonder what happened to Leisha did she get married leave the industry run into old clients ? its been seven years she is 30 now .

 

[Mrs Langtrees]

I wonder what happened to Leisha did she get married leave the industry run into old clients ? its been seven years she is 30 now .

I hope she moved and set up a new life....

 

[LongHair]

An old thread, but boy does it bring up some interesting questions to those of us with enquiring minds. For now in this thread I will just offer the response below.

In todays society why is there still a stigma attached to a person working in the sex industry, why should a person be judged for their choice of occupation. As a society we still really havent evolved too far, we still we prejudice against those who choose an alternative lifestyle which does not align to western, white and politcal right values.

 

[WildBrumby]

Looking at Leisha’s post history possibly she had done well with a business venture she was developing. I hope Leisha has found her feet in the path she has taken.

On a client point of view I can only reflect on my own experience of crossing paths with a lady I had been a loyal customer to.

I was with my then fiancé at the time and when we crossed paths the lady actually told my fiancé that she had “fucked” me. I had to hold them apart as they tried to fight.

When I started a relationship I had taken care to contact the lady to say I was now no longer going to be a client as I was settling down.

She was a lovely lady and maybe she was a little jealous of my fiancé being with me. What ever the reason I felt she had crossed a boundary of professional confidentiality.

 

[Farm Boy 2]

Looking at Leisha’s post history possibly she had done well with a business venture she was developing. I hope Leisha has found her feet in the path she has taken.

On a client point of view I can only reflect on my own experience of crossing paths with a lady I had been a loyal customer to.

I was with my then fiancé at the time and when we crossed paths the lady actually told my fiancé that she had “fucked me”. I had to hold them apart as they tried to fight.

When I started a relationship I had taken care to contact the lady to say I was now no longer going to be a client as I was settling down.

She was a lovely lady and maybe she was a little jealous of my fiancé being with me. What ever the reason I felt she had crossed a boundary of professional confidentiality.