I have often wondered how.....

[Buk]

I have often wondered how the partners of w/ls fair after their lady returns home after a "hard day at the office". Obviously the couple must be on the same page, so to speak, for such a relationship to work and survive. Nevertheless, after 'pleasing' clients in various methods during the day, days, week how does the lady feel when approached by her partner upon her return home for a long session of sex (love making sounds more romantic), especially if she is a bit over it after several full-on sessions with clients? It must take a special form of trust and love, I guess, for such a relationship to work. One special w/l I have been seeing for a couple of years as clearly we get on famously for several reasons, I know I could comfortably have as a partner because of my age (and wisdom? ) and consequently understanding and acceptance of such a couples' working situation. (It won't happen due to considerable age difference). In my 20s and 30s I was too possessive, jealous and naive to accept such a scenario. With age comes clarity and hence acceptance of various types of partnerships. Please enlighten me ladies to your long lasting relationship and to what you credit your and yours success to. Or on the other foot, what caused failure. I find it all so interesting, especially in my strange situation.

 

[kneaded relief]

Buk,yes agree with you,its the oldest tradition in the book,its sad that a woman has to go through with all that,its a choice one makes the rest follows.to emphasize,no woman is keen on it,its more heart ache n pain to be at ones beck n call,I only hope that women are respected despite wat they do.cheers mate

 

[Buk]

Buk,yes agree with you,its the oldest tradition in the book,its sad that a woman has to go through with all that,its a choice one makes the rest follows.to emphasize,no woman is keen on it,its more heart ache n pain to be at ones beck n call,I only hope that women are respected despite wat they do.cheers mate

Thanks KN I agree with you in that the few w/ls I have been with, I have nothing but respect for, since they have always been polite to me and that includes a couple I never went back to simply because I was not totally happy with the service/request I'd paid for. However, that was no reason for me to be disrespectful to them, and I never was, I just did not return.

 

[kneaded relief]

Thanks KN I agree with you in that the few w/ls I have been with, I have nothing but respect for, since they have always been polite to me and that includes a couple I never went back to simply because I was not totally happy with the service/request I'd paid for. However, that was no reason for me to be disrespectful to them, and I never was, I just did not return.

well said man,u r a gentleman,cheers

 

[Jaz]

Buk,yes agree with you,its the oldest tradition in the book,its sad that a woman has to go through with all that,its a choice one makes the rest follows.to emphasize,no woman is keen on it,its more heart ache n pain to be at ones beck n call,I only hope that women are respected despite wat they do.cheers mate

I'm sorry, its hard to follow what you're saying. Are you implying that no woman wants to be a w/l and is never keen on it at all? I think you're wrong and plenty of ladies on here would agree. Not every w/l is down and out with no other options to turn to, many ladies enjoy what they do.

 

[Bianca Bombshell]

I'm sorry, its hard to follow what you're saying. Are you implying that no woman wants to be a w/l and is never keen on it at all? I think you're wrong and plenty of ladies on here would agree. Not every w/l is down and out with no other options to turn to, many ladies enjoy what they do.

^^^SO TRUE @Jaz

@Buk, you are probably showing your age a little with an old, outdated & stereotypical viewpoint on what it is for a sexy, modern female in this day, age and world...I'm sorry, but you are by no means correct in your summation of our feelings & position in this industry ~ i feel a lot cheaper an degraded by the evolution of the "modern day hookup booty-call" than i do taking appointments with discerning, well-groomed, well-maintained, high-earning business clientele at any of the upmarket establishments at which i choose to work. Sorry to see you would like to speak on our behalf and suggest otherwise

 

[kneaded relief]

I'm sorry, its hard to follow what you're saying. Are you implying that no woman wants to be a w/l and is never keen on it at all? I think you're wrong and plenty of ladies on here would agree. Not every w/l is down and out with no other options to turn to, many ladies enjoy what they do.

Glad you feel that way,I was only relating a some women,its a personal choice of occupation,some enjoy it some don't.

 

[AxeMan]

^^^SO TRUE @Jaz

@Buk, you are probably showing your age a little with an old, outdated & stereotypical viewpoint on what it is for a sexy, modern female in this day, age and world...I'm sorry, but you are by no means correct in your summation of our feelings & position in this industry ~ i feel a lot cheaper an degraded by the evolution of the "modern day hookup booty-call" than i do taking appointments with discerning, well-groomed, well-maintained, high-earning business clientele at any of the upmarket establishments at which i choose to work. Sorry to see you would like to speak on our behalf and suggest otherwise

In fairness that was kneaded relief with that view not Buk. He seems quite open and respectful and was simply inquiry about how people in relationships with W/L fair.

I have recently struck up a friendship (soon to be fwb I think) with a nice lady who is thinking about some part time work in the area because she can't make enough in her current career. She has said she still intends to date guys whilst working but would never dream of telling any of them about her being a W/L.

It has been super interesting to talk with her about her plans. So I'm interested in how other W/L viewed relationships when they commenced in the industry and after they had been in the industry a while.

 

[Bianca Bombshell]

In fairness that was kneaded relief with that view not Buk. He seems quite open and respectful and was simply inquiry about how people in relationships with W/L fair.

I have recently struck up a friendship (soon to be fwb I think) with a nice lady who is thinking about some part time work in the area because she can't make enough in her current career. She has said she still intends to date guys whilst working but would never dream of telling any of them about her being a W/L.

It has been super interesting to talk with her about her plans. So I'm interested in how other W/L viewed relationships when they commenced in the industry and after they had been in the industry a while.

this thing is hard to follow with the "quote-reply" boxes....sorry

 

[Buk]

In fairness that was kneaded relief with that view not Buk. He seems quite open and respectful and was simply inquiry about how people in relationships with W/L fair.

I have recently struck up a friendship (soon to be fwb I think) with a nice lady who is thinking about some part time work in the area because she can't make enough in her current career. She has said she still intends to date guys whilst working but would never dream of telling any of them about her being a W/L.

It has been super interesting to talk with her about her plans. So I'm interested in how other W/L viewed relationships when they commenced in the industry and after they had been in the industry a while.

Thanks AxeMan you are spot on, I am most respectful to w/ls and was simply interested in, as you say, how partnerships with w/ls fair. And yes Bianca I am of mature age, but not old hahaha as my kids would attest to with my attitude and partying with them I'm just an interested and curious guy who is most definitely not judgemental....I would be a hypocrite if I was in my current 'night moves'.

 

[Karl]

It will wreck you....... What is true? What not? What happened? What if? What is the (fine ?) line between work and private time? How to define trust? What happens if trust got violated?

Love is an amazing thing.....love can overcome almost everything....but if you are looking for a real challenge....start a relation with a W/L....

 

[Buk]

It will wreck you....... What is true? What not? What happened? What if? What is the (fine ?) line between work and private time? How to define trust? What happens if trust got violated?

Love is an amazing thing.....love can overcome almost everything....but if you are looking for a real challenge....start a relation with a W/L....

I'm beginning to understand the challenge you refer to in regard to a relationship with a w/l as I'm fighting hard not to go there seriously even though we love each other's company. Our age difference will be the hurdle so I can see our current lengthy relationship ever only going to be one of friendship and I can live with that, reluctantly. Love is a strange beast.

 

[Nomansland]

You should read Yoda's interview.

http://www.talkinsex.com/threads/in...ating-a-working-lady.31316/page-2#post-361774

 

[ross89]

I'm beginning to understand the challenge you refer to in regard to a relationship with a w/l as I'm fighting hard not to go there seriously even though we love each other's company. Our age difference will be the hurdle so I can see our current lengthy relationship ever only going to be one of friendship and I can live with that, reluctantly. Love is a strange beast.

Does she still charge you? If so i wouldn't tempt fate.

I don't know much about women but i do know if they *like* you, they will stop charging you very quickly. Then it turns into a FWB situation where 1 person (usually the girl) will inevitably fall in love. Still, its a better love story than Twilight!

No one in a serious relationship (living together) who loves their partner would be fine in seeing them seeing other people for work. Short term it might be OK but long term it wont work.

 

[Viktoria Richards]

^^^SO TRUE @Jaz

@Buk, you are probably showing your age a little with an old, outdated & stereotypical viewpoint on what it is for a sexy, modern female in this day, age and world...I'm sorry, but you are by no means correct in your summation of our feelings & position in this industry ~ i feel a lot cheaper an degraded by the evolution of the "modern day hookup booty-call" than i do taking appointments with discerning, well-groomed, well-maintained, high-earning business clientele at any of the upmarket establishments at which i choose to work. Sorry to see you would like to speak on our behalf and suggest otherwise

Totally agree with you My Love;*

 

[Buk]

Does she still charge you? If so i wouldn't tempt fate.

I don't know much about women but i do know if they *like* you, they will stop charging you very quickly. Then it turns into a FWB situation where 1 person (usually the girl) will inevitably fall in love. Still, its a better love story than Twilight!

No one in a serious relationship (living together) who loves their partner would be fine in seeing them seeing other people for work. Short term it might be OK but long term it wont work.

Ross89 your view I think is more honest than I have been with myself, with regard to my feelings toward this w/l and how (in my eyes, not hers) we could make a life together. I'm a dreamer. Yes she does still charge me. I just accepted that as 'she has to make a living'....easy way out I suppose, to avoid facing up to the facts. I will continue to see her, but will cut down on my frequency of visits; ease back but she has definite hold on me. Your comments make far too much sense and I should heed them for my own sanity AND finance. Love is a dog from hell.

 

[AxeMan]

You should read Yoda's interview.

http://www.talkinsex.com/threads/in...ating-a-working-lady.31316/page-2#post-361774

This was a thoroughly interesting read. From my perspective that is probably how it would go if I were to attempt such a relationship. Which is one the reasons I don't think I could or would.

 

[ross89]

Ross89 your view I think is more honest than I have been with myself, with regard to my feelings toward this w/l and how (in my eyes, not hers) we could make a life together. I'm a dreamer. Yes she does still charge me. I just accepted that as 'she has to make a living'....easy way out I suppose, to avoid facing up to the facts. I will continue to see her, but will cut down on my frequency of visits; ease back but she has definite hold on me. Your comments make far too much sense and I should heed them for my own sanity AND finance. Love is a dog from hell.

I know i'm blunt and often sound like a prick but it comes from a good place. No doubt she really values you in the sense of her business and goes above and beyond on a professional level.

We were given a brain and a penis but I don't believe we can use both at the same time

 

[Buk]

You should read Yoda's interview.

http://www.talkinsex.com/threads/in...ating-a-working-lady.31316/page-2#post-361774

Wow!! That was some incredibly honest and revealing interview! I wish I'd read Yodas interview when first published as may have saved me some personal torment and anguish. It has broadened my understanding of one having or attempting to have a relationship with a w/l. I will have to be realistic and forget my original endeavours with this lady I have been visiting for near 3 years and even travelled briefly overseas with, as too many emotional variables as Yoda so clearly described. I do think my w/l is driven by money first, which I too willingly accomodate. But shit, she is one hell of a lady who I know I will struggle to step back from and even harder, explain to her WHY I am staggering my once frequent visits to her and her place of work. Sometimes I just complicate things for myself....especially when things are shit on the home front.

 

[ross89]

I wouldn't even tell her, just stop going and let her come to you. If you really mean something to her, she will msg / call you. Then you tell her you've developed feelings so you stopped. Ball's 100% in her court then.

I know a couple of pro athelete's and it's crazy how some girls (and guys) are driven by fame and/or money.

 

[AxeMan]

Buk, I know what you're going through and the difficulty that can be had in separating the real from the feigned. Even then there's no clear line between the two. It's possible that she does actually like and desire you but wants that to remain within a 'transaction' context.

I think everyone has to develop 'coping' mechanisms when partaking in the many pleasures that w/ls provide. It can be easy to lose sight of 'reality' if you are not careful.

However, at the same time I think the best times with w/ls are those where there's a little something extra felt on both sides. It's all about controlling and harnessing that for the pleasure and not for the pain. Good luck mate!

 

[Buk]

Buk, I know what you're going through and the difficulty that can be had in separating the real from the feigned. Even then there's no clear line between the two. It's possible that she does actually like and desire you but wants that to remain within a 'transaction' context.

I think everyone has to develop 'coping' mechanisms when partaking in the many pleasures that w/ls provide. It can be easy to lose sight of 'reality' if you are not careful.

However, at the same time I think the best times with w/ls are those where there's a little something extra felt on both sides. It's all about controlling and harnessing that for the pleasure and not for the pain. Good luck mate!

Yes, AxeMan, you have summed it up pretty well. Deep down I know for her our 'relationship' is a lot to do with the 'transaction' context for her, as you so well put it. I have helped her out with a number of issues outside her work and I know she appreciates what I have done for her and values me as good friend.... and client. She has certainly given me special moments beyond common extras but in reality, you are right I need to separate the fact from the fiction. For me it's also fear of returning to the status quo, the 'same ol' same ol'. I'm certainly about to have my willpower (which I'm not renown for) truly tested, so must tread carefully. Thanks for your thoughtful comments, much appreciated. Cheers.

 

[Bee]

Well....i know I may upset the "status quo " with this response but here goes.. Buk either she has feelings for you that go beyond a money/business transaction. If she does then both work out what they are...then at least try to be on the same page....find the balance. But if she doesn't then you have to be totally happy to keep it business....you are both free to persue your own relationships . This is her career and establishment for her future just as everyone is doing...in or outside of the indusstry..Take the good advice here...as written...perhaps "back off " a little...you are in control of your future too!! Everything needs balance....perhaps look at concentrate on looking out for you first and your enjoyment and just being happy. Its a big world out there...you have extraordinary things around you...and extraordinary things happen to everyone...we just don't always see. Good luck ...Bee x

 

[AxeMan]

My two cents, Buk, is that you should only be honest with her about your feelings if you are prepared for every eventuality. And not just that she doesn't reciprocate but that she ends the client relationship as well.

As Bee says some time devoted to yourself might be the answer. Who knows that might draw out her feeling towards you. But whatever you do, do it for yourself and not to try to invoke a particular reaction. What will be, will be.

 

[Buk]

Well....i know I may upset the "status quo " with this response but here goes.. Buk either she has feelings for you that go beyond a money/business transaction. If she does then both work out what they are...then at least try to be on the same page....find the balance. But if she doesn't then you have to be totally happy to keep it business....you are both free to persue your own relationships . This is her career and establishment for her future just as everyone is doing...in or outside of the indusstry..Take the good advice here...as written...perhaps "back off " a little...you are in control of your future too!! Everything needs balance....perhaps look at concentrate on looking out for you first and your enjoyment and just being happy. Its a big world out there...you have extraordinary things around you...and extraordinary things happen to everyone...we just don't always see. Good luck ...Bee x

Well....i know I may upset the "status quo " with this response but here goes.. Buk either she has feelings for you that go beyond a money/business transaction. If she does then both work out what they are...then at least try to be on the same page....find the balance. But if she doesn't then you have to be totally happy to keep it business....you are both free to persue your own relationships . This is her career and establishment for her future just as everyone is doing...in or outside of the indusstry..Take the good advice here...as written...perhaps "back off " a little...you are in control of your future too!! Everything needs balance....perhaps look at concentrate on looking out for you first and your enjoyment and just being happy. Its a big world out there...you have extraordinary things around you...and extraordinary things happen to everyone...we just don't always see. Good luck ...Bee x

Thanks Bee, I will back off a little as although I know we are close, she does value the money/business transaction and has hinted rather than outright stipulated, age difference is a deterrent for a serious relationship between us. And I have to accept that, however it churns me up inside, otherwise I'll go mad. You're right I need to look after myself. Thanks xx

 

[Buk]

My two cents, Buk, is that you should only be honest with her about your feelings if you are prepared for every eventuality. And not just that she doesn't reciprocate but that she ends the client relationship as well.

As Bee says some time devoted to yourself might be the answer. Who knows that might draw out her feeling towards you. But whatever you do, do it for yourself and not to try to invoke a particular reaction. What will be, will be.

That has been a problem for me, trying too hard to invoke a particular reaction/emotion from her. It works sometimes and I'm over the moon then when no reaction, I hit rock bottom. I almost left home for her but she could not promise to join me. Anyway no more whinging from me, I created my situation but I have appreciated the honest input from everyone. Thanks!!

 

[Dallas]

I have been in a short relationship with a w/l once but money issues caused too many problems. I actually think that having a working lady that you pay for as a partner is a much better situation ( i just need to win lotto). You can have your after work hi honey i'm home lets cuddle and do foot rubs in front of the tv working lady... there there is the friday night totally phuk me and destroy the furniture until we both turn blue working lady... then there is the tuesday morning... geez I am so tired and sick of all the serious office worker crap how about we call in late and I get my girl friend over working lady?.. then there is the sunday morning lay in bed and cuddle while the sun beams in the window and we doze in each others arms to the sound of the traffic in the street working lady.... it costs a lot ...and their drivers are always competing for parking out the front but it's definitely worth it!

 

[Buk]

I have been in a short relationship with a w/l once but money issues caused too many problems. I actually think that having a working lady that you pay for as a partner is a much better situation ( i just need to win lotto). You can have your after work hi honey i'm home lets cuddle and do foot rubs in front of the tv working lady... there there is the friday night totally phuk me and destroy the furniture until we both turn blue working lady... then there is the tuesday morning... geez I am so tired and sick of all the serious office worker crap how about we call in late and I get my girl friend over working lady?.. then there is the sunday morning lay in bed and cuddle while the sun beams in the window and we doze in each others arms to the sound of the traffic in the street working lady.... it costs a lot ...and their drivers are always competing for parking out the front but it's definitely worth it!

Hahaha hell where do you find a w/l like that!? I'd walk a million miles for one of her smiles AND her etc, etc, etc..........

 

[Dallas]

Hahaha hell where do you find a w/l like that!? I'd walk a million miles for one of her smiles AND her etc, etc, etc..........

Lol! I don't think there's just one that fits all those roles.. .but you never know.... I was hoping to win powerball last night so I could find out

 

[Jaylily]

I have been in a short relationship with a w/l once but money issues caused too many problems. I actually think that having a working lady that you pay for as a partner is a much better situation ( i just need to win lotto). You can have your after work hi honey i'm home lets cuddle and do foot rubs in front of the tv working lady... there there is the friday night totally phuk me and destroy the furniture until we both turn blue working lady... then there is the tuesday morning... geez I am so tired and sick of all the serious office worker crap how about we call in late and I get my girl friend over working lady?.. then there is the sunday morning lay in bed and cuddle while the sun beams in the window and we doze in each others arms to the sound of the traffic in the street working lady.... it costs a lot ...and their drivers are always competing for parking out the front but it's definitely worth it!

We would all like to win lotto Dallas