When a Man openly says he's been to a Brothel to see a Working Lady,That's Fine. But if a Lady Openly Admit's she's a Working Lady in a Brothel,She's Scarred for Life.Do you Agree??? Your Input would be Greatly Appreciated.
How to you tell friends you are now a sex worker?
- Thread starter Madam Jacqui
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Thatguy
I think people need to get over themselves and not stereotype people..
everyone is entitled to make their own choices and choose their own path in life and not to be judged because of it..
everyone is entitled to make their own choices and choose their own path in life and not to be judged because of it..
Thank you Thatguy for your Wonderful Input...........xxxxxxx
i agree here but i do believe it is not that easy for some to be as open as others . i for 1 could not care less what other people think of me as my true friends know and respect me for who i am , nothing more and nothing less , and to be hones i have a small handful of friends who i call friends .
i do wish it was / is as simple as that
some people will use anything they can to get what they want from anyone , if your like me and not care then no one can harm you for what ever reason
Very Well said Johnlou.............xxxxxxxxx
Ahoy I do agree, many-many ladies, never wish to be discovered or let their social community know what they do for a living.
Here another aspect to RedJacqui original thread.
How many Punters would admit to their social community that they go to brothel on a regular basis?
I am going to be straight out and honest with this question, I do not! Why? it is due to my employment
(do not ask I will not give-out any more details)
Here another aspect to RedJacqui original thread.
How many Punters would admit to their social community that they go to brothel on a regular basis?
I am going to be straight out and honest with this question, I do not! Why? it is due to my employment
(do not ask I will not give-out any more details)
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true HP i have found that employers search the social media for anything on their staff ,
1 interview i went to a few years back did just that with me , they gave me a copy of my my-space account , nothing there that is /was damaging to me . not that i cared.
you do see it happening far too often , like i said earlier , people will use anything to get some where
1 interview i went to a few years back did just that with me , they gave me a copy of my my-space account , nothing there that is /was damaging to me . not that i cared.
you do see it happening far too often , like i said earlier , people will use anything to get some where
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iwtt69
Not too sure which circle of friends you hang with where it's acceptable for a guy to say he's been to a brothel...
honestman
Gold Member
Same thing I would guess to everyone else, kapten. I don't think anyone would dare to make an open statement in front of their workers, or worse - their bosses. Unless if one happens to be a real easy social gel to the boss and everyone else around them - perhaps that'd be a different story.
I've already given out "hints" to all my worker-friends @ work that I am proud to be the "alien" one out of the lot (refuses to take friday night beers or much alcohol, refuses much employee BBQs twice a year, ditched salt & sugar for 4 yrs+, everyone gets the idea). A part of these "hints" also includes the fact that I am not interested looking for a relationship due to the severe economic pressure and extreme list of concrete prefential differences that I just cannot balance. And the biggest and tolerated hint I've given away so far was that I believed to as far as I can say to them that I am different in the way of living & feeling about the world.
I have not said to them concretely straight yet (as of me writing this) that I am progressive, not a conservative when it comes to sex, relationships, etc.
I'd rather let them figure themselves who or what I am as best to how they are bothered in the first place.
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On a note about sharing these things to a "social community" - not even within a private social media environment can be trusted these days. Well, just goes another one reason why I'm glad I'm off it for personal reasons.TBH - not to be rude to some W/Ls out there, including the established $600-$800+ per hour privates - I don't know if "add me" to FB friend-seeking or other form of social media is going to "work" from a business perspective . This industry should be somehow privatised away from social media altogether in my opinion.
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wr3xr
I wouldn't read to much into it, it's just how life is.
If a bloke sleeps with 100men thats great but not many guys would want a wife who has done the same thing.
Double standards are everywhere in life. Sometimes they go your way and its great but sometimes they don't
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estafarr
Good question Jacqui. It would be easy for a woman to be ostracized from mainstream for being a working lady but men are only criticized. I agree with John Lou that who we share ourselves with is usually only a small handful of people, but I imagine if a woman wanted to change jobs from being a working lady to say a teacher and put down five brothels as her referees to get into university it would not go down well. As for being scarred for life - try being open and honest about any so called deviant sexual behavior in any of our lovely small wheat and sheep communities - yes you would be scarred for your life....
it is a shame that working ladies need to live 2 lives , there was a time when every one was equal, but i cannot remember when that was .
i treat every one as my equal, including my employer, when i have 1 . me thinks they not happy when i do but that is what it's all about .
people and companies use this info to intimidate you , like i have said before , " don't let them "
i treat every one as my equal, including my employer, when i have 1 . me thinks they not happy when i do but that is what it's all about .
people and companies use this info to intimidate you , like i have said before , " don't let them "
Thank you So much Magoc..............xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx
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Mexicanpete
Hi Jacqui,
I think there is an association that it is easy for the gents to say that they have been when that is not always the case. It all depends on the individual circumstances really.
Having said that, I do not see any reason why either male or female should be ostracized from any part of society for visiting or working in a brothel. Why does it need to be anything other than just a job for the ladies and just a business transaction for the gents? (or really vice versa for ladies seeing working men?)
Just my 2c
Mexicanpete
I think there is an association that it is easy for the gents to say that they have been when that is not always the case. It all depends on the individual circumstances really.
Having said that, I do not see any reason why either male or female should be ostracized from any part of society for visiting or working in a brothel. Why does it need to be anything other than just a job for the ladies and just a business transaction for the gents? (or really vice versa for ladies seeing working men?)
Just my 2c
Mexicanpete
svengali
Foundation Member
I think the "stigma" of involvment in the sex industry affects both ladies and clients equally.
I would bet that most of the men treat their activities in the "willow world" as a closely guarded secret, even from the closest friends. Sure, single guys with no ties may have nothing to hide but even then there is the stigma of "having to pay for it" when the real bragging currency is to score a freebie.
For the ladies, yep, if you had another day job and word got out of what you were doing after hours your days would be numbered.
One day society will outgrow religious and all other forms of bigotry and working ladies and their clients will be able to freely admit to their activities but I don't think I will live to see it. Maybe my grandkids????
I would bet that most of the men treat their activities in the "willow world" as a closely guarded secret, even from the closest friends. Sure, single guys with no ties may have nothing to hide but even then there is the stigma of "having to pay for it" when the real bragging currency is to score a freebie.
For the ladies, yep, if you had another day job and word got out of what you were doing after hours your days would be numbered.
One day society will outgrow religious and all other forms of bigotry and working ladies and their clients will be able to freely admit to their activities but I don't think I will live to see it. Maybe my grandkids????
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Mexicanpete
Hi Svengali,
While I hope that you are completely wrong about not living to see society outgrow it's bigotry I do share the sentiment. Maybe one day it will finally happen though
I think you have summed it up very well.
Mexicanpete
Not sure if this is understandable and I can't elaborate too much. But I have experienced the opposite.
Thats it Dahlia........................
Bluegrass9
Diamond Member
Best for a punter to tell nobody. You never know who will tell who.
A working lady like a punter live two lives.
I believe best to keep them both seperate no matter married or single.
A working lady like a punter live two lives.
I believe best to keep them both seperate no matter married or single.
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Samantha Witch
I do agree, Most girls have concerns about whether or not they should tell their family, friends about their work. It is a really big decision.If you do decide to tell someone, you have to be ready to support them and yourself.
They may want to ask you questions you may not feel comfortable answering; they may say they never want to speak to you again. They may burst into tears, so you’ll need to comfort them; they may threaten to tell everyone at your straight job or your extended family, partner or children. You need to ensure you have the strength and external support to help you deal with this situation.
They may want to ask you questions you may not feel comfortable answering; they may say they never want to speak to you again. They may burst into tears, so you’ll need to comfort them; they may threaten to tell everyone at your straight job or your extended family, partner or children. You need to ensure you have the strength and external support to help you deal with this situation.
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member
For me whatever you do you should not be ashamed off. But for me if i am doing something to earn my living or for my lifestyle i am not a different from any other job oriented person or a business owner. But yes some people won't accept working girls or Punters in society and because of which it's hard for them to live normally.
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Historian
I've never met a man who openly says he's been to a brothel. Maybe I move in the wrong circles. On the same note, I've never seen a woman who openly admits she works in a brothel being scarred for life. Have you been scarred for life Madam Jacqui or Mary Anne?
I can imagine a sex worker; "Hey guys! I don't give a fuck anymore. Now... you gotta pay me."
Farm Boy 2
Legend Member
Bloody hell LeCoqSportif those two have hides like a Rhino , you could not scar them with a Bullwhip .
Not really you make what you want out of your Life xxxx