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I wrote this article for a blog in another space as it is a topic of discussion. I thought I would share this here as the feed back is always awesome in this forum. And ladies are present too. Have a look and tell me how much truth you feel is in this
Sending text messages to women after getting her number.
24/02/14
Many guys get mobile numbers from a girl after meeting a girl. Whether is is a pick up or a working lady. Some are more successful than others. But what happens after that? Most guys think that their mission is accomplished and they can say what ever they want in a text after that and sexy times are ahead. No…………. Most of the time nothing happens. Or it fades out to nothing. But in saying that when a girl gives a guy a phone number, there is potential. But something happens between the potential and sending a text.
Common mistakes in texting happen so commonly and are repeated over and over again. In this article the focus will be on 3 simple tips that will greatly increase the chances of having her respond which will greatly increase the chances of a phone number leading to a date.
1. Length of texts
Make sure the length of your texts matches the length of her texts. A few years ago this did not matter. Texts were usually short on a phone with a numeric keypad and a tiny screen showing one text at a time. And on these screen it’s hard to tell who’s texts were longer anyway. But in the resent day we have smartphones with giant screens where she can see the conversation.
If you send her huge texts where she sends back one liners, there is an imbalance of power. And an impression of desperation will be apparent. So always match the length of your messages with hers. This will encourage her to write a little more in her next text. This is a very common mistake that will make you look needy. And that is very unattractive to a woman.
2. Smiley faces, kisses, and lol
Girls hate this from guys they just met. Girls send these to other girls, and guys send these to girlfriends so why put her into those categories? If you put her into the girlfriend category you are giving her way too much value and will give away your power. If you talk to her like a friend, then you are in for another friend zoning. These can also come across as a nervous nice guy talk. And if you send her really stupid looking smiley faces, she will associate you with that stupid looking face.
Just don’t send these until you do have something going on with her.
3. Don’t give her too much value on first texts.
Don’t go telling her how it was AMAZING meeting her and how GREAT it was. For her it was probably just nice. Girls, especially hot girls get asked for their number a lot. And of the guys that she gives numbers to, you may have other guys to compete with. And don’t be one of the many in the chump basket.
Just say it was cool meeting you and then talk about you. Talk about something amazing you are doing now or later on and don’t invite her. Turn the tables this drives them nuts. For example, tell them you’re at a cool bar and describe it a little as they love descriptions. Then say it was nice chatting and you’ll call them later. She will wonder why she is not invited. This will raise your value and have her appreciate your contact. Most guys text a girl and say how she is the greatest thing in a long text and then go straight to inviting her out. Don’t!!!
There are a thousand aspects to cover on this topic. But these are the three most common mistakes. Have fun with it and do some trial and error. Happy texting.
Sending text messages to women after getting her number.
24/02/14
Many guys get mobile numbers from a girl after meeting a girl. Whether is is a pick up or a working lady. Some are more successful than others. But what happens after that? Most guys think that their mission is accomplished and they can say what ever they want in a text after that and sexy times are ahead. No…………. Most of the time nothing happens. Or it fades out to nothing. But in saying that when a girl gives a guy a phone number, there is potential. But something happens between the potential and sending a text.
Common mistakes in texting happen so commonly and are repeated over and over again. In this article the focus will be on 3 simple tips that will greatly increase the chances of having her respond which will greatly increase the chances of a phone number leading to a date.
1. Length of texts
Make sure the length of your texts matches the length of her texts. A few years ago this did not matter. Texts were usually short on a phone with a numeric keypad and a tiny screen showing one text at a time. And on these screen it’s hard to tell who’s texts were longer anyway. But in the resent day we have smartphones with giant screens where she can see the conversation.
If you send her huge texts where she sends back one liners, there is an imbalance of power. And an impression of desperation will be apparent. So always match the length of your messages with hers. This will encourage her to write a little more in her next text. This is a very common mistake that will make you look needy. And that is very unattractive to a woman.
2. Smiley faces, kisses, and lol
Girls hate this from guys they just met. Girls send these to other girls, and guys send these to girlfriends so why put her into those categories? If you put her into the girlfriend category you are giving her way too much value and will give away your power. If you talk to her like a friend, then you are in for another friend zoning. These can also come across as a nervous nice guy talk. And if you send her really stupid looking smiley faces, she will associate you with that stupid looking face.
Just don’t send these until you do have something going on with her.
3. Don’t give her too much value on first texts.
Don’t go telling her how it was AMAZING meeting her and how GREAT it was. For her it was probably just nice. Girls, especially hot girls get asked for their number a lot. And of the guys that she gives numbers to, you may have other guys to compete with. And don’t be one of the many in the chump basket.
Just say it was cool meeting you and then talk about you. Talk about something amazing you are doing now or later on and don’t invite her. Turn the tables this drives them nuts. For example, tell them you’re at a cool bar and describe it a little as they love descriptions. Then say it was nice chatting and you’ll call them later. She will wonder why she is not invited. This will raise your value and have her appreciate your contact. Most guys text a girl and say how she is the greatest thing in a long text and then go straight to inviting her out. Don’t!!!
There are a thousand aspects to cover on this topic. But these are the three most common mistakes. Have fun with it and do some trial and error. Happy texting.
